You may have seen several questions like this on GAG before - a guy (or girl) has some defect which to them is the absolute worst possible thing in the world. They think it is impossible for anyone to fancy them with this defect, and they angrily ask the world at large, "What can I do?" and it's immediately followed up with a dismissal of virtually everything they could do. "Don't tell me to see a counsellor. Don't tell me to be confident. Don't tell me to go to the gym." etc.. etc.. etc..
Well this week, professional therapist Dan Savage gets a letter from a guy who lost a couple of fingers in an accident. He typifies many of the same guys on GAG, who have a problem, and are angry about it. But don't want to be told that the problem is NOT as big a deal as they are making it out to be.
Dans advice? It's just as harsh as it needs to be, and reflects much of the same advice given on GAG to these people.
"Here's something you can do: Get the f*** over yourself."
What do you think? Is Dan being a douche bag to a poor soul? Or do these guys need an occasional slap of harsh truth?
- Too harsh! Dan has no idea what the guy is going through!Vote A
- Not harsh enough! These whiners need a firm slap and a kick in the pants!Vote B
Most Helpful Girl
there isn't anything that can really be done about them. you can be nice,you can yell-everything will just go back to ''woe is me''. the difference is,when you're nice,you're lying,wasting time,and giving them the message that when they don't want to fix their problems-everyone should just ''comfort'' them. there is no winning,they have to make the decision for themselves.1