A night of naked sleepwalking turns embarrassing for me and upsets my boyfriend, but now he puts the blame on me. Is this really my fault?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend had three of his friends over last night to play pool in the garage and drink some beer, I've just gotten home from work about 9 PM and was exhausted from waking up early every day this week. I told the guys hello, ate some dinner and jumped in the shower to get ready for bed. When I got out of the shower my boyfriend came in the room to talk for a minute, he took my towel off and felt me up for a few minutes and asked me to sleep naked so I was naked when he came to bed. He then he went back outside with his friends and I went to sleep.

Evidently in the middle the night I decided to go for a stroll while I was still asleep. ''from what I was told'' about 1 AM two of my boyfriends friends were inside fixing some drinks while my boyfriend and the other guy was in the garage when I walked out of my room butt naked sleepwalking. The two guys said they were startled at first and then realized I was sleepwalking, They said I walk around for about 10 minutes moving some things around in the kitchen and then went and sat on the couch, one of them asked me what I was doing and I guess I said I was looking for the TV remote. A few minutes later my boyfriend walked in from the garage and saw me sitting on the couch naked and asked me what I was doing and again I said looking for the TV remote. He asked me why I was naked and again I said ''because Im looking for the TV remote! The other two guys told him that I was sleepwalking and then he picked me up and carried me to bed.

I don't know how late they stayed up but this morning my boyfriend told me what happened and I was completely embarrassed, my boyfriend did not seem to understand and he was just upset with me making it sound like it was my fault. I told him that was so inconsiderate of his friends not to come get you right away and instead they just watched walk me walk around naked.

Why is my boyfriend placing the blame on me? Was there really anything I could do?

[dupe666]

Unless he's completely retarded, he knows very well he should not be upset over this. Don't think he doesn't understand.
He must be upset since it's fresh and I'd bet his anger is not meant for you, but his friends. Only you're taking the anger because he's either around you more, or because he's too cowardly to confront them.

Last thing you should keep in mind is that if he uses this as a reason to attack you for a while and even torture you mentally, chances are, he either doesn't care about you, or is mentally unstable. If he did care, he'd keep himself in check.

Give him time to cool of. Emotions are a tricky business. But if his blaming persists, please leave him and feel grateful you sleep walked that night.

[UberTroll]

It's not really your fault if you were sleeping and it does seem weird that his friends didn't tell him as soon as they realized you were sleep walking. But now that you know you're a sleep walker it would probably be a good idea to wear pajamas whenever people are in the house just in case.

[Arnelle]

Two things:
1.) undid ur bf ask u to sleep naked?
2.) Y DID U LISTEN TO HIM?
No, I really don't think this is ur fault, but don't sleep makes anymore

[Arnelle]

I mean don't sleep naked

[HandsomeRaj]

1. Have you ever sleep walked before?
2. If yes does your bf know that you sleep walk?
3. Technically speaking it's his fault to make you sleep naked w/o having the foresight of knowing if just in case this situation arose what'd happen since he had buddies at home
4. However, assuming he didn't know you may sleep walk it's no one's fault
5. Instead of supporting & standing up for you, he's embarrassed?
6. His friends are not at fault for being there but they were decent enough and didn't say or do anything to you so it's ok

[hsshannah96]

It’s his fault for having his buddies when he KNEW this girl had a history of sleepwalking.

[redshirt202]

If you have a history of sleepwalking, you were reckless for agreeing to sleep naked, at least without the door locked.

Outside of that, if you were sleepwalking, there was nothing you could've really done about it. Not sure what there is for him to be upset with you about unless he thinks you were faking. Maybe he's just upset at the situation rather than you specifically?

[Asker]

I did sleepwalk a few times when I was way younger but as far as I know it hasn't happened in years and I know I wasn't naked

[Shyguy_1988]

I'm sorry but that made me laugh, that is pretty funny, I must admit and probably the last time you sleep naked with people over. It is believable to because I slept walked before and kept answering the same response when someone asked what I wad doing. I said "I want the slices" whatever that means. Now back to you, honestly, I don't believe its your fault here and your boyfriend should put the blame on himself (asking you to sleep naked) or friends for letting you do that for so long. But he must not be understanding of a sleep walking, but I know what its like, you remember nothing and really have no control over what you are doing. Maybe explain to that to him.

[yaddayaddayadda02]

Your boyfriend is an ass. Especially if you have a history of sleepwalking. If he doesn't get over it, it might be time to move on.

[wowzer]

Yes, you could've found that damn remote. Great story.

[Katy16]

He shouldn't be blaming you if you were sleep walking you couldn't help it and he IS the one who wanted you to sleep naked so...

[greycadillacs]

Your boyfriend is in the wrong. There was nothing you possibly could have done. He needs to realize this and grow up.

[Shahid757]

If you have a habit of sleepwalking then it was your fault as you should not have slept naked.
Otherwise you are not guilty

[Anonymous]

Its his fault. He asked you to sleep naked and his friends are assholes

[Onemario1234]

There was nothing you could do. He has no right to place the blame on you.

[Anonymous]

That's a really odd thing to do... look for the t. v. remote as you sleep walk, though I've seen odder

[hsshannah96]

I slept walked as a child and I remember my mother leading back to my bed while I was saying, “where’s spongebob” “no I have to find spongebob”

[Sirrichey555]

Nothing you could have done. You are perfectly fine.

[MDC427]

This is not your fault. Your boyfriend is overreacting and maybe overprotective.

[adamski24]

Because he is a fuckwit

[Mjeremy111]

Did u do it on purpose?