I thought when I joined the forum it would be a lot more hardcore but I think there is a soft underbelly on the site. There are the sensitive souls but even the rough truth bombers get upset because nobody takes enough notice of their truth bombings. On the flip side there is genuine community feeling on the site and the friendships you make while maybe not BFFs, it seems real and two way. Often on the site you will see people really letting their guard down in posts or giving opinions and you find yourself going "F*** me, that is a group of friends who have known each other years, 8 beer conversation"
That many people seem to completely skim over the question details or skip them altogether. My last couple of questions got a couple of random answers because they were just answering the general headline. Makes me think those people are just farming for Xper points.
A lot of people seem to assume some people are lying. I know there are people who do lie on the internet, but not everyone does. I once got into an argument with some guy on here because he thinks all women just care about money. Yes there are gold diggers out there for sure, but I am not one of them and there are plenty of other women who aren't. He wouldn't listen though. Also, if I've told people about my life experience they don't believe it. A girl yesterday thought I was lying about my lack of dating experience.
I don't see the point in lying about that stuff on this site or any other site. I'm actually more honest on here than I am in real life about certain things. There are some things I am embarrassed about offline, and I'd rather people didn't find out. On here, it doesn't really matter if they judge me for it because they don't know me. I'm just some anonymous person behind a screen name.
This will probably come across as far more snobby and elitist than it is intended to:
A fairly common lack of understanding that there's a real difference between having an opinion about something and actually knowing something, which ties into the following:
People on GAG are a veritable treasure trove of cliche opinions on feminism (whether good, evil, or neither) which are as embarrassingly superficial as the never ending stream of penis size questions. This holds true even when the opinion is coming from a poster who is otherwise consistently thoughtful, articulate, and interesting. Discussions on Islam and socialism suffer in the same way.
People typing about cliche answers apparently oblivious to the fact that they're giving a cliche answer (and not the pearl of wisdom they presumably think it is). This is most apparent to me when the discussion is about sexual matters.
I feel like when people on GAG discuss politics, they don't care about the politics so much as playing a performative role as a "liberal" "conservative" "Democrat" "Republican" or whichever other political identity they want to have for themselves and perhaps more importantly the identity they want others to see them as having.
That said, as for opinions, seemingly, girls on GAG are much more consistently "liberal" than off of it and guys are seemingly somewhat less consistently "conservative" on GAG than off of it. I'm not sure why.
On a brighter note, there is a wholesale lack of pettiminded bitchiness about grammar (Don't get me wrong; grammar is very, very important but on a social media site, there is no good reason to get bitchy about it).