Believing in the "Alpha/Beta" male system is an insecurity!

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Across GAG, and pretty much any other place on the internet where males congregate (aka 99% of the Internet minus Pinterest), there is a belief in a social hierarchy among men known as the "Alpha/Beta" male system. In this system, the entire male sex can be classified into two different groups: Alphas and Betas. For those of you who were too busy studying for school and/or working a job, you probably have never heard of such a thing. However, if you have too much time on your hands you probably believe in this system as firmly as an artsy sorority girl believes in Horoscopes.


"Alpha" males are supposed to be the dominant males. They're characterized by asserting their dominance over weaker men and women, being very self-confident and never refusing a challenge, having many sexual partners, being physically fit & attractive, etc. They would classify as the "Jock" in a 90's high school movie.


"Beta" males are supposed to be the subordinate males. They're characterized by letting others make decisions for them and bossing them around, being unconfident and always backing down from adversity, having little/no sexual partners, being out of shape & unattractive, etc. They would classify as the "Nerd" in a 90's high school movie.


An "Alpha" male is supposed to possess every positive masculine trait while a "beta" male is said to be the complete opposite and have no positive masculine traits. So, where did we even come up with this idea of a social hierarchy in the first place? Wolves, because wolves have a social hierarchy that mirrors the "Alpha/Beta" male system humans use. Except, that's not even how wolves work...


Wolves: They don't work like you think they do.


Believing in the "Alpha/Beta" male system is an insecurity!


In a wolf pack, all of the males/females compete against each other to show their dominance. The male/female that comes out on top, aka the strongest and most assertive male/female, are known as the Alpha male/female of the pack. They get together to breed the strongest pups and lead the whole pack. Meanwhile the beta males/females get together only and work as pawns for the pack. However, this isn't actually how wolves work at all...


Now, there actually is an Alpha male/female in a wolf pack, and they are the reproductive leaders of the pack. However, the reason they're the reproductive leaders of the wolf pack is because the Alpha male/female are actually the parents of the wolf pack. Wolf packs are just families, and all of those "betas" are just children. So yes the Alpha male/female are still dominant, but not because they fought for it, instead only because they're the parents and raise their pups. Members of the wolf pack work together as any other family would to survive, they don't compete with each other.


So what does this all mean? Basically, any person that is a mom or dad is an "Alpha" male or female in society.


Believing in the "Alpha/Beta" male system is an insecurity!
Yep. That whole "dominance" thing with wolves is just a bunch of BS. Wolves are social creatures like humans that work together to raise families, not ultra-competitive creatures that must have some sort of boss to function.


How the idea of Alpha/Beta males is just a form of insecurity by anyone who identifies as either:


A sign of insecurity is trying to find ways to label yourself in order to feel more belonging ro explain your actions.



  • "I'm an Aeries, that's why I'm always so hot headed."

  • "I'm a nerd, that's why I'm so awkward."

  • "I don't go to school, I'm a rebel."

  • "I won't ever marry these bitches, I'm an Alpha male."

  • "I can't get a girlfriend, I guess I'm just a beta male..."


People cling to labels in our society, as an "Us vs Them" thing or as a way to show sympathy/belonging. It's a major component for things like sports fan bases or any type of rivalry, along with feeling included. People want to feel a part of something bigger, and thus cling to labels in order to either bring themselves up or put others down. "You're a slut", is an example of labeling someone in a condescending way. Either way, you look at it, these labels are a form of insecurity, in order to feel superior or belonging, people create labels. If they were secure they wouldn't need these labels.


So how does this tie in with the whole Alpha/Beta thing? Well, Alpha and Beta male is just another label crafted up by people to feel more belonging, feel superior, explain themselves, etc. It isn't a real, tangible thing. People only identify themselves or others as Alpha/Beta out of insecurity with themselves. They just can't accept the fact there are other people who are different in the world, and thus need a way to feel superior or make other's feel inferior. You know what that desire is? Insecurity.


Not only that, but who even decides what is an "Alpha" or "Beta" and who belongs where? What if a guy exhibits both qualities of an Alpha/Beta? Well, most of this defining is done by the guy himself or some random other guy. I could say an Alpha and list reasons why, but my argument has no weight. Just because I say I'm something doesn't mean I am. So all of these self-proclaimed "Alphas" are really just speaking BS, and them defining others as "Betas" is also BS. There's no science to it. No set scales. Nothing. It's just an insecurity complex and that's it.


How women actually feel about this Alpha/Beta thing:


What do women think about Alpha and Betas males? Well the answer is simple, they think both of them are a bunch of losers.


Believing in the "Alpha/Beta" male system is an insecurity!


Many of those "Alphas" don't get far, if anywhere with a woman that actually is picky with her men. Why? The "Alpha" just goes around sleeping with easy sluts that only require a few compliments about her hair and nails to get a BJ. Any woman that is actually trying for a real relationship won't put up with a "sex or I'm gone" cocky attitude these "Alphas" have. I never once heard a guy who called himself an Alpha about his plans of marriage or starting a family because, duh, he can't get that far. There for the sex and gone. He might think he's badass for sleeping around so much, but women just see him as another horny douche that isn't worth their time. Most "Alphas" also like to do a lot of bragging. Sure, you'll get a lay or two from talking about how awesome you are, even if it's a bit exaggerated, but a wife won't be impressed with narcissism. The way the "Alpha" defends himself against not being a quality guy is by saying stuff like, "marriage is a trap to steal your money", or that "only betas care for love", or some other nonsense around those lines. These guys also tend to follow "MGTOW" ideology, since again they need a label that forces a ridiculous lifestyle in order to feel secure.


The same can be said about these "Betas", but in a different way. Many "betas" aren't just passive, because passiveness itself isn't a bad thing. Many are suffering from extreme self-hate, usually over trivial reasons. They'll self-loathe and allow themselves to be trampled on by anyone's emotions, just because they say, "well I'm a beta, this is just how it is...fml". These are the "nice guys" who will complain no woman wants them when they pretty much go up to women and complains about how terrible they are. "Nice guys" is also another label these men fix themselves to out of insecurity, sort of like "alphas" with the "MGTOW". No woman wants to date a guy that constantly complains about women or how inferior they are to other men, sort of how no woman wants to date a guy that only uses women for sex and talks about how superior he is to other men.


Either way, the "Alpha/Beta" complex revolves around the idea of mistreating women in one way or another. So it's obvious why women don't like it. Normal, secure men not only don't follow these lifestyles, but don't use these labels either. They also treat women with respect as humans, not as sexual objects.

Believing in the "Alpha/Beta" male system is an insecurity!


Believing in the "Alpha/Beta" male system is an insecurity!
So if you want to be a secure, normal man who has a chance of actually finding a woman worth having a relationship with, quit attaching labels to yourself and others and being yourself, whatever you may be. All types of different personality traits have their ups and downs, but the right woman is going to like you for your specific traits. However, no woman likes arrogance, cockiness, narcissism, self-loathing, superior/inferior attitudes, or sexual objectification. So don't do that stuff. Remember, these social hierarchies are nothing but an ideology made up by the insecure among us. Don't fall for the trap.


Thank you for reading! Leave any questions, comments, or anonymous rants about how wrong I am below!

Believing in the "Alpha/Beta" male system is an insecurity!
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