? I have been on this website for two days and it is clear to me that the vast majority of people do not want to hear the truth. I give them a straightforward common sense realistic answer (and others do the same) and the reply is, "but it's more complicated than that. You see his cousin's boyfriend text me Thursday before his uncle's brother emailed his sister. So he couldn't be using me. I'm so confused." That is the response I see all too often in just two days. Too many people here are melodramatic. 25-year-old guys acting like 14-year-olds and same goes for the girls. It's my opinion that people are bullshitting themselves.
I am very pleased by the responses I've gotten. Most people are quite aware of the drama queens and kings, those filled with neurosis and those who want to be agreed with. I thank everyone
Wow 31 responses in less than 24 hours! I imagine that this must be a topic that concerns
If people wanted the truth they would probably find it themselves. It is usually staring them right in the face. Mostly when people ask for advice they want you to validate their delusion.
The truth isn't hard to see, you just have to want to see it more than you want anything else. Almost no one wants that. If you had a magic mirror that showed you the truth about yourself how many people would like what they see?
Well, I don't know that's a good question you are asking. I think it's not like people don't want to hear the truth, it's just that accepting the truth is a lot harder then hearing that. You also need lots of courage to hear the truth.
It's also true that truth hurts and so may be some people are not capable of bearing the pain of truth. It's possible.
However what I have observed is that if a woman asks a question on this site, they want to know the truth.
Of course they don't want to. The truth hurts. But some of them, it eventually sinks in.
And a few people really do want the truth, and have listened to my advice, and had pretty interesting life changes.
The ones that annoy me the most though are the 'he used more lowercase than usual on facebook yesterday does he like me'
and the ones who want to discuss with me for like 2 hours whether some friend might be interested in more, before 2 hours in finally admitting they fucked him a few dozen times, like that wasn't relevant to the situation.
Welcome to the real world, lots of people 'say' they want the 'truth' but they really don't. They'd rather be lied to whether it be by the Government or their friends or family; 1. Does this Dress make me look fat? 2. Is dating more than one man at the same time make me a slut/douchebag? 3. Is voting for Trump a smart move? All of these questions and those similar to them they don't want the truth cuz it would hurt their 'politically correct' feelings. (Might have gone a bit off there)
The TRUTH is people like being lied to, and then... there's me; 1. Yes that dress makes you look fat 2. Yes, it does make you a slut, how'd you feel if one of those guys did that to you? 3. Ha ha ha... wait you serious? Ok NO... it's not a smart move, his own mother said it's a bad idea what more do you want? See, I could give two rat's ass about lying to someone because I prefer telling the truth, no matter how much it hurts cuz you'll thank me later after you had time to reflect on it.
I think a lot of people just want you to tell them what they want to hear instead of actually giving an honest opinion. I always try to be honest and I want people to be honest when they answer my questions
What's the truth? Everyone can and does think he/she is talking the truth. It's the natural tendency of the brain to consider what it identifies itself with, the truth. Claiming you tell the truth doesn't make what you say the truth.
The real truth is some people are good rationalists and talk on the basis of logic with no use of fallacies and can back up their rationalization with evidence and then they present it as a very likely possibility backed up by multiple little facts, and others talk total bullshit and present it as the truth.
Most people's daily reasoning is centered around the simple and common fallacy of appeal to emotions. You probably go beyond that and you find people find you bitter and unempathetic in simple matters. And in sensitive matters that their beliefs are too indoctrinated and ingrained just going beyond this fallacy will open their months to put all kinds of labels on you.
Appeal to emotion may sound simple, but it is a very broad topic and very important to study if you want to understand people's psychology and many questions about it, including the answer to your question.
This is the way it is Behind the Computer Curtain here, @DianeDuffus, and having Gotten as far by Far as I have in Over 2 years, I handle Every problem with Diplomacy with a bit of Nice as Spice and Never Point Fingers. Everyone on here has their own story and Everyone has to be Handled in each and every way a bit Differently. lol.. I have never been Voted Queen of Mean but have been Voted Queen of MHO. Good luck. xx
Because through twisting the truth a bit, people can evade realizing that the root of the issue lies in them. That things went wrong, whether it be issues with their s/o, with their diet, or anything really, because of their own actions.
Hence why they may ask questions with very obvious answers, and accept answers that put individuals other than the op at fault.
Those are the people who only want answers that are what they want to hear. There's a lot of people here who can't handle the honest truth. I always dole out the truth without sugarcoating or skewing my answers to what they want me to say, and I've been blocked for it. But I don't give a shit. As you spend more time on this site, you'll learn that many people only want validation and not much else.
Yes or they'll ask "does he like me, he looks at me all the time but we've never talked" and I'll say that you can't be sure he's looking at you amd you've never spoken so he most likely doesn't like you and then they throw a bitch fit because I gave them an answer they didn't want. It's like why are you asking it as a question if you are soooo sure he likes you lol?
You're very right about a certain kind of people that asks questions on here and they don't want to hear the truth in fact theu just want to hear the words "he/she likes you" That also annoys me a lot so i don't read questions like that anymore :)