I see a lot of people on this site saying they think whoever ask, should pay. I don't necessarily disagree with it, as long as those same people are actually willing to ask other people out as well.
My view is, someone had to let their guard down, approach you and risk the chance of rejection, so on top of that, you expect them to pay for you as well and vice versa, just doesn't make sense to me lol
Well, if I ask someone out - and I have before - I go into it expecting to pay for the date since it's my invitation. That said, I appreciate it when the other party offers to pay their share, and if it's important to him to chip in, by all means.
I know that when I'm asked out, I have a certain way of doing things. If I don't feel like it's going to go anywhere, I have to insist on paying because I likely won't see him again and I don't want him to feel taken advantage of. If I do think we'll see each other again, I'll still offer to pay, but if he says he's got it I'll accept that and say thanks, and that I can get it next time. Taking turns works pretty well.
Well for me personally they are asking so they already decided they like the person at least to an extent. So if that's my situation I pay because I asked them and I'm just showing appreciation for them taking time out of their day to take a chance and go on a date with me. I think it would be rude to ask someone out on a date and then expect them to pay. If I ask for something I'm willing to pay for it.
I agree with your question. We do take lot to ask someone out on date i ask a classmate out to dinner/ movie. i paid for her meal but all she did was talk about some guy that was a hot guy from school. who had all the girls after him. So the time came she ask me out to some dance and sadly i turned her down , I guess cause i was hurt for how the last date went. It wasn't cause of the price of the date but how i felt betrayed ,
If I'm asking someone out then I'm requesting the pleasure of their company for a meal or an event. I have a pretty good idea that I'll enjoy their company. They're not as sure they'll enjoy being with me. So I pay.
No right answer. I do think you should clarify if dating an American in America that you don't believe in paying for both just because you invited because some people can take it as an insult like that you don't care
The guy always pays, but, the woman has to at least offer to. We shouldn't just be expected to pay, like I said, we will, we just want to know you'd be willin to, ya know?
Well women dont ask so this ideology is already sexist... just saying, I was confused as to why women didn't ask me out, EVER, and I thought maybe it was because I was ugly. Then I ran about 4 different polls on here and found that something like 80% of guys have had 1 girl or less ask them out before. These statistics dont lie, women dont ask men out, and it pisses me off because they are perfectly capable of doing so, they just expect men to do it because they dont feel like it. Things like these ideology work in theory, until you realize that women just dont ask men out, they would sooner pass up the opportunity to date a guy, then ask him out. You might claim to be an exception, but I promise you for every exception there are at least 6 or 7 who dont ask, so this ideology is flawed. It should be whoever offers to pay first pays.
uhm id just rather split the bill every time lol. if either of us insists on paying that time, then cool, but i dont believe in that crap. it makes paying seem like a duty more than a gesture of affection/care, which is exactly what it's supposed to be.
I think it's nice to see a guy 'try to pay' - and I also like picking up the check (if I can). So dutch might be the best way to go - but I consider it too friendly of a thing - or comfortable beyond the honeymoon stage. During the honeymoon stage one person pays once, the other the second time and so on... Makes sense to me.
But yeah, whoever asks pays also sounds good. But of course, a woman should ask the guy out too. As you said.