I recently published my second Shyness and Confidence article. I reference a book called The Introvert Advantage: How to Thrive in an Extrovert World. In one chapter, the author mentions her having interviewed fifty people for the book. Forty-nine of them said they felt "reproached and maligned" for being introverted. She mentions how three college dictionaries and a thesaurus all define shyness in a very negative way.
She also mentions earlier on that theoretical differences between psychologist Sigmund Freud, who was very influential in the development of modern psychology (for those who don't know who he was), and his colleagues caused him to write extensively that introversion is a negative thing.
So my question is how do you feel about your being introverted? How do your friends and family view it?
And if you have not read either of my two articles on the matter, please do... link and link
I think there is a difference between introverts and people who are shy... You're drawing a parallel but I'd say introverts are just people that internalize their thoughts, enjoy alone time, thinking, and self reflection. That doesn't mean they are afraid to socialize or that they are even bad at it. I might even fit into that category as appose to extroverts who need other people around to feel happy, and feed on conversation with others. Shy people tend to have a social anxiety about them. There's not so much reserved as they are afraid/nervous. There's a difference.
It's a positive thing for me. I like myself and I don't really mind if other people have a problem with it. It's only hard when I have extroverted friends who don't understand why I would rather stay home on the weekend or I don't feel like yakking with them after a long day. I've ended up distancing myself from them because they kept pushing me.
I think you are getting being shy and being introverted confused. They are not the same thing. I am both actually which means I have basically no social life and I like it that way, but most people are one or the other or none at all.
Negatively. Personally, I don't think there's anything wrong with being shy and introverted since everyone is different, but I guess I've internalized a lot of negative feelings from living in a society where it's looked down on to be this way. I had a friend who said shy people annoyed her, because she didn't understand why they had to be that way.
I'm introverted and as long as I can have my space while not having people bother me so much, then I'm not bothered by any connotations placed on me. If anything, I can act however I like and people will either expect it or be surprised by it. Either way doesn't matter to me because like I said- I'm selfish and just want to act how I want to.
I used to feel so different and un-wanted for being quiet and introverted. Now I've become much more comfortable saying as I please which causes me to answer straight up when people ask why I don't talk much. I'm not rude to them (mostly), but it's more of a Calvin Coolidge approach to things.