I asked a question the other day about how to get guys to take me more seriously. Particularly older guys. Then someone responded to me in several posts by saying a bunch of nonsense that I'm not attracting older guys because I complain a lot and am "boring". Mind you, this is someone who doesn't know anything about me and thinks that she is mature due to the fact that she is in her late 20's. She's also an avid drug user. I'm just wondering, is it even worth responding to such ignorance?
Most Helpful Guy
Not anymore. I will "debate" ideas and opinions and with some users when the topic really means something to me, but as far as those types of arguments you're talking about goes, not anymore. You will clearly be able to see that such people aren't just debating conversationally but showing venom. They insult their own intelligence and show their own lack of mental development, so to continue on with them doesn't do me any justice. When you ignore them or have nothing else to say that's what really bothers them.1
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I may get into heated arguments if the person is apparently biased, and clearly making ignorant statements, but I would not care if they are stubborn to misunderstand/twist what I say and continue their bullshit.
My advice is that if they bother you a lot with nonsense, do not respond to them and block them if necessary. Sometimes I answer nonsense stuff to some questions because the question is nonsense lol. But yours does not sound as such.
To come to your question from the previous day, I think you should show more confidence and independence in your actions when you are with older guys. To my experience, guy I met when I was 17 vs. now are different in that sense. When I was 17 I was meeting guys at around 17 to 22 and they were looking for someone who adore them so much, who need them for everything to make them feel manly. But older guys, like currently my boyfriend is 30, and my ex was 4 years older than me so he was 27-28 when we dated, they are more looking into the fact whether she is independent, whether she figured out what she wants in life, whether she is self-confident, and whether she is resilient to work towards things she wants in life even after failures, and while doing these all, whether she keeps her feminine feature rather than being a butch.
Also, at some point, I agree complaining a lot and about nonsense is a big turn-off for the wiser. Less complaint but on-point complaint and coming with solutions is better. It just shows that you dont sit and demand things because you have vagina, it shows you think about things. Another thing is to have common things to talk about, and this is not specific to only older guys. It is valid for everyone. No matter how self-confident, successful and independent you are, as long as you don't have common things to chat about, there will be no attraction so don't let it disappoint you. Try to improve yourself with different hobbies so you have things to talk about. A friend of mine complaint a lot that all the girls he met while he was looking for the one, they just talk about their last holiday, their next holiday and their bikini shopping and he was so fed up with it.
Anyways, double answer to both questions lol. Dont bother with people.1