ok, I've been here on GAG for about 4 days now. I find it kind of odd that a lot of people won't advise the under 18 people like me (about certain topics)
but yet I'm 17 and I've been giving advise to tons of 18-40 year olds about stuff like serious relationships, marrage, dating, etc.. and they eat it up!? I mean I've already had like 10 messages from people saying that they followed my advice and everything worked out better than they hoped?!
what is with this?
i understand why people don't want to advize about the sexual topics, I just wonder why a lot of these same people are all taking the advice of a 17yr old!? and why am I managing to be able to give advice that they listen to?
I occasionally will give advice without even looking at the age, but sometimes after I read the question it makes me glance up at the age and I decide not to lol.
I don't know.. I don't think its really "strange" but I personally feel uncomfortable telling a teenager how to sexually please their partner lol. I know its happening anyway and I wasn't innocent a few years ago by far, but its just awkward.
A lot like what timetowaste said, its like indirectly stepping on toes of the parents. Though there are many mature teens its hard to tell the difference based on a question in text on a site like this you know?
Glade you can help people though with your advice(:
ahahahah because we don't want to give you ideas about certain things. It's just the way it goes. when these people were your age they were treated the same way. It's not that we don't recognize that some people who are still younger than us aren't mature. Some people that are around your age or younger may or can be more mature than some of their peers.
But that isn't always the case. it's all about them being impressionable or giving ideas that they shouldn't have in the first place. It feels weird too to give someone who is underage advice or techniques about sex and such.
If there is advice given from mi then I try to keep it clean and not go into much detail and always the be safe thing because I know that people under 18 have sex and do things that they aren't suppose to do.
it just doesn't seem like something right for a person who is older to do I suppose. doesn't really have anything to do with the person themselves just the point of life that they are at. I believe that you are never too young to experience the realities of life but sometimes you want to protect something that seems fragile...Even if they are not. =P
People don't feel comfortable giving advice to minors about certain things. Not the kind of advice they'd give to someone older atleast. As a parent, I wouldn't really feel comfortable with random people advising my kid on what to do when it might clash with what I'm trying to morally teach them. I feel like I'm indirectly stepping on parents toes when I give advice, for example, about sexual things to minors, other than the typical "Don't do it, and use protection if you do happen to do it anyway"
First of all, no one can stop you giving advice. What you do is your decision.
The problem with sex is so many kids think they're ready for it when they're really not. It's hard to encourage a bad decision.
Lastly, it's much easier to give advice than to follow it. You can give decent advice repeating what everyone else has said. But following it is harder. If we tell you all about sex and then say, "But make sure you're really ready," you're likely to ignore the last part and just focus on the sex advice, because you want it so badly.
I guess I don't answer as many questions from teenagers. I'm not intentionally discriminating against them, it's the questions themselves. A lot of times, I read them and think, This is such an obvious question. When you're a teenager, you don't have as much experience. When you get older--even by just a little bit--you start to make sense of things. And then the questions from teens become annoying, because *you* know that they'll figure it out in time, but to *them*, they're pressing questions. Those are the ones I ignore.
As for taking advice from teenagers, I'm surprised so many people listen to you, honestly. If it makes you feel any better, I wouldn't ;)
A lot of people use the filter to only see 18 and up users. When it comes to questions like teen sexuality, it makes people a little queasy to leave advice. We can either give impractical advice of 'wait to have sex when you're an adult/married/whatever' which we all know won't happen, or we can the same advice that we would give to someone 18+ thus encouraging the higher statistics of teen pregnancy. To top it off, just thinking about sexual questions in regards to minors almost feel pedo-ish...Yeah uncomfortable. There's many obnoxious teen girls that talk about their crushes, how no one will ever love them, and other topics in a unintelligent manner (there's definitely adults that do this too- I've seen them), but as an age group I'd say teens are the worst. Unfortunately that filter also blocks out the intelligent, mature teen users so you end up getting shafted. Sorry.
If it helps any, I obviously don't use that filter! :D
I'll be honest: folks under 18 I regard as so immature, so deficient intellectually, emotionally, and spiritually, that any advice I might give them would be wasted, misunderstood, misapplied, or outright ignored.
As for you giving advice to older people, well I wouldn't assume that it's unwarranted or unhelpful, but I do know that folks in that 16-28 age range tend to think they know just about everything. It's textbook narcissism.