I'm starting to feel that way. Most of the time, it seems that people answer questions with advice that wasn't really well thought through at all. Or they are answered by people who want to sound smart, but they don't know what the hell they're talking about, nor have they actually had any experience on the topic at all. What's worse is I'll see answers like, "Well, I've never been in that situation before." Or, "I don't have an answer for you, good luck."
One such experience I had was when I asked if it would be good to send a text message to a girl I who flaked on our date and was acting very strange; to ask her if she was having second thoughts about everything, and that I don't do games. I got an overwhelming number of members telling me No, because it would come off as desperate. I ignored the advice and texted her anyway. It worked out for the best because she didn't appreciate how flaky she was looking to me and explained everything.
I don't agree completely, but some users just aren't helpful. That could be because they don't care, just want the points, don't know the situation well enough, or want to troll. It could be a combination of those things, too, of course.
I haven't asked a serious advice question in a long time. However, I have spoken with users here and there about things I'm going through. In those moments, they've been respectful and helpful. You might just need to find a handful of people you like, respect, and trust to discuss things with if the questions you post don't provide enough insight.
Yep. I try to be legit and helpful as possible but if I don't know anything or think someone else can answer it better, I just leave it alone. Then again this website attracts a lot of weirdos with problems or issues that don't know how to handle life themselves. It's no surprise there are a multitude of people here trying to offer guidance that really shouldn't be giving it at all, especially young people that don't know wth their talking about. It's a public space so some things should be taken with a grain of salt.
For most questions, you'll get just as much shit advice as you will get good advice. The thing with advice, though, is to remember that it's not a magic potion. 'Good advice' is not advice that will follow through with guaranteeing that the situation works out as you wish it to. It's advice that considers all the variables at play, and will minimize the potential amount of losses on your part.
So yeah, on average, maybe most girls would see a guy who texts them non-stop, even when they're not replying, as desperate and creepy. You might've simply gotten lucky and this girl was an outlier to the norm.
advice, maybe yes. However I have to say that sometimes the advice has led into some really long ranging, very engaging and revealing conversations PM. I have even made one or two connections with people that I could call friends.
I don't think having experience means you know what you're talking about lol The people in my family who are decides older than me have given me awful advice over and over and wrecked themselves. But there are some really odd answers on here, sure. But in my experience, talking to people who are more open minded by not having a history with whatever, they can give awesome advice.
it is the nature of an advice sight you will have full range of solutions offered - Here would be my approach "Should I do X, Y or Z?" ( I am kinda favouring Y) - People answer ( Some people are making good points about X) - Weigh up people's views on X against your view of Y - Which seems best for me, I will go with that one.