Does it automatically mean I'm friend-zoned when a girl uses the word FRIEND to describe your relationship, even when there has been obvious flirting?

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Met this girl Jane recently, things were going well, texting/flirting a ton and getting into the habit of wishing each other goodnight/sleep tight/sweet dreams fairly regularly. Thought all was well.

Today, we are talking via text, having a really good personal conversation and REALLY opening up to each other saying things like "we know we're here for each other", "that's awesome that you have a friend you can talk to, and now that we've talked about it you have me as well", giving "hugs" and stuff like that... anyways, at one point in the conversation we were talking about past relationship things and she says "well, when the right person comes along it'll be alright" as well as THIS doozie "part of being FRIENDS is being able to talk about this stuff"... now, I'm not sure if I'm over-thinking it by looking at the word FRIENDS but that hit me as a BAD BAD thing... am I focusing on that too much? AHHH, don't know what to think...

InspiringDeeply · Accepted Answer

To me when a girl says friends, it doesn't mean that you don't have a chance.
But if she uses the word frequently to describe you as a friend- then yes. You are a friend.
Sometimes when I'm scared that a guy doesn't feel the same way about me in the past, I have used the word friend to describe our relationship. I don't like to sound to clingy or jumping forward head first into things.
You'll never know unless you are straight up honest with her and describe where YOU are hoping the relationship will lead. This doesn't mean you should be like "Hey, yo, you need to tell me you like me or not- or I'm gonna drop you." But just tell her that you have feelings for her and hope the relationship will progress further on her terms. Because one person can't decide a relationship.

smalls1995 · Accepted Answer

Who said, "you have me as well." ? If you said that, it sounds like you're just a friend because you were referring to another friend. Either way, make it known you're interested now because it will just get more awkward down the road. I had to reject a guy after a year and that was a painful experience! I wish he had told me in the first place even if I showed no signs of interest.

curiousityhelpskitty · Accepted Answer

You ovi like her, you should ask her how she feels about you. But it seems like she just likes u as a friend or maybe she's hiding her feelings cause she thinks you just see da relationship only on friendship levels. Ask her :)

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

bro, it means she's put a clear line between you and her. you got to use your intuition. when you said she said "well, when the right person comes along it'll be alright" it means she open to a relationship in general but not too much hope.

about the FRIENDS part she could be just making a simple lie so the conversation doesn't go awkward.

best bet you just weigh this off probability and go in that direction. you gotta weigh the signal which is stronger. if you think she calling you FRIEND zeroes out your chances, then she wouldn't be on the phone with you in the first place. you seem to be in her attention.

ValleyofDrakes · Accepted Answer

Yes. That is a blatant attempt to put you there. You can easily get out by showing a display of interest beyond flirting. Like hand holding or kissing.

Anonymous · Answer

They often do use the word friend to let a guy know they aren't interested, but not always. "well, when the right person comes along it'll be alright" tells me she is telling you she isn't the right person for you.

Prof_Don · Answer

Make a bold move on her... tell her that u want to be more than friends , and then ask her out on a date. Passivity is your worst enemy... make a move NOW!

harakiri · Answer

yeah... she friend-zoned ya. make a play for more or abandon this fish.

ollymay123 · Answer

No, you are not overthinking. Girls use the word "friends" to imply that that's what you are to them.

justbeinghonest · Answer

Just kiss her and get out of the friendzone in case you are in it. Grow a pair !!

Anonymous · Answer

Remember that people MARRY their best friends (guys) not some stranger on the street. so do not take it to heart.

been_waiting · Answer

I think she was trying to make it clear that she only sees you as a friend. :/

justaregularguyy · Answer

yeah man.. If she uses the friend word a lot you have no chance. It always happens to me.

Does it automatically mean I'm friend-zoned when a girl uses the word FRIEND to describe your relationship, even when there has been obvious flirting?

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