Can a guy ever regain interest?

[Standingpretty]

If a guy loses interest in a girl, is it possible that he will like her again sometime later? Also, why would a guy invest months in a girl, call her by a nick name, admit that he liked her, then stop answering her messages and not call her back? Why do guys stop liking girls and how do you avoid it or regain interest? Thanks.

[sonic241928]

A guy can definitely regain interest...I guess it would depend on what caused the guy to lose interest in the first place, and whether that can be fixed. Like if I lost interest in a girl because I thought she was leading me on, but later showed me that she was really interested in me, then I'd start to see her as a potential girlfriend again.

As to why a guy might invest so much and suddenly stop, it really could be anything. It could be extreme nervousness (esp. if he stops the contact RIGHT after admitting he likes you-- a guy admitting to a girl that he likes her is taking a huge risk and feels extremely vulnerable). Actually that is what it sounds like. (In some cases, it could be that he found someone else, or that he's having a serious problem in his own life--can't entirely rule those out). My advice would be to let it go for a while--a few weeks to a max of about 2 months, whatever feels right to you--don't contact him within that time, and then just try to strike up a friendly conversation at the end of that waiting period, like "Hey how've you been? It's been a while!" Absence makes the heart grow fonder (and hopefully, more confident) : )

[Standingpretty]

Haha hopefully. I really hope that it's just the fact that it's summer, and he's busy. But, I still feel sad because he hasen't answered any of my messages, and he has read them. I would be fine with it if he said he coulden't talk for awhile because he was on vacation, but completely ignoring me is not ok. But, if he's a good boy when I see him again, I guess I will forgive him. :)

[sonic241928]

Sounds like a plan. It can be disheartening when you don't know how the other person feels, but such is the stuff of life and we're made stronger for it, I guess. I've been there. Try to enjoy hobbies, interests, friends, family, life in the meantime...Good luck...hope all goes well for you : )

[Standingpretty]

Thanks, I will :).

[ChicaDelMar]

I'm in the same situation, so I really appreciated reading this. I figured I'd wait until after the holidays and then maybe get in touch.

[x-pensive]

It's very simple.

When a guy seems to lose interest in a girl, it's because he'd decided that the disadvantages outweigh the advantages of seeing her.

That's it. We all have our limits.

[BurningSun22]

I don't know why. Guys just naturally wander I guess. My boyfriend he looks at other girls and it bothers me because I don't want him thinking they are prettier than me or more attractive. But all he says is that its a guy thing. But that really is just a lame excuse to get away with it. Honestly I just think guys do this to find that they want.They can never make up their mind about women. Why do you think they watch born. They simple get bored easily. It is all about eye candy for them. So they go around experimenting with girls and if it doesn't work out they leave. It happened to me a lot after I broke up with my ex. Guys just came and go. Things would go well and then BOOM they leave because of one thing they didn't like. My advice is don't let it get to you. They weren't worth it anyway if they couldn't see the good in you and the value for having you as a long term partner. You will find the right guy. They are out there. Simple guys that don't play games and know what they want in a woman. SO just let that Mr.Right come to you and keep dating until then to know what you want in a partner.

[Anonymous]

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