You often hear of so called nice guys who want to become jerks or bad boys to get the women they desire and get out of the friend-zone, and then they’re surprised when after their transformation or charade the girl they like still isn’t interested in them. I have to say after many years of being a “friend” to the women I like and I’ve come to the conclusion that the whole concept of nice guys and jerks don’t truly mean anything if the girl is really interested in you. As we all know women love to make poor decisions when it comes to relationships or they just have very poor judgment of character, Thus it would seem women chooses jerks over nice guys.
To a woman a jerk is like a lump of clay and only she can see the potential in him and to the rest of the world he’s the world’s biggest fertilizer salesman and the poor girl is about to buy the biggest load of crap. Like most of us when we’re interested in some one, the poor girl will spend time with the jerk getting to “really” know him and like all of us she will be fooled by emotions into believing that the jerk has really changed his ways and it’s all thanks to her and a token of his appreciation he would like to share his newly found heart with her which sounds like a dream come true until they have sex and then the jerk just wants to be friends and the poor girl is left heart-broken, it’s a story every woman can sympathize with. Notice when a girl mentions the friend-zone every other female rushes to comfort her and give her all the support she needs but when a nice guy voices his displeasure about being friend-zoned he is told to suck it up and get over it.
We’ve all heard how “Nice guys shouldn’t envy jerks because eventually the girl gets tired of getting treated like crap,” or “She’ll realize how much of a nice guy you were when she realizes that the guy she choose over you is a jerk.” none of which ever happens, the nice guys still end up alone and never have you seen a “jerk” on GAG asking why girls never date him or how could he get out of the friend-zone, why because it’s true girls love jerks because like I said they want to try and mold that jerk into their fairy tale love life and if you don’t believe ask any girl you want to. The truth is nice guys don’t get the girl because he’s already a finished product and you can’t customize a nice guy like you can with a jerk. Many women see the “Nice guy” as just “friend” material because like I said most women love making poor decisions when it comes to relationships or they just have very poor judgment of character, the nice guy lacks the lustful luster of the jerk. The Nice guy actually cares about the girl and wants the best for her so he will suppress his own desires just to make her happy, that’s why when nice guys get rejected he is often advised to respect her decision and move on. Many women accuse nice guys of being jerks in disguise who only pretend to be nice to get her in bed but think if this was the nice guy plan all along why would he pretend for so long? The Jerk on the other hand is praised for cleaver and cunning ways and is seen as a catch for any girl who can hang on to him long enough. To all the girls who fall for the jerk because he is:
Mysterious- The real mystery is finding out whose bed he’s sleeping in tonight because it’s surely not yours
Confident- I hope you have the same amount of confidence to compete with all those other women.
Adventurous- Hope you enjoy emotional safaris.
Not Clingy- He’s got to be clinging to some other girl if it’s not you
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