Are you brutally honest?
Are you tactfully honest?
Do you just try to please the QA to get BA?
Remember, voting is anonymous, so be honest!
- I am brutally honest (I don't hold back)41% (13)58% (28)51% (41)Vote
- I am tactfully honest (I'm nice about it)56% (18)33% (16)42% (34)Vote
- I am a suck up to get best answer0% (0)2% (1)1% (1)Vote
- Other (explain)3% (1)7% (3)6% (4)Vote
Most Helpful Guy
I am (slightly) tactfully honest. I believe that being brutally honest causes offense and doesn't get your point across because your message will be destroyed in the emotional fire that you lit in the asker of the question.
To use an analogy to describe what I mean,
you shouldn't "sugar coat" your words,
instead, you should add a picnh of sugar on your words to make them palatable.
If your words are bitter, they won't be ingested by the person, thus you're wasting your time.
This happens a lot with questions about the asker either wanting to cheat, or he/she already cheated and not knowing what to do.
Being on this site for over 3 years, every time this type of question comes up, about half of the answers are a offensive, verbal explosion of words at the asker of the question (and most of these answerers don't even answer the question!).
Making the person feel awful about asking an honest question isn't giving advice, that is using someone as a verbal punching bag.3