How to indirectly ask a guy if he's just horny?

I'm texting this guy. And I think he's hinting towards if not being fairly direct about just wanting to have sex. I asked him if he was going to be a big tough guy (previous context not sexual at all) and he responded with I'll show you big. I'm not ready for sex, but he hasn't just come out and said he wants sex so I feel like i can't just be like I'm not ready. ( I'm afraid if I do, I'll make it weird) What can I tell him to either make him come out and say 'yes, I want sex', so I can say no, or Make it obvious with out telling him that I'm not going to do that?
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  • Just tell him. Why do you have to figure out what he's thinking? You're not ready, so you're not ready. Don't play games, just let him know. You're liable to piss him off if you seem like you're playing games. From what I see, it does seem like flirting a little bit.

    He's prodding you and trying to see your reaction. The best thing to do is stop it in its tracks, so he doesn't misunderstand (we do that a lot, but, to be fair, a some women are usually very indirect) and think you're really into him.

  • well if he hints sex maybe just talk to him and just say hey i really like you and everything but im not ready for sex and just tell him how you feel.. if he is a good guy he will understand and will go with your wishes.. if not and he gets all angry or w.e he is not worth your time because then he is showing that he does not care about you just that he wants sex

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  • You don't just ask him if he is. You should be able to tell how he talks. If he mentions about how he would like to interact with you such as any touching, etc.

    • How can I tell him I'm not ready then? Cause I feel like he is. I don't want to lead him on

    • If he actually brings up sex, I think it would be best by just saying you're not ready. But I wouldn't do it before he actually mentions it because he could say something like, "I didn't even want to have sex" and make you feel weird about it lol

    • So what can I tell him until he does bring up sex?

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  • they is not need to since he has not brought it up. He is just flirting at the moment

    • Except this isn't the first time he's made comments like this. And they're getting more strait forward. I don't want to be the person who leads someone else on. Even if I didn't mean to

    • That's what i thought at first too and played along, but I don't want to lead him on

    • when he makes a comment, just be like. Yea... I'm not even ready for that, something on those lines

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  • Tease him a little bit. like say 'sniff.. sniff.. do I smell... umm.. horniness in the air? :P '

    This will make him comfy and get out :)

  • "and he responded with I'll show you big." = I have a tool the size of a Vienna sausage.

  • It's all in the voice. Your delivery.

    • Well right now we're texting. So there is no voice. Any tips for that?

    • It' would make things so much easier if you did. Well in that case; ask him what he is thinking... easy

  • Be upfront about u could say something like dont show me big... Because if u mean what I think u mean I'm not ready for all that

  • Be upfront don't play with his emotions, with the way ur talking, he could think ur flirting about it and are totally ok...and this could lead to confusion later and that with problems arise.

    • This is why I'm asking for help. I don't want to lead him on. So how can I respond to that with out doing that?