So a girl asked for opinions. She looked quite fat and i told her, i absolutely didn't mean it as an offense, there's nothing wrong being fat and i told her that as a constructive criticisms. Yet me and some other guys got a bunch of downvotes for expressing our opinion. Do you girls would have preferred that i lied, telling her she looked stunning? Smh
Nope, she posted her picture to receive opinions from us all, and obviously didn't agree with the outcome. You didn't do anything wrong.
However, I also provided my opinion telling her the angle wasn't great/flattering, but I didn't see a problem with the image... I also got downvoted? Why? Because people probably thought I was sucking up, which I don't do at all. Just can't win on this site :)
The HDIL topic on this site is basically a place to get compliments because they are attention seekers. There are some genuine question, I'm not denying, but 90% of them are just attempts to seek validation.
If I ever asked a question like that, I'd prefer honest opinions. A lot of people on here, though, ask questions like that or probably a lot more about dealing with the opposite sex where they're not looking for actual advice, but just support for what they already firmly believe to be (or wish and believe that if everyone tells them that, it'll become) the right answer.
No. Don't let women manipulate you into lying. Always be honest, regardless. That's why men lie - they lie because women teach them to. Men would rather have their arms chewed off by a crocodile than see a woman cry & go into an emotional ape s##t mode.
First of all that's the highest level of immaturity from a girl Since I joined I only asked 2 questions about my looks and appreciated every single opinion except of creepy ones. So those girls are just immature. Don't mind them
I think it's stupid to ask a question and expect only positive opinions.. we all are different.. if she doesn't want any negative opinion then she could've just not posted a question.. because there isn't a filter for ''positive'' opinions..
Some people will expect that on here, and it does happen often where users might be a bit nicer than what they're actually thinking. I guess if you do have constructive criticism, they expect it to be worded better than "You look quite fat."
Sure, because guys can take criticism. I told a guy once that's he's average and he should work out and his reply was that he fucks women all the time and he doesn't need my hurtful opinion and that I will die alone because I am a bitch etc. It's not a gender thing. It's just that some people think that if they post a picture of them you are obligated to give positive replies and lie to them in order to make them feel better.
Don't worry about it, you could have said she was gorgeous and someone would have told you to quit perving.
People who love to take offence will look for anything.
People have different definitions of "fat" so maybe that's why some found it little harsh?
There's nothing wrong with being honest, a lot more would get solved if people did it more often
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They obviously came here looking for compliments instead of criticisms. It's so stupid to ask a question like that and only expect to receive compliments. Like if someone is that sensitive, they shouldn't ask a question like that. I personally have always stayed away from those questions because I'm too nice and I don't like to hurt people's feelings.
I think what happens more often than not is they probably expect something else and when they get 5 or 10 opinions that aren't great, they can get hurt. I don't think they are lashing at you per se as just the whole thing. I am kinda on the fence on this, if I say anything negative, I try to give it the softest landing possible.
Depends on what type of criticisms is it. I mean is it constructive criticism or is it destructive criticism.
Constructive criticism is always better because in that along with criticism the mistakes of that person is also pointed out and also how the mistakes can be corrected but destructive criticism will always destroy the confidence of the other person, can make them insecure about themselves and that never does any good.
I think most people, most women can take constructive criticisms very well but you can't really expect anyone to take destructive criticism well.
Smh, same with me man. i told a girl here that you have a fat belly and she started hating me and using offensive words against me but still i said that i didn't mean to demotivate you, i was just telling the truth, and if you want a less fat belly then i can help you, but she kept hating me, lol