Jesus this video is a life saver.
Perfect infographic explaining point by point why it is useless to feel jealous or irritated about your guy watching other women.
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I usually never feel jealous when my husband looks at other women, mostly if he makes me feel secure. Other than that, I know as a fact that as soon as they start talking (usually doesn't happen unless he's approached, and he's not mean about it) it just makes me look even better than before. I take pride that I look decent, but I have more personality than most people I know, so as soon as my husband starts blabbing about his care (usually the first thing any girl mentions when they want to try and steal him) I sit back and watch it play out like a movie lol
Wait... what?
At 4:16, he says, "Not comparing you to them." but at 1:58 he specifically says, "Well, yes he may very well find them more attractive than his woman."
That's comparing. Everyone compares stuff. It's human nature to compare. Otherwise you would have no frame of reference of what is better or worse than another thing.
I respect that the guy is trying to send out a positive message, but unsound logic, is unsound logic.
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There's a difference between a casual look and staring. One is disrespectful. With my boyfriends, I haven't ever looked at another guy, not because they weren't unattractive. But because I had no inclination to. I know there are guys that are that way as well.
Of course he will find someone more attractive. That's common sense.
I also don't like how he makes it seem that men are simple-minded: out of sight, out of mind. I think that's pretty messed up.
"Men are programmed by nature to want variety" and then goes off to list a biblical story...*shakes head*. Not all men are like that.
And there are undoubtedly some men who compare their women to the woman and are dissatisfied with their women, so they look. I've been TOLD this by plenty of men.
There seems to be a lot of bias in this. The overall take-out message should be:
Some men look with ill intentions while some don't.
Undoubtedly a man will find someone more attractive. Internalize this.
Not all men want variety or even look. (I have met some asexual dudes or guys with low sex drives that have no interest in women beyond friendship or emotional relationships).
*shakes head*
I think you should show some more respect for your partner when you're actually physically with them, though. A couple of glances here and there are ok and completely justified/normal/natural, but I think it's rude to stare at other people for minutes when your partner is literally RIGHT THERE. It doesn't matter if you're just looking and you've forgotten about them once you stop. I think this is the equivalent of staring at your phone for prolonged periods of time when you're hanging out with someone else. You're making them feel unimportant, as if they really aren't even there with you. Like I said, glances are ok (lasting maybe a few seconds or so), but long, lustful looks? Not really ok in my book. Do that in your free time when your partner isn't with you. But when you're with your partner, show them some respect and let them know that your eyes are on them when you're hanging out.
When my ex looked at other women i didn't care, but when he would mention celebrities or people we both know and say "they are so hot" yeah it did make me feel self conscious and second guess myself. Just as a rule guys, please just say it to friends, not the person you're dating, because even though your girlfriend may seem fine, it could hurt them and build up resentment. My boyfriend called me an 8 at one point which really hurt my feelings and i told him you shouldn't rate women by numbers, its insensitive and how would you feel if you were rated, his response was "8s are the best because 9s or 10s are bitches and will leave you and dont have a mind or personality, 8s you can settle down with and etc etc." May have been meant as a compliment but it hurt
I think what also should be taken into consideration is knowing the person your with. This video goes under the presumption the guy has morals and is faithful. If you know your guy isn't trust worthy then you do have something to worry about. I know you'll probably say, "Well then they shouldn't be together". But lets be real some people will stay with their SO when they know they are or have been unfaithful.
I used to be the insecure one who got pissed when her man gawked and made comments. I grew up and realized that men really do think differently than women. This video is pretty accurate on both sides.
I already knew this but I think a lot of girls on this site would benefit from the info. If I had a man and he never checked out other women I seriously would think something was wrong with him unless he was blind.
Yeah, it doesn't matter, cause I'm checking her out too lol
it's not always about jealousy of other women... sometimes it's just disrespectful you know
like her ignoring you like you dont exist to talk to some other dude
im pretty sure guys won't like it if women stared at other men either
Brilliant. You got to love men of the world. Bless them all
ok this guy is old as fuck, ugly as shit and what?
this was good though, honestly make the leash long enough to choke himself and no guy can afford child support on 700 women's children.
and believe me, we women look too and our minds are free to wander and i can find whatever the fuck i want sexy about guys whenever i want or feel.
That's a funny video, but I also think it has a lot of merit.
Well, I would be worried. If he can't resist leering ¿how is he supposed to resist cheating?
My girlfriend checks out other dudes and it doesn't bother me.
Really? If he looks, he doesn't like?
I like this MyTake. Lived the video
Nice take bro keep it up.
Sometimes I look at women and wish I had her.
I think that's BS tbh.
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