I always find myself becoming aggressive and combative here because there are so many socially unrefined, tactless, rude, ego-stroking people here and it makes me feel like I always have to be on the defense.
Unfortunately, a lot of people come here trying to achieve one huge ego-stroke and they get unpleasant if you don’t applaud them for what may genuinely not be a helpful, progressive contribution. There are also a lot of people here who seem to enjoy engaging in back and forth, confrontational-toned discussions as if it’s one of their top hobbies/interests. There’s a side of me that simply does not take anyone’s sh*t so I typically don’t tolerate these unsavory presences tainting my posts and that is what ultimately leads to me becoming aggressive and combative.
I can feel the decline in my vibrant vibe. : / I’m usually so sunshiney, positive, and carefree but when I start spending excessive time here, it’s like I can feel my vibe shifting into something ugly. Can you relate?
What can I do to change this? How can I strengthen my ability to be so carefree and eager to spread good vibes that I don’t allow people like this to alter that core trait?
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I agree, but I think its just the nature of the site. Any forum which promotes a diversity of opinions will also promote conflict. Many people don't like their ideas to be challenged. Also, some people on here intentionally create conflict. They say things they don't really believe in order to get angry reactions.1