This is my friend.
She's in an emotionally and mentally abusive relationship.
He makes her miserable. He is cheating on her and tells her that he finds other girls attractive. Tells her he's crushing on other girls. He also tells her she's too ugly and fat and no one else will ever want her.
She has just come to terms with the fact that he's an awful boyfriend. She wants to leave him but he has convinced her she's too ugly to ever be with someone else.
She's so beaten down and miserable. I just don't know what to say to her to convince her she'd be accepted by the male population.
Anything I can tell her to get her to take that final step and get away from him?
I might show her this page...if the comments aren't too mean :p
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Guess I have to be "that" guy, but I don't imagine boosting someone's ego with forced compliments from strangers is going to do anything other than put a band-aid on a gaping wound. Besides, you laid out that she has emotional/internal issues...so what is complimenting her on her looks going to do except to say that she might be eye candy to someone?
She needs to realize that this guy is a sh*thead and enjoys being manipulative. He doesn't like the feeling that she CAN be someone else if she so chooses and finds the strength to leave him. She needs to realize that she has help from friends, but she also needs to put in intense effort to believe HERSELF about what her own worth is or could be. You can give her insight and support, but she is the one to do the changes within herself as no one else could possibly do it for her.
Rally around her and give her the low-down truth on what this guy is, what he is doing to her, and that he is not at all healthy for her. She is, I assume, as young as you so there is no time like the present to quit wasting her youth attached to some chump. She needs to push herself for progress in shedding this attitude she has about herself, and she needs you and any other close friends who know her best to keep her going.4