Well although am not terminally ill (thank heavens) I have been very seriously ill recently having suffered a heart attack.. Necessitating me having to undergo major heart surgery.
I have been completely open and honest in telling/mentioning it here, and the response has been absolutely amazing.. I have had so many members here wishing me a speedy recovery, asking how I am doing/feeling, and even pm's just to have a chat with me, now that I am home.
Would I recommend being honest here? .. Personally I would, however we are all individuals with our own unique views and opinions.. So it really is up to the individual to decide for themselves.
It's 100% up to her. In such horrible life situations, the one control a person still retains is who gets to know how she feels. If she finds telling people here would help her feel more supported, then I think it's an idea to consider. Peoples' words can bring some comfort. If she doesn't feel comfortable, she shouldn't have too.