I can understand not wanting to show the guy you are dating or in a relationship with this site if you are the type of person that asks questions specific to your relationship. I can understand why that may be uncomfortable and why it does kind of defeat the purpose of being able to ask people what they thought before going to the person it is about. Sometimes we need a sounding board on things to see if it is just us overreacting or if something is wrong. And we want to keep that private. I totally get that.
However, I think it is great if someone we were dating or in a relationship with could read our opinions, replies and questions to things on this site. I do not know about you but I am clearer with my thoughts and opinions when I have to write them out as opposed to speaking. When I am speaking, you get a lot of dudes, you knows, and whatnots and then I think you should understand my point completely. lol! Of course, that is not how it works in life. I wish I could be as clear as when I have to write a response.
Having to write out my thought, it not only makes me be clear for the purpose of the reader, it helps me think clearer on an issue so it clarifies my thinking and that is an awesome thing and something our partners should have the benefit of knowing. If they could read what we thought on subjects... That is an awesome thing.
I met my boyfriend on a discussion board so I guess I am bias towards sharing the discussion board. In fact, it is my boyfriend that found this site and shared it with me.
But I completely understand in wanting to keep this place private to yourself. It should be a place you go to voice your insecurities so why wouldn't you want to keep it private?
If you are interested in sharing with your S/O and keeping some things private, then maybe you want to think about asking your specific questions anonymously. I am not a fan of anonymous posting and do not think this site should allow it but since they do, why not make your specific comments about your guy or your relationship anonymously? This way, he has the benefit of knowing your thoughts on things more clearly by reading your comments but you can keep specific questions about him private? Just a thought.
I enjoyed thinking about this. Thanks for posting your question. :)