Why would a guy give me his number instead of asking for mine?

[Anonymous]

And no I didn't ask for his number he just gave it to me. I didn't think to give him mine because I'm use to a guy asking... This is just a general question because I've had this happen to me with a guy who I somewhat knew and one that was a total stranger hitting on me

Like is this some new trend where the guy thinks he's doing me a favor?

[mrf284212]

He might just want to give you the stress of how long to wait to call.

Or he wants it to be your choice to initiate something rather than him. He may be used to hearing women not like how persistent a guy is at trying to get a number. Or maybe he feels some women are annoyed by men being so forward or approaching them all the time.

It could be a sign of respect, like he will respect your choice rather than you respect his confidence or something like that. Not that he doesn't have confidence. Maybe he's giving you a sort of authority or power in the possible relationship.

Or maybe he's trying to manipulate you in some way that I nor you can figure out lol. Sorry if I didn't give you very good answers.

Can I ask, what kind of favor do you think he would be doing for you? Like if you were in his head what do you think the favor would be?

Also, why do you not think of it as a favor?

[Asker]

By the favor thing I mean that guy who I kind of knew. He's more outgoing and shy so I feel he thinks he's the sh! t and by giving me his number some how I'm lucky... And he never texted me first. Whenever he saw me in person he'd tell me to text him! And the one time I texted him on my own without him telling me he doesn't reply. I didn't care but then next time we saw each other he said Sorry & that his phone was off when I didn't even bring up the fact that he didn't reply.

I didn't expect a reply because I just texting him saying our mutual friend has her birthday.

[mrf284212]

Ok yeah I get it. It does seem like he's saying it like your lucky that you get a chance to text him, because its like a privilege or whatever. It also sounds like he's trying to have that "bad boy" persona. Like he thinks he's subconsciously making you want him by telling you to come to him. If he would text you first, he would lose the illusion because he thinks it makes him look desperate or whatever. He's so confident in his approach that all he has to say is text me. He doesn't even think he needs to reply back because in his world, you would crawl to him just to get his attention.

I'm not saying he's thinking all that but I just kind of expanded on the illusion of a stereotype.

[Asker]

Exactly! And I meant to say *he's outgoing and I'm shy

But it worked for another guy. I only saw him as a potential friend at first but later developed feelings. I'd always text first but he's always reply so it was nice to have someone to text consistently

[mrf284212]

Yeah I figured you typed that wrong lol, but it's ok I understood. I'm glad its working with someone else. I hope thing stay consistent with him.

[mrf284212]

Thanks for the most helpful.

[Asker]

Thanks for providing multiple possibilities :)

[mrf284212]

You're welcome. If you ever need an opinion on anything I'm always open to listen.

[bDizzie]

Because he's not confident enough to take what he wants which is your number. I would never give my number out unless I'm getting hers in return because I don't expect the girl to make the first move and text.

And from the sound of it you're not going to be making the first move. I don't blame you.

[HelloHandsome]

A guy giving a girl his number puts the ball in her court - meaning that it gives her the ability to initiate contact and its less threatening and creepy on his part. This also saves him the embarrassment of getting rejected.

[HelloHandsome]

Usually when a guy asks for my number or if I want his I say no due to the circunstances we met under. But there was this one guy who scribbled his name and number on a paper without asking and put it in my hand and told me to call him. He was bright red at the time and I thought that was really cute, and so I called him. So its not necessarily a coward move, unattractive or creepy, it really depends on the guy.

[Asker]

True but I hate the one to always be initiating things

[HelloHandsome]

When he gave me his number I did not text him immediately, ya know you got to build up the anticipation so I texted him the next say or so and said something like - whatsu champion, how was your night?

[Anonymous]

he is not thinking he is doing you a favour. He just doesn't know if you like him back so he took the safe path. If you like him you'd call because you have the number, if you won't call, he will get the message and mind his business.

[Anonymous]

Just did this with a girl from my Orchestra. I really connected to her and was too afraid to ask for it so, I just gave her mine. I think it was less stressful of a rejection. Yes, she would now have my number but at least I'm not getting an outright no or an "I have a boyfriend" speech etc..

[cavmanier]

When I did this I wasn't concerned if she called me. Well I don't think I've ever been concerned tbh. I'm giving her an option.

[Soloist01]

Because he's too afraid to ask for yours. asking a girl for her number is not creepy at all. But instead of facing rejection head on he gives you his number then worries about you texting him back

[DodgersGM]

Hey was too shy to straight up ask you for yours, so he have you his instead.

[CourtJester]

He's putting the ball in your court. Text/call him or not?

[Anonymous]

Really do all guys have to give girls their numbers? Cause I gave guys my #s

[NoblesseOblige]

Dude has game, that's what's up!

[Asker]

Lmao no because I didn't call or text... only the one I kinda knew

[NoblesseOblige]

Eh, he prolly gives out tons. lol. shotgun approach.

[Asker]

Ohh wow I didn't know guys did that makes me feel unspecial -_-

[NoblesseOblige]

lmao we do until we find some who says yes lmao