There's a misconception in public forums like this that we have some sort of obligation to include and invite complete and total strangers into our space online despite how intolerable, dramatic, or exhausting they may be. As if we have a duty to patiently, kindly listen to them, invest energy into them, put effort towards their presence, and give them our valuable, limited time alive. Personally, I don't agree with that concept at all. I think that controlling your online environment is a crucial part in maintaining your spiritual health and managing your sense of peace. When you get on the internet and willingly choose to deal with the public, you have to remember that dealing with the universal public also means exposing yourself to a large amount of various personalities. Some personalities which may genuinely be dominated by a social disorder or mental illness. Or some people who are simply so immature that speaking to them will ultimately feel like speaking with an annoying, bratty kid. Some people who are just outright TOXIC because they're carrying so much anger and pain but they don't know how to operate without making others deal with a problem they didn't cause.
Considering all of this, I think it's very important to set boundaries and decide what you are willing and unwilling to invest your energy and time into online. Every single ounce of our time, energy, and effort matters. If you die at the end of the night (knock on wood!), you don't want to feel like you wasted an hour or so dealing with an unsavory, toxic, pointless conversation/presence on the internet. The information and occurences we allow to drop into our brains matter. I think we should strive not to waste time being unsettled for no legitimate reason. So, do you have a firm strategy on how to control your online environment? If so, what is it? Do you feel it's necessary to have one?
If someone is persistently dramatic, acts entitled to my attention and thoughts, or generally exudes an unproductive toxic presence then I won't give them the time of day. I'm at a point in my life where I do not like wasting my time on unsavory individuals who are making more of a mental withdrawal than a mental deposit.
I am very serious about how I distribute my energy and how much focus I give so I tend to either utilize the block feature or straight up treat the person like air; I know they're there but I don't see or hear them ultimately forgetting about their existence. This is because I just think my goal of being happy at the end of the day and maintaining my inner peace is more of a priority than some stranger's lack of communication skills, desire to debate, or internet tantrum, etc.
I have a very simple rule on GaG - I am here to enjoy myself - I will interact with anyone who I feel will maintain or increase my enjoyment on this site - I will block, walk away from and ignore anyone who decreases my enjoyment of this site in a nanosecond.
Well, I only talk to people here who answer my questions or I find friendly, so I don't start a fight with anyone. I love GAG and I hope to meet more new people here, but I agree that there must be some sort of boundary set in the online environment.
Just don't talk to assholes if bothers you. Duh. I sometimes get the feeling that people are crazy but even if they are it's like testing my own ideas. Always coming through and just declaring I'm right then moving on because don't want to deal with anyone who has the stupidity to challenge me when I'm obviously right 100% of the time sounds dumb. If I decide to not deal with someone I know it's because I would just feel better not dealing with it, it's ok to do that. But getting in the habit of dismissing people and their arguments on the basis that they are abrasive is so dangerous. Being a horrible person doesn't someone wrong and I think it's important to remember that when ignoring assholes. Really I think we "waste" a lot of time online, we could be doing something productive but no. Depends on your meaning of wasted I suppose.
I usually let people dig as a general rule. They like to say bad things? Okay, they can say them to me. We'll either come to an understanding or it gets to the point where someone can flag them. It's pretty effective, but it does take time and energy. But revenge so... XD