Why Ghosting Is a Terrible Idea

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Why Ghosting Is a Terrible Idea

For those who are unaware, "ghosting" is the act of ceasing contact with the person you have been dating. It's unsettling that such a rude practice has become prevalent in our society. If you're a woman reading this, it's possible that you have been ghosted by man at some point during your dating career. A lot of men ghost because they'd rather sit in silence than tell a woman something potentially hurtful. Men, what you don't realize is that ghosting has more disadvantages than advantages. Here's why ghosting is a terrible idea:

1.) When you don't end things with a woman directly, you give her false hope that you'll come back.

If you break up with her directly, however, you are not leading her on in any way. It's never wise to expect that any woman will "take the hint" that you're no longer interested. Even if she suspects that you're no longer interested, it's possible that she will cling to the idea of continuing to date you with all her might (because she can't stand the thought of losing your presence in her life).

Why Ghosting Is a Terrible Idea

2.) If you think you can avoid the "break-up talk," think again.

No, a woman is not necessarily going to forget about you just because you ceased contact. If anything, ghosting is going to make her think about you more. For a long while, she's going to be agonizing over why you ghosted, where you've been when you've been avoiding hanging out with her, whether or not you've met someone else, or whether she did anything to cause you to ghost. If she suffers from anxiety, it might be difficult for her to carry on with her daily activities until she gets an answer.

3.) If the person you're ghosting treated you well, then you at least owe the person the courtesy of a proper break-up (provided you've gone out on more than three dates).

You're not obligated to continue seeing anyone if you're not into it. However, any decent human being deserves respect. The reality is that men avoid breaking up directly because they don't want to hurt a woman. Well, guess what? Ghosting hurts far more than the in-person break-up. It makes the ghostee feel abandoned and worthless, whether she wants to feel that way or not. Furthermore, if the two of you actually enjoyed yourselves on your dates (but maybe you weren't feeling a spark), it diminishes all those great moments you had together.

4) You're going to give yourself a horrible reputation.

Even if you don't want to a see a girl again, you never want to be the guy she looks back on and says, "He was a jerk to me." You want to be the one she looks back on and says, "He was a good, honest guy. It just didn't work out." Chances are that she has dated a lot of guys who broke her heart because they couldn't be upfront with her, and if you're the latest to do so, then she's probably not feeling too confident about finding true love. Don't destroy her faith in men.

5) You're blocking the door for other guys to date her.

If you found this girl attractive, then there are probably lots of other men who want to date her too. If you can't give her the love and attention she deserves, then end it, and let her find a man who will. Otherwise, she might stay focused on getting you to notice her and miss opportunities to find the guy who values her to a greater extent.

Why Ghosting Is a Terrible Idea
So there you have it. Ladies, if you've been ghosted, it says nothing about you as a person. I've seen it happen to some of the smartest, sweetest, most beautiful women I know. And gentlemen, I want to point out that I realize that ghosting can happen to you as well, and I am not accusing all men of being ghosters. I'm just referring to the ones who have been guilty of ghosting in the past.

Why Ghosting Is a Terrible Idea
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