Why Guys Don't Hit on Pretty Girls

[Anpu23]

I hear it a lot. "I'm so pretty, but guys don't hit on me?" Or "why do guys never hit on the pretty ones?"

There is a reason: because some (not all of course) girls are just cruel. It's usually a loud embarrassing and public rejection. How many of those kind of mean turn downs would it take for a guy to just give up? Not many.

Think about it what how many of these kind of rejections could you take before saying "no, not worth it?"

And I know it's not fair to judge all women by the actions of a few, but how can a guy tell which is which without asking? They can't. So they simply don't.

It's much easier to get rejected online via dating websites, where there is a level of anonymity.

As one guy said, approaching a girl is like a minefield. One wrong word and....

[Ratiocinative]

Sometimes women can be cruel, they're people just like guys are, however I think the biggest reason guys don't approach beautiful women is because they're afraid. A lot of guys I know are that way and I used to be that way.

Risk taking, courage, and confidence are masculine traits and are attractive to women. Women will instinctively test a guy to be sure he has those traits, especially if her initial attraction level is not very high. If you pass the tests you can increase her level of attraction for you, but if you fail them she'll lose whatever interest she had in you.

For example, before I knew anything about women, I went out with this woman twice and she was all over me. Touching all the time, more compliments than I can remember, she mysteriously like all the same things I liked, etc. She even invited me back to her place and we were there until like 4 am. However, instead of being confident in her interest and going for it, I was timid, acted unsure, and I pretty much asked her permission to kiss her. Of course when I asked her out a third time several days later I got the "lets just be friends" line. My lack of confidence completely killed her attraction for me.

This most recent date I went on the woman tried to hug me at the end, even though she had given me all the signs she wanted to be kissed, so I resisted and kissed her instead. She then got a little nervous and started to apologize for making it awkward and asked if the kiss was okay. My response was to give her one final kiss, told her it wasn't awkward at all, and she smiled and giggled proceeded to text me night when she got home and the next day about how great the date was.

So in summary, a guy who is confident is very attractive to a woman. If you don't let a woman's rude or cruel behavior bother you she may just change her mind about you, or other women may notice your confidence and gain interest in you. Be sure of yourself and your worth regardless of rude people and women will notice.

[MaskedSanity]

Don't you just love how these cunts are talking shit about guys that lack confidence, yet disabled all stats, voting and comments.

What's the matter, girls, can't handle people calling you out on your bullshit? Does criticism shoot your CONFIDENCE?

It gives me great pleasure to know that these girls more than likely sleep around with hot players, get dumped and then whine to each other about how there are no good men left. If only I could be there to laugh in their faces.

I mean look at them, they all look like they're in their late 20s. If they failed at finding a partner by that age while looking reasonably good, says something about their personalities or lack thereof, to be precise.

[MaskedSanity]

I hope the channel is fake, but then if it is, why disable comments and stats?

[Watermelonoma]

preach girl, haha

[shadowlegend]

Get of your arse and go hit on a guy, problem solved. See what it's like for a change and stop complaining.

[shadowlegend]

off*

[Ozanne]

So the poor actions of a few, mean the rest of the women have to pay for it? Ughh.. We have all been in a situation where we try and say something to a person we like and get shot down, girls and guys alike.

Here's a trick: Don't hit on a girl when she's with one or more of her friends. She is likely going to turn right to her friend for a reaction. Firstly, the girl you *don't* hit on is going to be jealous of her friend, and put you down. She'll listen to her and not want to appear foolish so she'll buy in to it. "Oh my god, that guy with the crooked tooth just talked to you, gross." Believe me. I went through this with girl-friends who were jealous. I was the one getting the attention, and they reacted poorly. Secondly, she looks to the friend as an audience as if to unfurl her feathers and show her she can get any guy, even if she's not that pretty.

I think it's better to find a woman alone, but don't be a creep. Or else look for a group where you have common friends, and there are guys in the group easily entertaining the other girls in the group so you can pick one out and she's not so focused on by her female friends.

It's a good myTake, but just UGHHH... I hate the thought that the actions of a few have made men gunshy to try again. So you might strike out, but you will always be alone unless you make moves again, or put yourself in a situation where you allow moves to be made on you. (And yeah, online dating is where most women sit and wait to be spoken to, so that's usually a poor place to find a quality girl.)

[gray_sailor]

I married twice. The first time was a woman from my every day, real world life. She gave me a son and nothing else but a long list of betrayals. I divorced her and obtained custody of my son. When my divorce finalized, I joined eHarmony. Within 7 months, I met the woman who would become my wife. We will have been married for 9 years this coming June. She is the woman I always should have been with. She is the woman with whom I will grow old. Without online dating I don't know that I would have ever met a woman of this quality. I'm a homebody. I work in an all male environment and I always have. I bristle at the idea that online dating is a lesser experience, for people that can't hack dating in the real world. If anything, I regard myself as someone born a quarter century too early. Had the technology of online dating existed 25 years ago, I no doubt would have already celebrated my silver wedding anniversary.

[Ozanne]

Congratulations, and I'm sorry to generalize. I should know better. I have just found in my experience - maybe it's the younger crowd that don't take it as seriously.

[gray_sailor]

Thank you. I mean no conflict between us. Whenever I encounter generalizations that marginalize my own experience I respond in defense. My life is settled. My concern is for a younger version of myself taking diparaging words (regarding online dating) to heart at the cost of his own best interests.

[carelessxwhisper]

I'm sure there are girls who are mean with their rejection of a guy, but not every girl is like that! If a guy I don't like approaches me I reject them in the nicest way I can. I might say, "sorry I'm not interested" or something. I think it's silly and immature to be rude to someone who had the guts to approach. One time though, I rejected this guy, his female friend pulled me over to him, and after I kindly declined, he said to me "well, you aren't that pretty anyways." LOL bitter much?

[JaysunPro]

Oh instant non inter... rest? What type of eye appeals to you?

[carelessxwhisper]

What do you mean?

[BrunetteBabe1005]

This is such bullshit! Because I approach guys all the time, and no.. I'm not too aggressive or anything like that. I go up to guys all the time, and have normal conversations with the guy, and then nothing happens. Nothing progresses like no numbers, or anything. I approach guys that are really not attractive either. Way below my standards, and I still get rejected. I am so sick of guys, and their bullshit. I heard many times that "girls need to start approaching guys", well I do almost all the time, and it never goes anywhere. So, it's a bunch of bullshit.

[JSmuve]

To use a grossly overused and bs cliche: you just haven't met the right guy yet.

[NatalieLove777]

Your attitude certainly doesn't help. Beauty isn't everything.

[muspelhem_5]

So you actually ask for their numbers and they reject you?

[JaysunPro]

Omg you just have not talked to me beautiful. I would tell you to call me and leave my phone number but I can't satisfy you from here.

[heavensgift2girls]

You are saying nothing ever progresses. Does that mean the guy doesn't ask for your number or that he flat out turns you down? Because unless you actually ask them out, a lot of people won't notice they are being approached. People often can't tell the difference between someone being interested, and someone being friendly. Guys walk up and talk to girls all the time, only to get the feeling she isn't interested so they don't bother asking the girl out. The girl often won't have any idea she was just approached. That may be what is happening with you.

[Melissajones9928]

this is so true--i'd never ask a stupid guy out--they'll always reject you

[Seedsnddbf]

@JSmuve That isn't a bs cliche.

[Chjyffghh]

I commend your efforts, but I find it bewildering that you would even approach anyone you didn't find really attractive. Why would you do that? Beautiful woman like yourself should value herself more. Especially since you have such courage to do what most women won't, I'd have to say that beauty is mainly inside you. Go for what you want because if you go for someone really not attractive, as you say, then you're only cheating yourself and you'll feel that down the road.

[Arcano]

I am going to be honest, except in a party setting, I do not see guys - or anyone else for that matter - "hitting on" women. There might be the casual conversation or smile, but that's it. Never mind "pretty girls." Where is this expectation of being pursued/pursuing originating from? Has it just sprung from movies? Environment decides it, from my observation.

[Ananchor]

There's also the issue or approaching a woman at a club and the variables that brings into it- ie drinks, and timing. If you're sober at its 9pm and you can actually talk to her logically and respectfully- that's one thing.
If it's 2am and you're both drunk and the lights are coming on, people are now desperate to find someone to go home with... Umm no

Everyone wants that fairy tale moment- she drops a book, they go to pick it up, they lock eyes, and it's done.
It doesn't really happen in bars when you're watching some drunk guy come up to you to tell you he's been watching you all night and you're really pretty but he can't stop looking at your rack 😤

[xobrowneyedbeauty]

i don't think this is true. pretty girls get hit on all the time. maybe not the really young ones, like during high school, but once you're in your 20s the pretty ones always get hit on.

[RationalLioness]

Just because you can't tell who's going to be an utter bitch or not does not mean that you should give up. To me, that spells insecurity.

And if some woman is rude like that, have a good comeback ready to knock her out.

[Hannah591]

"Humiliatrix girls"
It appears, it's their job to humiliate. It's a fetish for some guys.

[LovelyDisquiet]

In the bedroom, maybe. Not in real life.

[Hannah591]

@lovelydisquiet I know but he's using the video like it's an example of all girls in real life which I felt was wrong and giving out a bad impression.

[Anpu23]

I searched for videos of cruel turndowns. It showed what I was talking about. I used to work in a bar and saw this kind of thing all the time. I know that all girls are not like this, that's one of my points. How can a guy tell one from the other?

[Taywallee16]

I would never do that. I'd be flattered that a guy even had the courage to approach me. I've been rejected before and it wasn't pretty so I wouldn't do that to someone else.

[JaysunPro]

Yes they are incouraged.

[JaysunPro]

When he rejected you he was in fear of his own dignity so he took it out on you to make himself feel feel better. Sorry beautiful he will get what's coming to him.

[SunDevil11]

I almost always either assume she is either taken or that I am not "hot" enough and would have barely anything to give her in a relationship to keep her interested. I also assume I would get looked down upon by her friends (at least at first) because they would probably think "oh she can do better than him". Plus I am still finding myself in this world and working on my body to get in shape. I will treat my future girlfriend like she deserves though :)

[Sbgirl]

I think guys should just go for it - people tell me I'm pretty, I don't really see it but hey, I've never had a boyfriend and I know of some guys who have liked me in the past, but have been intimidated to ask me out. Even if I didn't want to date the guy, I would be nice about it and would be extremely flattered in the first place.

[BertMacklinFBI]

that's probably what they're scared of, the chance of "Even if I didn't want to date the guy, I would be nice about it and would be extremely flattered in the first place." lol

[Sbgirl]

Yeah, I guess. But someone's gotta try lol

[GoodManDave]

"But someone's gotta try lol" Why not you? Why wait for guys to do it?

[DanHart]

Honestly, any guy with enough knowledge of human nature can make out such b*tches in no time. There are plenty of very beautiful girls who aren't like these 3 in the video.

You can also tell whether they're like these 3 by looking at their faces, especially the one on the left with tattoos on her arm. It's always the same pattern.
Never talk to such a girl.

[Jamesol1]

Yeah agreed I can smell the nasty ones from a mile off. It takes one glance at them to know...

[Betwyn]

ok, as to what you wrote, ymmv.

Not all women are the same.

But as for the video you posted.. that totally doesn't help your case at all.

1: They aren't even that attractive.
2: The one on the right says she warned the guy not to talk to the other blond, that she wasn't in a good mood, and he didn't listen. So, yes, she was a bitch to him, and it isn't right, but it has nothing to do with her so-called attractiveness and being approached, and everything to do with being approached by a guy who had already been warned off. and how does it take 3 drinks to figure out she isn't interested?

[LittleSally]

I have never seen these types of girls...
But maybe I just live in a civilized society...

That is America. Sad. SOOOOO sad.

[meatballs21]

Bitches exist all around the world.

[LittleSally]

Never met those kinds before... Feel bad for decent people who have to deal with people like that. Male or female.

[YourFutureEx]

Shy guys just rely on miracles.

[BiffWebster]

for one.. usually those girls are taken. Those types of girls also have higher standards than most... because they can be picky. And most of the time they are already taken... and if they aren't you just have to ask the question..."how can this be?"

[Mustachekitteh]

Those 3 girls are a bunch of horrible cunts. Plus I feel so bad for the guys they rejected. I will say they need lots of hugs. :(

[coffeprince]

What about the option not pretty enough.. BC guys hardly approach or "hit on" unattractive girls. Believe me I know from experience :/ .. that said, not pretty enough girls kinda sit on the side lines...

[crystalt70]

You see, this is what makes me wonder where I fall. I never get hit on in public. Only online and usually by nutcases wanting to show me their junk or asking me freakish questions.

[MindYourEyes]

That's not even pretty. They ain't even pretty at all. Fucking rat XD