I'm genderqueer but go as female since thats what I am biologically. Its really uncomfortable though. What do you guys think?
Should there be an "other" gender option on this site?
What Guys Said 26
Lean against because I think it would be misused.
The basic premise of the site is that males and females may have different perspectives on things. the traditional focus areas (less obvious now since the new topics aren't as clear as the old ones) were always dating, relationships and sex.
I do think it would sometimes be interesting to breakout the views of those who are not cis-hetero-whatever.
But I suspect if we had an 'other' category it would primarily be used by trolls or by people taking some staunch view that their sex-gender shouldn't color how we interpret their answer. Yet the whole point of the site is to categorize answers by sex/gender.
Maybe we could add a flag that would show up beside your age etc when posing indicating non-cis-hetero an then they could describe on their profile?4
With all these variations out there , maybe the only way to do it is with XX XY lol
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This site is based on your sex, not your gender. The only sexes are male and female. I think it's just fine the way it's set up.8
Even if it's good for some users and I have no problems with it but no we literally can't because it basically it'd affect the motto of the site.
"'GirlsAskGuys. com' is a site, whose
purpose is to close the gap between genders by bringing them together to help each other."2
Then it wouldn't be guys ask girls anymore it would be.
guys ask girls ask ( insert whatever you are ) ]
Besides the site is referring to your Sex as in what you are born as and no amount of surgery will change the fact that you are either Male or Female. It's fine the way it is set up and I seriously doubt it will change.2
It wouldn't bother me at all, personally. Perhaps they could add a "decline to state" or something just to keep the non-binary people organized (I know that they don't BELONG grouped together, but it's unlikely that there'd be like nine gender options).2
I'd personally be okay with an "other" option. I wouldn't let your biological sex pigeonhole you either way; in some cases it could be legally necessary to acknowledge it throughout your life. But you should never let that affect your "identity", that's all you.3
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oh hell no. girls and guys here. you were born a girl, so you're female. we don't need 20 bs made up terms...5
i guess it would be good, since i'm confused when i see transgender people, selecting males or females... so i cannot define what they are.1
I totally get how you feel, I identify as hot bread but I have yet to find a site that could let me be myself :/
I'm just kidding. I'm sure there are other websites that provide an option to not state your gender, but this particular website IS called "GirlsAskGuys", so it would be contradictive to have "Other" as an option.0
"Genderqueer?" Where does that fit into the whole LGBTQWERTYUIOP thing? It's like there's a new one every year.2
I don't know, I definitely identify as male and I am comfortable being male. however if I could trade places with a girl, weather I know her in real life or just on here for a day or week or so a gladly would do so.
so not really sure where that puts me0
I support this, but a relationship site so entrenched in gender roles probably isn't going to implement it.2
Lets just stick to biological genders. Not these make-believe societal gender-constructs that people use to define their personality.0
Why don't you make a male account too so you can post under whichever one you feel matches up with the question you want to answer?0
Wow being a genderqueer must be confusing. XD
Well I guess it'd be a good thing for those who are transgender and genderqueer, but what color would it be though? :/0
I don't like the idea. You're either female or male that's it. There is no in between.1
It wouldn't follow anyone whose not male/ female gender0
What Girls Said 20
I think it would be great. Really, one of my major issues with this site is how gender-essentialist it is. As you said, creating an "other" option would serve to make people feel more comfortable and more included, which is certainly a good idea. Plus, the very principle behind such a move is a step forward for the LGBTQ rights movement in general, because public recognition of non-binary identities is highly important. But I don't really think it's a realistic goal on this site. The entire premise of this site is centered around guys vs. girls and the gender binary, so having an "other" gender would go against the very principle behind that.1
I understand why it makes you uncomfortable. However, this entire site is built on gender stereotypes basically, what with the pink and blue and the site name etc. If they added an "other" option, they would have to make various different changes in the layout too. As you can see, the opinions under people's questions are divided into two different sections: guys' answers and girls' answers. They would have to add another section for the "other" answerers, as well as give them their own color etc.
So while I do think that it would be great in a hypothetical sense to add an "other" gender option, I still understand why the site admins/webdesigners/coders might not want to do it because of technical reasons.1
No there shouldn't.
The whole point of this website is to get the opposing views of male and female on an issue - it's a known fact that the two think differently.
At the risk of sounding slightly offensive, regardless if you are confused you are male or female, that doesn't change your opinion on a problem. There has to be a line drawn somewhere and really, the fact you and others are confused, that's a separate issue and it's not really to do with most of the questions asked here.
Keep it simple. I mean, if we get too complex we will end up with ridiculous options like "thinks is a badger" to accommodate everyone. You said yourself you are a girl biologically, you signed up to this site as a girl, so you are female much as you don't want to be.1
like politically yes I think there should be. However I think on this website specificially the harassment would be unreal and I'm kinda glad no queers are signing up and going through that, you know what I mean :/ Like it's different to like Facebook or tumblr or even like OKCupid to a certain extent. You can control who you interact with on those websites, at least to a certain degree. But here you're entering into a community that is already, you know, I mean lets be real, blatantly fucked up.
But I'm just saying that cuz I'd be worried. I agree with you all the same <30
You are a girl yes? Then just go with that. I honestly don't think It need a a whole plethora of sub sections for the gender confused. The GaG community already have a hard enough time warring about two genders, there's no need to add a load more.
Does it really matter that much what colour your anon name is?2
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I think the whole genderqueer thing is pointless.. I don't get it..7
No. That will override and confuse the basic the concept of this site. @girlsaskguys can always add a choice selection list for sexual orientation under gender? :P.
The majority of us are still f and m, your kind is still a very minority.1
If this change helps you to express yourself better, yeah why not. I am all for human rights.2
No because I don't agree with gender. It's a social construct and should be abolished.
Sex > gender0
Like someone said, people would troll the heck out of that option. I think putting it in your profile should be enough.0
I guess it would benefit the transgender people and it might help them while they are in transition so that they can come out smoothly.0
Sure I'd be all for it.0
Nah, it's too much.0
Yes!!! I hate that. I am also genderqueer0
Maybe a trans option, but they definitely don't need to bow to all the newly created tumblr "genders". It's like pokemon, there are new ones every day and it's like people are trying there damnedest to label themselves a "better" option.
"I'm a robot-trans-bi-convert-ero-pop-disney-alpha-gravyboat you ignorant privileged CIS scum!"
HOW ABOUT NOOOOOOOOOOOOOo!1
No I don't.0
I've been wondering when this question would come up.
Most of the answers so far are surprisingly offensive and ignorant.
I see no reason not to support this, though given the nature of the site I'm not sure how easy it would be to integrate more gender options.2
yes i think that would be great.1
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