seriously. when i was 13 years old, i barely paid attention to the opposite sex. and as i got older, the idea of having sex with someone wasn't even a consideration. it's amazing how much the world has changed. does it ever shock anyone else?
Yes, it does. But in a way it doesn't, based on the way our society has been becoming as of the last several years. Because parents don't keep enough tabs on their kids' internet activity, they are vulnerable to see things that they shouldn't see yet (if ever). If parents weren't familiar with computers (and smartphones) enough, then they shouldn't have gotten one in the first place instead of giving one to their kids "automatically" and not taking the time to discuss them (computers) with them (kids)
On GAG, it does not shock me at all. I was very curious about and anxious to have sex in my early teens. However, there are some questions I just won't answer. A 15yo asking for advice on how to give blowjobs… I'm all for being sex positive, but I just can't bring myself to answer that. It's not as if it doesn't get asked a dozen times a day anyway, and there are plenty of other websites that discuss it. Then again, it's easy to make an account and lie about your age, so I'm sure I have already answered a sexual post for someone that young or younger.
No, it doesn't, but it does immediately invalidate that question in terms of whether or not I'd provide an answer. I remember being 13 very differently -- being 11 for that matter. I remember being constantly erect, constantly thinking about sex, and what not. And the thing is, I had no outlet or way to get my questions answered. I remember being being 11 and in sixth grade and sneaking a sex book to the top floor of the library because I was so consumed with sex that I was worried I was a sexual predator. I was so shocked when the book said that my feelings were normal, but I still didn't believe it. I mean, how can it be normal if no one talks about this (including my friends)?
But I also remember understanding that it was hormonal because you'd see a random girl at school and think "God damn, Julie's thighs are so hot!" but the next day, I wouldn't think twice about her. Given that it was so uneven, I knew that the feelings were driven by biological forces.
I know it's a tl;dr response, but I'm glad that 13 year olds have an outlet for their questions so that they won't have to wonder what's wrong with them. Come to think of it... maybe I shouldn't avoid their questions...
I had 1-2 freshman that were pregnant when I was in HS, my senior year. I graduated in 2011, and now all i can say is that its a different generation. At least they're asking for advice and not going out and getting themselves preggers...
Its the same. And I started puberty early, non of that crossed my mind, nor was it my focus. But its normal even before 10, this was why marriageable age was at 13 at one point in history. Then 16 and now legally 18, but 16 with parental consent. Thankfully I didn't have friends who saw the need for that, and were only thinking about our futures. But its not a shock. The moment I entered Kindergarden, they were talking about sex back then too.
When I was 13 i think i wanted a boyfriend but had no idea how to go about doing it and thought all boys weren't good enough to be my boyfriend. And I didn't think about sex. I knew what it was but thought it was disgusting. And I remember this kid who had a crush on me brought condoms to school once... and I didn't know what he was talking about
I'm only 15 and it still surprises me, even though sometimes I'm the one asking those questions. In this day and age, people are able to get a lot of exposure to nudity and pornography. It is very easy to find something that "only adults should see." When I was 8, I watched porn for the first time, because I had access to a computer when nobody else was around. If you're a bored teenager and you own a private laptop/computer, it is very likely that you'll find yourself wandering into chat rooms full of grown men. I did. I regret it, but I still enjoyed doing it, and I've learned a lot of things that nobody my age should know.
If the thoughts of a 13 year old asking sexual questions surprises you, think back to the time period when it was normal for people to get married during puberty. Since the life expectancy was so short, developing teenagers were forced to marry adults and give birth soon after. It was normal, then, for children to be sexually active. Perhaps we're slowly going back to our old ways of life.