What is an Alpha Male?
I see a lot of people talking about 'alpha males'. Saying things like “They are the hot and/or rich assholes that get all the bitches!” or “An alpha male control his woman!”... or man if it's non-hetero relationship... I'm paraphrasing there but you get the idea. I've decided to share some thoughts on what I believe in a true alpha male. This is my opinion of course. Feel free to add on if you choose.
You do not get to be an alpha just because you are a man. Well some men are natural alphas it is also something you work towards by developing your character and leadership skills. An alpha male (even one born with it) is always honing his alpha skills. An alpha male doesn't think he's perfect.
An alpha male has purpose in his life.
An alpha male isn't a control freak.
He doesn't demand order. He commands it. Others follow him because they respect and trust his authority, not because he is forcing them to.
An alpha male doesn't put others down.
He isn't a jerk. That is a sign of an emotionally insecure person. An alpha male is secure enough in himself that he feels no need to attack other people in any way.
An alpha male is confident, not arrogant.
He is not boastful. He doesn't need to be. Other people understand his value just by being in his company.
An alpha male isn't a pushover yet he has a backbone without being defensive.
An alpha male knows how to effectively voice his concerns without resorting to incessant complaining.
An alpha male refrains from whining. An alpha male doesn't blame other people or outside influences for all of the problems in his life. An alpha male is a problem solver.
An alpha male cares about the well-being of others, especially those he is closest to.
Although he understands compromise may be needed (on both sides. He is not against making his own compromises) he would never make a decision that would potentially harm the ones he cares about.
An alpha male stands up for others.
An alpha male leads without putting the value of others below his.
He understands they have their own role which is just as important. It's just different.
An alpha male understands his partner isn't there to be his servant or slave...
(unless it's some kind of bedroom play they are into. Then by all mean..) but to take a supportive role (he knows how to be supportive as well). He respects the views of his partner. He would never dismiss them without hearing them out first. If he feels they are out of line then he communicates that in a way that is clear (he is stern) yet not disrespectful (i.e telling them to shut up).
An alpha male does not consider his partner to be 'weak' just because they are submissive.
He would never choose a weak partner. He knows they have their own mind. He would never expect them to do anything that goes against their own personal needs, beliefs, values, etc. To be able to sit back, relax and say “Ok hun you got this” is not a sign of weakness. The ability to put your faith and trust in someone is a power within itself. An alpha male may step up to take the leading role yet he also knows that you are in control of yourself. He does not treat you like a child.
An alpha male isn't afraid to recognize the authority of others.
He has the ability to take direction and fall in line behind someone of a higher ranking without losing his own personal self worth. He does not feel threatened.
An alpha male doesn't shy away from competition yet he isn't constantly looking for it either.
The never-ending need to fight and compete for power is akin to a cornered animal attacking out of fear.
An alpha male knows he has power.
He doesn't feel the need to always prove it to everyone.
An alpha male may get a lot of attention but he'll always pick quality over quantity.
If you are important to him he is severely loyal.
An alpha male knows when to ask for help.
He isn't too proud to do so.
An alpha male admits when he is wrong.
He doesn't deflect blame. He would rather work to fix an issue than play games.
An alpha male does not abuse.
Either physically and/or mentally.
A man who relies on his looks, wealth or social status to get what he wants is not an alpha male. An alpha male may have a lot of friends and acquaintances yet he is only close to those who respect and like him for who he is.
That's all folks!
Image source: http://screenrant.com/taken-3-4-liam-neeson-director-story/ - Because Neeson is bomb.