What should I know about older men? How often should I text them?, etc?

[Anonymous]

An older guy likes me and I'm just wondering what I need to know to not ruin this.

[dav123]

The answer is don't text too often, but also don't text too seldom, lol. I'm not sure there are any "rules" here, it's probably the same as any other guy. Just keep in mind that a man who is older probably spends a lot of time working so don't expect him being overly responsive to texts when he's working. Texting also didn't really exist where guys our age were young so he might not enjoy spending too much time texting.

There are lots of decent men who are older, you'll get the paranoid hysterical people telling you "OMG an older men he is a child predator / pervert!!11!11" but really that's silly, yes there's a risk he's a perv but you'll be able to tell that by going on a few dates with him - just like you figure out any other guy seems legit or not.

[Asker]

He does work a lot, so I don't text him during the day. I don't like bothering people at night either, so that's partly why I haven't texted him.

[Asker]

It's more than a 10-15 year age difference.

[Plato]

They're more straight forward, mentally competent, less emotionally troubled and better economic standing. I'd say it would eliminate troubles you would potentially have with typical kids.

[Asker]

Would he be looking for a hook up or a relationship?

[Plato]

I think that's up to you, he probably wouldn't mind if you can prove to him that you're compatible. You do this by engaging in conversation and activities. He'll be impressed if you ask him out.

[Asker]

He initiated a date.

[Plato]

So accept it.

[Asker]

He was waiting for me to pick a day. I told him when I'd be free and I got no response.

[Plato]

Give him some time.

[Asker]

It's been 5 days.

[Plato]

There's got to be an explanation for it, but then don't wait up and don't feel down. Sometimes things happen.

[Plato]

You know what, just message me exactly what you told him in the last 3 texts.

[Asker]

That's the thing. He really doesn't text or call me.

[Plato]

Well give me more information, message me and tell me detail for detail what happened, because frankly I can't give you anything with 0 data.

[Plato]

Thanks.

[Serenity-chan]

I thought guys that are like 26 and up still act like kids. I knew an older guy that was like that age and even though he came across cool and mature and gentleman like and was gorgeous. He was still a child himself. :/

[vladti]

It depends on his motives and if you feel comfortable.
What is he texting? Most older guys hit on young girls for sex.
I have, some girls like the attention, the security of a older guy, I love exploring, most girls have been with young and inexperianced boys. I love to find out and share the experiance and knowledge, have had some wonderful experiances

[Asker]

I know that, but he hasn't hit on me. He asked me out though.

[dav123]

Studies show that relationships between men and women where the man is somewhat older (e. g. 10 or 15 years older) are on average more successful than relationships between couples of more comparable age, and those couples report being happier. (Interestingly the opposite is true for relationships between young guys and older women.)

[kheserthorpe]

He's more likely interested in hooking than a relationship, but might be in either - just like guys your own age.

Depending on how old he is, he may not text that much.

Be yourself, try to be open to him, and expect him to be open back.

[lkjhg69cum]

Simple, try me, you'll love it! Love, lust, whatever... lol. ;) Text whenever you have something real, or sexy, or fun to say. Don't text him every few minutes or he'll get pissed. Just be yourself.

[Asker]

I haven't even texted him for a couple days. I usually ask "How was your day?", but is that annoying?

[dav123]

A couple of days, I'd say it seems fine to text him something like that

[lkjhg69cum]

No, that's fine. If he is into you then you can text him several times a day no problem, unless he hates texts, like some people do then you'd better call, unless you are texting nudes, then share the wealth honey!

[jacquesvol]

They're mostly married.

[Asker]

He's divorced.

[jacquesvol]

Each one is different but most have a lot of experience , also in manipulating girls.

[BrianG123]

Define older.

[Asker]

More than 10 years.

[BrianG123]

I mean what's his age? Guys in their 40s didn't grow up with texting and might not like doing it as much as a guy in his 20s or 30s.

If he's recently divorced, he might be unfamiliar with dating. You might need to guide him on certain things.

But guys are the same. We mature a bit more so I'd try not to act too clingy or immature. Although he's probably interested in some parts of that - you being young is probably why he's interested. It probably makes him feel young.

[jacquesvol]

Ten years more than you? that's barely middle aged! :D:D

[Asker]

He's been divorced a while. He had a girlfriend, but they've been broken up a few months or so.

[dav123]

10 to 15 years older or so seems like a relatively small age difference to me.