Does skin color matter to guys?

[Anonymous]

In my country, if you're dark, you're automatically ugly. :(

For example, this woman is actually quite attractive but she would be considered extremely ugly in India: https://imgur.com/Or60tfM

So does skin color really matter to guys? I know Indian men like fair skin, but what about white or western men? I've decided that I'm going to Europe to do my masters and I'm open to dating outside my race

[HandsomeRaj]

1. To me skin color or body type doesn't matter as long as she isn't the over clingy types, maintains hygiene, doesn't display traits of insecurity, takes care of herself, knows to live life, is emotional & sensitive while being logical and realistic etc
2. I don't have fixations ever on anything - a conscious decision since long but if specifically asked I prefer dusky women. If you look up 'Nandita Das' and that link you've posted, that girl's hot & her color as well as complexion are alluring
3. I am a tan complexion person myself. I fit the bill of Tall Dark & Handsome in my own way. I remember when in college a few girls who were into 'my parents will choose for me' would say 'He should be FAIR' lol - Hence, TDH etc depends on which race coined it :)
4. Other side of the fence is always greener wasn't coined by a fool :) What is not common is generally alluring.
5. There are lots of men in India, like me who love dusky complexion but your choice is you probably are looking at a Caucasian or Hispanic or similar. Again your choice could be well be influenced by the situation where 'girls should be fair' stuff which has been imbibed since eons and especially by women actually :)

[Crazyced]

That woman is stunning. I can love from pasty white to dark brown. skink is only one of women's feature.

[rUinSAYAN]

she's a 9!

[GeekyChick]

I don't think this is true I'm a black chick with fairly darker skin and I get hit on by Indians and Arabs all the time that could only be in India I'm coolie though 😂😂

[Vish123]

No even in India that girl would turn heads this is some biased info here. Almost 30-40% Indian guys would date a girl like this.

[Asker]

@ vish - that's the thing though.. judging by the comments, 80-90% of western men would date her, and as for the men who wouldn't, their reasons have nothing to do with their skin colour, but more to do with preferring someone from the same cultural background.

[Asker]

*her skin colour

[Vish123]

No but 80-90% western woman will also not judge a man on his skin color but in Indian even 10-20% woman would not date a dark skinned man. I hope you can see now who is more concerned about skin color Indian man or woman.

[Mariecalo87]

you so pretty.. I think its nonsense what they say.
pls answer my question thks

[Vish123]

lol its not her pic :D

[Zina99]

Everything else matters in America skin color some what.

[MyUsernameRules]

In India, it's tough both ways. Due to the influence of English people colonization in the past, skin color can be an issue there. However, from what I've seen it's far tougher for a darker Indian man to get attention from Indian women than for Indian women to get attention from Indian men. I lived in India for few years and I saw many dark Indian women who were gorgeous but almost all those dark Indian women happened to go out with guys who were either really light skinned or brown skinned like me. I rarely saw any fine dark Indian women going out with another dark Indian guy. And of course, hardly any light or brown skinned Indian girls go out with dark skinned guys. From what I saw, dark Indian girls had much better options than dark Indian guys. So yeah, you can't just say Indian guys are picky when it comes to dark skinned girls without also mentioning that it's just as hard for dark Indian guys, if not even harder for dark Indian guys.

[Tombstone1000100]

I second that

[Vish123]

So true 100% correct. Thanks to biased media though Indian man will never be understood by woman be it Indian or foreign.

[Asker]

I highly disagree.. Have you seen the fair & lovely ads where the girl can't find a husband because her skin is too dark? there's no version of that ad for guys.. so yeah, i think dark girls have it worse.. although fair skin is considered beautiful/handsome for both genders, society tends to place more emphasis on a woman's looks.. because sadly, that is what women are most valued for, even in 2014. i have a theory though - maybe the dark girls don't date dark guys because they don't want to have dark children - becauese they don't want thier children to be bullied, or ridiculed, like they were... so maybe that's why they date light skinned men

[MyUsernameRules]

That's the media and advertising. Try looking at the entire population numbers wise. Numbers wise, darker girls still has a better chance at getting guys than darker guys do with girls. And even if darker girls don't date darker guys to avoid having their future children being ridiculed, how come there aren't just as many opportunities for darker guys to date lighter skinned girls in return? How come lighter skinned girls aren't as open to dating darker skinned guys as much as the lighter skinned guys are in dating darker skinned girls? I mean a mixture of light skinned Indian girls with dark skinned Indian guys wouldn't be as dark yet it's so rare for light skinned girls to date dark skinned guys. It's pretty obvious when you look at the numbers, darker guys in comparison to darker girls are at a bigger disadvantage in India. And fair & lovely is a cream so the ad will obviously target the women to buy rather than men. There aren't many men that actually buy or use cream like women.

[Vish123]

Real situation: One of my cousin (28 y. o. Man) in India who works as a territory officer in one of the biggest real estate companies did not get replies to many (80%) marriage proposals the reason being he has a darker skin color, same guys sister (30 y. o.) got positive response from almost 70% proposals. Got married to a fair skinned guy 1.5 years back despite being dark skinned and not as good facial features (No Dowry). Proof enough what's really happening in India. Now as far as the question of kids is concerend than I guess fair skinned guys should also not marry weatish/dark skinned woman after all the kid might get her complexion too so ultimately the kid might have to go through same stuff. So its all media created hype which is creating negative image of Indian man and looking at what Indian woman think I guess media succeded in demeaning Indian man. The buzz is if you wanna sell a product to Indian woman now a days, demean Indian man and it would automatically sell.

[DanteSparda]

+1 bro

[Vish123]

I am an Indian male fair skinned and I never look at a girls skin color but yes her facial features matter a lot. In fact I like some Indian models and actress who are not fair skinned like chitrangadha singh. Yea but I agree most people might go for fair skinned. In fact there were two girls of weatish complexion in my college whom I liked just coz to me facial features and overall personality matter more than skin color.

[Vish123]

links

I like -
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I don't like -
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[Vish123]

You'll get a lot of dates in USA, UK and Europe but for totally different reasons than an Indian guy would date you for. I hope you understand why for...

[Asker]

"i hope you understand why for..." - no, i don't. if you mean sex, that is a completely ridiculous suggestion. i've been to western countries (my sister lives in the uk) and the men are polite, courteous and respectful. they are complete gentlemen. western men may glance beautiful/sexy woman, but they wouldn't stare inappropriate, make dirty comments, or try to grope her. in my opinion, indian men are much more sex obsessed.. so much that i don't feel safe walking alone in the streets at night.. why do we have gender segregrated public transport in india? because the men are so perverted.. western men like consensual sex and that is normal thing , they're men after all? and some women like it too you know

[Vish123]

This is the real reason Indian man would not like a girl for, not skin color but coz of generalizing all Indian man as one kind.

[Vish123]

"Western men may glance beautiful/sexy woman, but they wouldn't stare inappropriate, make dirty comments, or try to grope her. in my opinion " - Totally wrong observation you just generalised all Indian man here, I hope you would agree being a man I have spent more time between man than you and believe me I have met more shy guys in my life who would sweat before saying "hi" to a girl forget about groping her. "Indian men are much more sex obsessed.. so much that i don't feel safe walking alone in the streets at night" - That's why India has so many pre marriage Virgin man, they are so obsessed with sex they never do it before marriage. lmao...

[DanteSparda]

@asker - All Indian men are not perverts. You just have been to the wrong places.
these type of people are everywhere in this world, not only India.

[MyUsernameRules]

In a country that's developing and mostly uneducated, what do you expect QA? Most of those guys are uneducated and there are many perverted guys in Western countries like UK, US. The white perverts in Western countries are great at hiding it. Child molestation and distribution of child P*rnography is so common in Western countries. You don't hear these types of cases being common in India. There are those who intoxicate innocent girls and have sex with them, even videotape like on the news recently. And if a girl says she wants to wait till marriage for sex or wants to wait for the right time, a lot of white guys would see it as a deal breaker and leave whereas most Indian guys, whether in India or overseas would still stay. Now if they were more likely to be perverts, would they stay? Your sister I'm sure lives in a good part of the UK. Imagine if she lived in the bad parts of UK. I've been to UK and my friends from London told me how bad some parts in UK are and the people there.

[MyUsernameRules]

By the way, do you see guys in India slapping girls' butts? Like in school, colleges and what not? Because a lot of guys do that in Western countries. Of course, girls don't ask for it and many don't happen to be their girlfriends. They don't like it but they let it go. If a guy slapped a girl's ass in India, all hell would break loose. That guy would have so many guys ready to beat him down in respect to the girl. I'm not saying in Western countries there wouldn't be guys standing up for the girl getting her ass slapped and all but it wouldn't be taken as seriously without a doubt. Derogatory comments and all are pretty common in US and I know it's common in UK. Your sister just avoids those types of places in UK.

[Vish123]

Add to it the mental trauma a Virgin boy/girl in west has to go through, so much so they have to hide that they are Virgins just coz if they accept it they will be on the receiving end of what not. Basically its being done to corrupt the whole generation and everyone in it and when there is no one who is doing something good bad automatically becomes the norm. Just read a comment on a Indian dating site a 25 y. o. girl mentioned I don't like Virgin guys just coz Non-Virgins are interesting I was like o. O. While Indian man/families/society would respect the Virgin girl. I feel soon Indian man would find themselves in a similar situation that western woman find themselves in :(

[Tombstone1000100]

Oh come on, she is fuckin attractive, she might have a little more dark completion than most of the indians (100% north indians) but she looks beautiful. She ain't ugly by anybody's standard I think. M a north Indian myself and I know that none of my friends would find her ugly either. Where do you live any way?

[Asker]

I live in India and okay, maybe she wouldn't be considered hideous, but indian people wouldn't say that she is pretty, she would be considered below average, and she would be taunted for her skin color. she is the same skin color as the "before" girls in the fair and lovely ads

[Tombstone1000100]

Well haven't you seen the emami fair & handsome ad. ? It goes both ways though. You are right upto some extent and I do agree that dark skinned people have harder time than the lighter skinned people in dating perspective but facial features matter as well. One could be pretty with dark tone (ur example) and one could be ugly with fair skin as well.

[Tombstone1000100]

by the way who's the girl in picture? Some celeb. ?

[DanteSparda]

Every Indian guy is not the same buddy.
I've dated girls in the past who were darker than me.
It's not about skin color of the girl which attracts me, it's about her "personality" which draws me towards her.
That girl you posted looks really beautiful ybh ^_^

[kheserthorpe]

I don't.

I think the 'shade' of skin matters more within your community.

Some white guys don't want to date a south Asian girl period.

If they do, they probably don't have a big preference on how dark she is. If they wanted a pale girl, they'd just date a white girl. So I don't think a paler vs. darker indian girl is going to do particularly different with white guys.

[Red_Dragon]

Well technically the people of India are white.

That girl in the pic? I like her. Nah skin color doesn't matter to me. Sorry that it's that way in your country.

Skin color matters to some degree in every country. Here in America it matters. People say it doesn't, but naturally people want to be with those that are the same skin tone as them. That said there are still guys out there (like me) who don't care about skin color.

[Distant]

TIL: India actually considers themselves more white than actual white people.

Are you kidding me? That girl is drop-dead gorgeous and as light as it comes. Certainly lighter than 100% of the Indian people I know. As far as I know, many, many white guys do not care about skin colour.

[Vish123]

Not correct biased info biased learnings. Also seems like you met all the wheatish/dark skinned Indians till now.

[Distant]

No one asked, Vish123. Thanks though.

[Vish123]

Well seems like you are not open to learning the truth but just make a false judgement. Thanks does not matter if you didn't learn the right thing.

[Distant]

There is nothing you could ever teach me that I would be interested in knowing.

Are you trying to imply that Indian people are as light as Caucasians? Do not forget that Southern India such as Tamil Nadu must be factored in there. I know at least 20 people from there are dark as f!@#

Also, the "thanks" was sarcastic.

[UsernameFTW]

I read the whole stuff and seems you need to learn a lot "Distant". I don't think Vish tried to imply anything but it seems more like you think you are better than others which is totally wrong looking at how you are replying to someone who tried showing you the right picture.

[Vish123]

Yea agreed there is nothing I could ever teach to someone like you, simply cause I don't have time to waste on someone who considers that he knows it all. Moreover I was not trying to imply anything it is you who is comparing people and skin color now just to justify your false and wrong judgement. I'd better block you and help someone who has ability to learn new things. Enjoy the ignorance and the block ;D

[Distant]

Kindly go fall off a cliff, the both of you. What exactly do I need to learn? That skin colours vary? How did I imply that I was better than anyone else? Take your false assumptions and kindly GTFO my post.

[Distant]

Good riddance to the both of you. I'll never have to listen to your shit again, with pleasure.

[SaltandVinegar]

No if she is attractive her skin color does not matter. That girl is really cute if Indian guys don't want her ill take her! :D
Nina Davuluri is gorgeous
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[DodgersGM]

Wow, well the woman in the picture looks gorgeous to me.

To answer your question, no, skin color does not matter to me.

It DOES still matter to some people, yeah, but those people are decreasing in number with each day that passes.

[jesseray]

There are a lot of European men who will date outside their race and who are attracted to Indian women of all skin tones. Your color will have little or nothing to do with your success rate with these men.

[RyanDeSanta]

For me NO it doesn't matter but it is matter if she take care about her skin or not also her personal hygiene.

[BertMacklinFBI]

damn that girl is attractive! skin color is a preference so it will differ from guy to guy. for me? doesn't matter:D wow she is hot

[fr4nk]

That girl is better looking than 90% of Indians plus many Indians are as dark or darker than that.

To answer the question, it matters to some people but not to others. Doesn't matter to me personally.

[Tombstone1000100]

90% of indians in UK would be precise.

[Vish123]

fr4nk you are wrong there, 90% of Indians are not as dark or darker than that. In fact 20-30% of Indians are light skinned and 15-20% are very light skinned

[fr4nk]

Ok then 90% might have been a high estimate but the majority of Indians are at least as dark as the girl in the pic. Some Indians artificially lighten their skin also.

[fr4nk]

In fact I never even said 90% were as dark or darker lol.

[Vish123]

lol yea man we both mistaken it lmao funny even you accepted it hahah OMG I can't even stop laughing

[findingdreamland]

She is just gorgeous. I doubt they would care about her skin color.

[cavmanier]

No bullshit, I actually tend to be attracted to women with darker skin than mine like that girl.

[legalboxers]

Color dont matter to me. As for your comment for Indian men, I agree on that, but they choose white because they cannot get that where they are. At least thats my observation. (inbox me and I can explain further)

[legalboxers]

Guessing you are in India...

[madhatters4]

she's beautiful. skin color really doesn't matter to me

[JustinX]

not really... i'm dark so when i go to india.. i'm considered ugly automatically? no justice

[decemberxblue]

The White side of my family said some cruel things about Indian girls and their skin color. Same with White guys on campus. I'm sure that's who you're asking about.

[Vish123]

White side of my family lmao :D but yea she asking about same Indian girls. By the way may we know what cruel things "about Indian girls" to be specific not skin color?

[decemberxblue]

Do I sense mockery in your tone?

[ThatBritishLad]

Unless you're green - that tends to be a sign of decomposition.