Thank you for this article! Its so sweet of you to write this article to help us understand our problem. I'm 20 and never had a boyfriend but I've been recently told by different people that there actually WERE guys who are interested but just are too scared or intimidated by me. All these while my low self esteem and confidence had been degrading to my self worth and I realize I should just stop thinking negatively about myself. One major problem contributing to my situation is my shyness to look and make eye contact with an attractive guy passing by or anywhere in sight. I really have to change that now. Thank you Jarett =)
This is so true, even as an almost 21 year old I still feel like girls will just reject me and I'll get laughed at. Its just hard for me to have the confidence, especially not being the best looking guy. I've only asked out 2 girls and only one went on date with me, so I guess I just feel to that if those girls reject me, most of them wil ,but hopefully there will be someone out there. I just hope I can be more outgoing
It is so encouraging to hear a guys perspective on this! I am in my early twenties and never had a boy friend. I mean, I have been out on dates here and there, but never anything serious. it is just great to hear that guys are not scared that a girl has never had a boy friend, even if she is in her twenties. thanks for the encouragement!
Good points, but I stopped reading when you were 18 and had a 15 year old girlfriend... I understand that its your past and you are most likely a good person, but as an eighteen year old myself It feels wrong that people are reading this and thinking it is ok.
Hey dude, I am the exact same way. I never asked a girl out in school, never went to any dances, etc. I am in my mid 20s now, and have still never had a girl friend. I just can't ask. I admit, I lack the self-confidence.
But I like this article, it lets girls know that there are some guys out there, like me, who just can't and won't ask, no matter how much one likes a girl.
Yeah, many people accustom their relationship status with age which is completely idiotic. Some girls treat having a boyfriend as a fashion accessory and same with guys...they feel like they are more of a "guy"...teenagers. If you are desperate for a relationship...you become that much unattractive. Relationships should come and go as they feel right and not because you are of a certain age or some other social stigma. Nothing is as satisfying as a meaningful relationship.
I'am 24 and I never had one.Did I break the age record here? :)) I honestly believe I'll never be that lucky to have someone being in love with me. I wanna believe in what you wrote here...but the looks really do matter. no guy wants to have an ugly gf. and if not ...if I got a chance to get a guy interested in me..he would wave me a good-bye just the second I'll tell him I hate sex. so.. yeah.. some of us are made to be single and lonely for ever. so I am learning to live my life alone.
LOL we all know its easier being a female and getting a date faster than it is, being a male and getting a date. Anyone who says no has been living under a rock. All women/girls have to do is look cute/decent and guys approach. Guys on the other hand need to be tall, good looking, muscular, funny etc to even have a woman look at him.
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I'm a senior and I've been feeling anxious of having a boyfriend. It's not that I don't want one but it's more of I'm afraid of having more than one boyfriend in my lifetime. I'm the type of person that wants to save myself up for that one man that will stay by my side for as long as we live. I guess I'm just afraid that I'll have too many boyfriends that it would eventually make me give up on love...
I'm not really pretty nor do I have a feminine voice... I'm also extremely shy and inexperienced not only with boy-girl relationships but also with friendships...
... I guess my insecurity plays a part in my anxiety too.
I do pray that I'll find that man who can put up with me and make me feel wanted and loved. I pray that he could bring me out of my shell and push through my walls and just be there for each other as we face daily life struggles.
I'm 51. Never had a boyfriend. I came close. Then I learned he was married. I had a crush on a young man almost half my age. No. He was less than interested. There are songs about older women. Maggie Mae, by Rod Stewart Diana, by Paul Anka Desiree, by Neil Diamond
And those are just the ones I remember without Googling
Thank you so much for writing this. I've been feeling really horrible about being 18 and never having a boyfriend. When you're watching all of your friends happy in coupledom it can be a living hell and a constant reminder that you are out of the loop. You've gave me hope that one day I probably will find someone. I needed that!
I'm 21 & never had a boyfriend. Everytime I have a crush on guy they end up not being interested in me, but when they are guys who are interested in me they tend to be the ones that don't fit my type. Plus I don't see how I intimidate a guy.
You don't know how helpful this is. I'm 16, and I've never had a bf. this article made me feel a lot better. I don't always admit how much it bothers me. But I guess it's all abotu waiting for the right one. thank you for writing this. :)
This is so true. since my first boyfriend who I asked out dumped me, I hade never had the courage to do it again.
I went in to seconder school I was asked out and I flirted. But I never had the courage to ask them out. So I never really went out with a boy I really liked. When ever I was about to, I ether chickened out or hoped they would ask me first.
But the other night I just got so tired that I poped the question. he said yes and we have are first date on wensday!
I'm actually quite confident in my self and in my looks. I'm only 17 and I have been on my fair share of dates, I've never had a boyfriend, but I'm not sad about it.
Im 16 and never had a boyfriend either! and I felt like this article really helped me out! except that the guy I had a crush on graduated last year... and I totally should have asked him out... but I was kinda shy... and now I hardly ever see him.... since I'm still a junior in high school! its too late for me! but at least now I know!! and you know I was pretty sure he was into me too... but just shy!!
thank you, it's Valentine's day and I'm a freshman in high school, and I see so many people in my huge high school with their girl friends and boyfriends and feel so jealous. I don't thing I'm nowhere near getting a boyfriend, but I know I am young. but knowing that I shouldn't think I am ugly helps a lot. I really don t like Valentine's day tho haah
Thank you so much for this article. I'm 16, and during the past few years, the fact that I've never had a boyfriend has really haunted me. I even begun to wonder if something is wrong with me, just like you said. I've always had self-esteem issues, and that fact just always made it worse for me. But reading this article had opened my eyes a little and has made me realize that I'm not the only one, and I just have to be patient & come out of my shell. Thank you so much! :]]
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Thank you for this article! Its so sweet of you to write this article to help us understand our problem. I'm 20 and never had a boyfriend but I've been recently told by different people that there actually WERE guys who are interested but just are too scared or intimidated by me. All these while my low self esteem and confidence had been degrading to my self worth and I realize I should just stop thinking negatively about myself. One major problem contributing to my situation is my shyness to look and make eye contact with an attractive guy passing by or anywhere in sight. I really have to change that now. Thank you Jarett =)
This is so true, even as an almost 21 year old I still feel like girls will just reject me and I'll get laughed at. Its just hard for me to have the confidence, especially not being the best looking guy. I've only asked out 2 girls and only one went on date with me, so I guess I just feel to that if those girls reject me, most of them wil ,but hopefully there will be someone out there. I just hope I can be more outgoing
It is so encouraging to hear a guys perspective on this! I am in my early twenties and never had a boy friend. I mean, I have been out on dates here and there, but never anything serious. it is just great to hear that guys are not scared that a girl has never had a boy friend, even if she is in her twenties. thanks for the encouragement!
Good points, but I stopped reading when you were 18 and had a 15 year old girlfriend... I understand that its your past and you are most likely a good person, but as an eighteen year old myself It feels wrong that people are reading this and thinking it is ok.
Hey dude, I am the exact same way. I never asked a girl out in school, never went to any dances, etc. I am in my mid 20s now, and have still never had a girl friend. I just can't ask. I admit, I lack the self-confidence.
But I like this article, it lets girls know that there are some guys out there, like me, who just can't and won't ask, no matter how much one likes a girl.
Yeah, many people accustom their relationship status with age which is completely idiotic. Some girls treat having a boyfriend as a fashion accessory and same with guys...they feel like they are more of a "guy"...teenagers. If you are desperate for a relationship...you become that much unattractive. Relationships should come and go as they feel right and not because you are of a certain age or some other social stigma. Nothing is as satisfying as a meaningful relationship.
I'am 24 and I never had one.Did I break the age record here? :)) I honestly believe I'll never be that lucky to have someone being in love with me. I wanna believe in what you wrote here...but the looks really do matter. no guy wants to have an ugly gf. and if not ...if I got a chance to get a guy interested in me..he would wave me a good-bye just the second I'll tell him I hate sex. so.. yeah.. some of us are made to be single and lonely for ever. so I am learning to live my life alone.
LOL we all know its easier being a female and getting a date faster than it is, being a male and getting a date. Anyone who says no has been living under a rock. All women/girls have to do is look cute/decent and guys approach. Guys on the other hand need to be tall, good looking, muscular, funny etc to even have a woman look at him.
I'm a senior and I've been feeling anxious of having a boyfriend. It's not that I don't want one but it's more of I'm afraid of having more than one boyfriend in my lifetime. I'm the type of person that wants to save myself up for that one man that will stay by my side for as long as we live. I guess I'm just afraid that I'll have too many boyfriends that it would eventually make me give up on love...
I'm not really pretty nor do I have a feminine voice... I'm also extremely shy and inexperienced not only with boy-girl relationships but also with friendships...
... I guess my insecurity plays a part in my anxiety too.
I do pray that I'll find that man who can put up with me and make me feel wanted and loved. I pray that he could bring me out of my shell and push through my walls and just be there for each other as we face daily life struggles.
I'm 51. Never had a boyfriend. I came close. Then I learned he was married. I had a crush on a young man almost half my age. No. He was less than interested.
There are songs about older women.
Maggie Mae, by Rod Stewart
Diana, by Paul Anka
Desiree, by Neil Diamond
And those are just the ones I remember without Googling
This is them:
LOL, that is actually true for me
Thank you so much for writing this. I've been feeling really horrible about being 18 and never having a boyfriend. When you're watching all of your friends happy in coupledom it can be a living hell and a constant reminder that you are out of the loop. You've gave me hope that one day I probably will find someone. I needed that!
I'm 21 & never had a boyfriend. Everytime I have a crush on guy they end up not being interested in me, but when they are guys who are interested in me they tend to be the ones that don't fit my type. Plus I don't see how I intimidate a guy.
You don't know how helpful this is. I'm 16, and I've never had a bf. this article made me feel a lot better. I don't always admit how much it bothers me. But I guess it's all abotu waiting for the right one. thank you for writing this. :)
This is so true. since my first boyfriend who I asked out dumped me, I hade never had the courage to do it again.
I went in to seconder school I was asked out and I flirted. But I never had the courage to ask them out. So I never really went out with a boy I really liked. When ever I was about to, I ether chickened out or hoped they would ask me first.
But the other night I just got so tired that I poped the question. he said yes and we have are first date on wensday!
I'm actually quite confident in my self and in my looks. I'm only 17 and I have been on my fair share of dates, I've never had a boyfriend, but I'm not sad about it.
:) this sound pretty good .;!
i totally agree with you . I am 15 and I am still single
but boys do ask me out but I don't think I am ready to have a boyfriend yet
The problem is that I want to concentrate in school and make it all the way to college
and I don't want nothing to go wrong .
but I don't find nothing wrong being single .;!
there's always someone out there for everyone.
Im 16 and never had a boyfriend either! and I felt like this article really helped me out! except that the guy I had a crush on graduated last year... and I totally should have asked him out... but I was kinda shy... and now I hardly ever see him.... since I'm still a junior in high school! its too late for me! but at least now I know!! and you know I was pretty sure he was into me too... but just shy!!
thank you, it's Valentine's day and I'm a freshman in high school, and I see so many people in my huge high school with their girl friends and boyfriends and feel so jealous. I don't thing I'm nowhere near getting a boyfriend, but I know I am young. but knowing that I shouldn't think I am ugly helps a lot. I really don t like Valentine's day tho haah
Thank you so much for this article. I'm 16, and during the past few years, the fact that I've never had a boyfriend has really haunted me. I even begun to wonder if something is wrong with me, just like you said. I've always had self-esteem issues, and that fact just always made it worse for me. But reading this article had opened my eyes a little and has made me realize that I'm not the only one, and I just have to be patient & come out of my shell. Thank you so much! :]]