I mean, you could level the same claims against pretty much the entire internet, of course.
This place is what it is. It's what you make it.
If you WANT to pick fights, then, the internet is yr fucking oyster -- nonstop fights 24/7 with people around the world! Go for it girl!
And, in a certain sense, the internet is even MORE conducive to fight-mongering than the rest of the world -- namely, the fact that people are just pixels, and don't really have faces or meaningful physicalities.
This is the same thing that makes "road rage" happen: People are MUCH more likely to explode with anger when they CAN'T SEE THE FACES of the people with whom they're having a conflict. Really -- if we forced people to Skype with everyone they were having a flame-war with, then, a lot of the flame-wars would die down pretty fast.
But... I mean, I dunno about you, but, for me there's a LOT of positive on this site, too.
I came here at Christmastime just to kill some time, because I was stuck in a hospital with some family for 40 hours. But, I'm still here, because of the people and interactions.
I mean, just TODAY on here,
• I've had someone tell me that something I wrote helped strengthen her will against suicide.
• Someone said my advice looks like it might be turning around a relationship that looked doomed to fail.
• Someone "gets" how parents feel about their kids a little more, because of some stuff I wrote.
That's just TODAY, like, last few hours. Pretty cool stuff.
Since I signed up here, I've had a couple of people cite me as an inspiration for some pretty cool creative things they're doing... and one person even said that my advice/empathy/etc actually saved her LIFE.
yep. that happened.
Also, I like being exposed to opinions from people I'd never meet in the real world, because they're from other countries or cultures, or they're much younger or older, or they're just from different walks of life. It's a growth experience for me, too.
For the most part, I don't bother with the stupid fights, because I don't have the time.
Exceptions made for some "witty banter"-type exchanges of SHORT, quick one-liners. Those are fun, and they don't take all fuckin' day. LOL
It's fun, and surprisingly rewarding.
I also have a pretty overwhelming physical presence, so, it's cool to just be a bunch of words for once in mah damn life. Srsly. I like the challenge of having to prove myself without just... standing there, above everyone's heads.