When someone gives you their measurements and asks if they need to lose weight, do you tell them the truth, or do you go with the copout 'every body is different' and 'it only matters if you feel good about yourself, blah blah" line? Just for example..
I tell it like it really is. However, the truth can be told in a lot of different ways. I focus my answers not so much on telling the truth as on saying what people (sometimes not just the QA) need to hear. Sometimes that means telling them what they want to hear, so they don't doubt themselves too much and remember what exactly it is that they want in the first place, and sometimes it means telling them what they don't want to hear, so they stop trying to hold on to how they wish things would work and start focusing on how they really work.
So basically my answers carry elements of both realism as well as idealism.
I tell the truth but try to phrase it in a way to be the least aggressive and rude. But if they're just not making an attempt to understand what I said then my nice attempts turn into, "Listen, Stupid, this is how it is" type attempts.
Oh wow! Just tonight my friend asked me if I thought she lost weight (she is already very very slim) And so I told her the truth, which was that she did lose weight, and that she looks very thin. I try to always tell the truth and I believe the truth is the best way to go. However, in select cases (for example when dealing with children) you might be allowed to dance around the truth a little... But not too much!
Most people seem like they play politics because their minds align with the popular opinion. Mostly because they are not able to think for themselves. Sometimes just because popular opinion is the wise one.
But I also believe in being sensitive to people's feelings when telling the truth. It's all in the how you word things.
If people want honest opinions, I would give honest opinions, but I would say it in a way that I think is constructive and won't hurt their feelings. It has nothing to do with being popular or not, it has everything to do with "treat others the way you want to be treated".
I'd say it's a little bit of both. I'm not here to please anyone nor am I here to piss hordes of people off. If any of my opinions do though then there's nothing I can do about it. I'm not intentionally trying to hurt anyone but I also won't stifle what I have to say. It just so happens that I have a lot of accepting opinions so they tend not to piss anyone off lol
I tell it like it is, and am generally prepared to explain to them why it is like that.
The exception to this is political questions, where I'll now just tell it like it is, and then leave it at that - there are simply too many completely irrational right-wing arseholes on this site, who have no idea what they're talking about, and no interest in learning - they'd rather just keep spamming links to clips from Fox News and the like, months after you've lost interest in the discussion.
I tell it like it is which had my last account deleted. and been warned already.. There are way too many sensitive weak minded people on here that cannot handle constructive criticism. Sad world of poor me's. lol
I don't try to be "popular" and I don't go for the "copout" or tell it like it is. I give my own personal opinion and whether they or agree or disagree is up to them.
As for your example, if said person (let's assume it's a girl) told me her measurements and I liked those measurements then I would tell her that. But at the end of the day it's their decision and I'm just giving my own personal opinions, regardless of how popular or unpopular it is.