I tend to roll my eyes at the "be yourself, love will find you" answer that tends to come up every now and then. It's not because I think it's untrue or anything. I just think it's missing a few steps/ doesn't paint the whole picture.
What about you?
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Follow your passion, even if your passion is making art/songs/stories that no one will buy. this is a dangerous thing to tell people (kids especially), and it's not kind. They then end up thinking that they'll be just fine living in a crappy apartment with nothing but Ramen to eat thanks to the fact they work at McDonalds...all because they were told to go chase the butterflies. That idea goes along with the "just be yourself" advice too. You're right. They are prevalent because it's easy advice to give, but it's cheap and false.
“The real trouble is that 'kindness' is a quality fatally easy to attribute to ourselves on quite inadequate grounds. Everyone feels benevolent if nothing happens to be annoying him at the moment. Thus a man easily comes to console himself for all his other vices by a conviction that 'his heart's in the right place' and 'he wouldn't hurt a fly,' though in fact he has never made the slightest sacrifice for a fellow creature. We think we are kind when we are only happy: it is not so easy, on the same grounds, to imagine oneself temperate, chaste, or humble.”