I've been a user on this site for many years and I've noticed some all too common themes shared among the men who frequent this site. Some stuff I've seen is downright disturbing and I'll go so far as to say it's the kind of thinking that leads to sociopathic behavior.
I've listed some common themes that I've seen not just once, but multiple times:
I've noticed that many men on here have the viewpoint that men are better than women and women are lesser beings than men... that the idea of a being a gentlman is a recipe for getting stepped on and they would rather jump off a cliff than be a gentleman/pay for a date.
And if she expects the guy to pay, she's an evil whore/gold digger.
many guys on here have a mantra that women aren't worth the effort, saying things like, "I never approach women. If she likes me, she has to do that." Or saying that they've given up on women and want to be asexual. Or saying that they straight up hate women and want nothing to do with them and don't miss an opportunity to be nasty or "purposefully let the door slam in her face."
Another one I've heard a lot is, "I started being a huge asshole and treat women like shit because that's what they want."
I've never met a guy like this in real life. Have any of you women on here met a guy like that?
I've never been in such a community where women recieve so much hate and I almost want to stop using this site.
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I don't think it's just men on this site. I've talked with many men in my circle of friends and I'd say about 80% of them are fed up with what they perceive as entitlement among women.
Yes, they pay for dates and pretend to be a gentleman, yet they secretly hate the girl for accepting their offer but will never let her know because they want sex or a girlfriend. I've seen this a lot personally.
On the internet, however, you're anonymous and you can speak your mind. That's why you are seeing such huge differences in opinion. It's not just GAG, just search for any article that has to do with paying for a date and you will see the response of men.
That's why I'm almost certain you have met a guy like that, probably many guys, you just don't know. They just kept quiet and kept it to themselves.
Personally, I'm not bitter or jaded towards women at all. Women have always treated me kindly, and they were always the one to approach me and pay for the date.3