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MEN! Your honesty please. Is it true that all you care about are bjs?

bjs? I posted a question "Is this a good gift for a guy friend?" Most responses were something like this, "9/10! You know what could make it better? A bj!" And it sorta irritated me cause they know I am under 18 and it was for a guy friend not a boyfriend or anything. When I was dating, my guy gave me sweet and meaningful gifts and seem to treasure my gift which was a piece of paper (I don't know why he treasured it lol) and a Valentine's card I made for him. So was he faking or something? Cause I find it hard to believe. I am 17 and have no plans to give any bjs anytime soon but do answer my question. THIS IS SERIOUS
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  • No. Not at all. The ones who ONLY care about blowjobs only see you as sex, or they are selfish. Simple as; sexual act, no strings attached kinda guys.

    A man who loves you cares more than that. Cares more than sex. They care about how your day was, making you smile, keeping you happy etc. A girl who gives blowjobs and sex, well it's the icing on the cake, but it's not the be all and end all.

    I think there are quite a few men who are looking for a relationship, someone to settle with and love. Obviously sexual compatibility plays a part but it's not a dealbreaker for most men.

    • Awww thanks!

    • Eg. I was interested in someone. Everything was sex this, dirty talk that, suck me baby, etc etc. Eventually I gave up and lost interest - he clearly only wanted sex. I had a bad day today (long story). My boyfriend got angry and spent the rest of his working day hunting the net for info, calling in professional help, etc etc. He was determined to try and fix my day and make me smile. We didn't have sex day, his priority was trying to fix things and stop me quietly sobbing in my car. So, men who want to be around don't care about blowjobs. Sure my boyfriend loves it, but he doesn't expect to come through the front door with me on my knees, mouth open, waiting for him. There are bigger things on his mind :) Keep your chin up :)

    • Thanks. I appreciate it!

  • Sex & BJ's is a not a gift you give a man. That is just a normal part of a relationship, if you two are already sexually active together. I would agree with you that other gifts would be necessary for their birthday. If not, what would be the difference between a BJ on a man's birthday & the ones you give him on a regular basis? Nothing, so make the birthday special with something unique. Also, I completely understand you being 17, & not wanting to have sex yet. In fact, I respect you for that, & encourage you to keep going. Having sex in high school is not a good idea.

    • Thank you very much!

  • So I have a lot of guy friends and from there converstations I hear its not that important, but I think it all depends on the guy. Because I have a guy friend who would never go down on a girl and he doesn't expect any bjs either. But if you don't want to do it don't he should respect your choices and if he doesn't he can kick rocks!

    • Aww. Thanks!

Most Helpful Guys

  • Don't get me wrong - they're great (and you'll find out when you're ready that any oral is great), but guys care about tons of other stuff. Just seeing a girl smile can mean tons to a guy. A text can mean the world. We can be sentimental too.

    Don't lose faith in us :-)

    • Thanks! :) I'll try not to lol.

    • His favourite chocolates are Creme and my mum has Lindt wrappers. So I am thinking, I buy a box of Creme, remove the wrappers (with clean hands) and wrap each Creme with a Lindt wrapper. Then I put it in like a jar or something and tell him it's his favourite candy. He opens it and sees Lindt (not his favourite candy) than I make him eat one with his eyes close and he realises its Creme! That is the gift I plan to give Does it sound good?

    • Yeah that's cute! It shows you care enough to put time and effort into it. Which shows you care and were thinking about him. It'll make him feel good.

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  • Not no but hell no!! I care about dozens of other thing but that's not a biggie unless they stopped completely for months. I'm really kinky and that's what I care about: spanking, anal, bondage, etc.

    • Oh uh okay.

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  • Once you start being sexual, a special gift and no sex is a disappointment, to guys.

    Special gifts do matter. But sex (uality) matters, on an emotional level, a LOT to guys in relationships.

    • Oh :( So I guess he won't really like my gift that much :(

    • Personally I -do- like sentimental gifts too. But they sort of don't replace one another as you get older at least.

    • So as you get older you only like sexual gifts?

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  • I think it was real. yes sex for most guys is something they are looking forward to in a relationship but at least for me I want someone I can love and be affectionate with as well as enjoy time together outside the bedroom.

    other things you can do for a guy other than sexual favors can be anything from giving him a hug to cooking/buying a food you know he enjoys or helping him with something he need's done.

    • His favourite chocolates are Creme and my mum has Lindt wrappers. So I am thinking, I buy a box of Creme, remove the wrappers (with clean hands) and wrap each Creme with a Lindt wrapper. Then I put it in like a jar or something and tell him it's his favourite candy. He opens it and sees Lindt (not his favourite candy) than I make him eat one with his eyes close and he realises its Creme! That is the gift I plan to give! What do you think?

    • that sounds like a very lovely idea and at least to me quite romantic. I say he'll enjoy it. :)

    • Awww thanks! :)

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  • If you're agaisnt anything sexual then a a video game and a tight hug is the next best thing.

    • That's not what irritates me. I am okay with most sexual things. What bugs me is that a guy would say my gift is almost perfect and all that it is missing is a bj

    • You need to understand that guys are more sexual and horny than women in general. He probably does like your gift, but he definitely wouldn't mind a bj. It's meant to devalue you or be condescending, bjs have a mágical effect. If he doesn't say he wanted a bj added to the gift, he still wouldn't oppose you if you were to blow him. It's hard to understand if you're not of those females with a high sex drive or have lots of experience. Male mentality is very different from female. Those guys who said they don't care about bjs just don't wanna come off as assholes or horn dogs, but they definitely wouldn't say no if you were to do it lol.

    • But I mean if I got you a gift and you cared about me, and you liked the gift, you wouldn't say "aw no blow job, meh gift" would you? I am not asking what if I offered or anything but what if the option for bj was not there?

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  • It matters if you're having sex, but for a gift, no, I'd prefer something not sexual. Ok, bjs are awesome, but for a gift, something else is better, a bj can be looked like "shit, I forgot to get him a give... well, a bj will do". It seems like you didn't put any effort.

    Men love bjs, but as a gift? No.

    • Thanks!! :)

    • His favourite chocolates are Creme and my mum has Lindt wrappers. So I am thinking, I buy a box of Creme, remove the wrappers (with clean hands) and wrap each Creme with a Lindt wrapper. Then I put it in like a jar or something and tell him it's his favourite candy. He opens it and sees Lindt (not his favourite candy) than I make him eat one with his eyes close and he realises its Creme! That is the gift I plan to give! What do you think?

  • i don't give a shit about BJs. in fact i'm one of the few guys who dislike receiving BJs

    • Thanks!! :)

  • im sure most guys would enjoy a BJ but in the right context only. in this case nah. im not sure how he took it but if he's held onto it for this long then that definitely means something wouldn't you agree. there's feelings and emotions attached to that note because of how long he's had it. but all guys liking bjs? I can't answer for every guy, some guy in this post already said he doesn't like bjs so MERP lol.

    • That note is not the gift lol. I would agree though. Hahahah

    • yeah I know its not the gift but you said it was from before.

    • Yeah it was. :) Thanks!

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  • I think more of girl if she didn't i love the girl for herself

    • I don't understand

    • I think he means he respects it when a girl doesn't easily give away a blow job. He loves a girl for her personality and character rather than sex.

    • @DreamHope Ohhhhhh. I wasn't gonna give myself away though lol

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  • bj has never been the soul focus of my dirty mind, i usually dont complain just as long as we both get off

    • Hmm so bjs are not the only thing a guy cares about? How do you feel about that opinion that guy posted on my question?

    • if your referring to bastuss's post the sound of gagging, moaning, screaming, its all the same to me like i said originally its about the end result for me (almost completely unrelated... my lovely lady actually enjoys bj's. in her words "it gives me a power rush knowing i can make you feel that good)

    • "I posted a question "Is this a good gift for a guy friend?" Most responses were something like this, "9/10! You know what could make it better? A bj!" And it sorta irritated me cause they know I am under 18 and it was for a guy friend not a boyfriend or anything. "

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  • Poll results confirm that not everyone here is a creep hun. Don't pay attention to those but rather to the ones really cooperating.

    • Thanks! :)

  • If I answer this question - is there a BJ involved?

    • And no

    • So little sense of humor. I see why guys only want that from you. You are a wall.

    • Says the guy who asked an underage girl if a BJ was involved.

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  • No, i prefer real penetration than just bj , able to listen moaning sound is great deal for me.

    • Um okay but I am asking if a girl were to give you a gift would you be like "aww no sex :(" if it wasn't with sex?

    • It depend of his hobbies though, for me , su-47 berkut scale model will be very nice gift , the point is , find your hobbies/interests..

    • I mean your bf hobbies/interests 😁

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  • He'll be happy enough knowing that you were thinking about him and got him a gift to begin with. Yes, men care about bj's and sex and have a tendency to focus on that. But when it comes to birthdays and gifts, he'll be happy enough knowing that you care. The whole BJ thing was is a very good idea, but its not necessary. GaGers tend to troll a lot, it was all just fun and games.

    • Thanks! :)

  • All guys want to want pussy, butt, and boobs. It is that simple. However, some are able to control it for meaningful reasons.

    • Hmmmm :(

    • That is the way they are designed. We are visual. That does not mean we only want sex, other things depending on the guy can be special too. For example: My ex girlfriend looked so hot in a bikini nicest butt perfect size boobs. Anyway when I saw her I was getting hot on the inside, I wanted to get some of that. However, I believe in sex after marriage, so I was fighting against my hormones, pretty brutal.

    • BUUUUUT what if a girl you cared about, got you a cool gift, would you be like "aww no sexual stuff? This gift is less than perfect!"

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  • What? No, thats ignorant most of the guys on this site are horny freaks dont judge all men off what some weirdos on the internet said

    • Thanks.

  • Is all we care about BJs? Some teenagers do, and some don't.
    Was he disappointed by your gifts? Probably. I mean, you got him a piece of paper. Teen guys very rarely get sentimental about stuff like that. 10 to 1 odds say he pretended to like it, but probably hasn't touched it again.

    • Okay I think you are confused lol. The piece of paper wasn't a gift. It was out of randomness. He did keep it and has had in the front of his binder for some time now. :P

    • His favourite chocolates are Creme and my mum has Lindt wrappers. So I am thinking, I buy a box of Creme, remove the wrappers (with clean hands) and wrap each Creme with a Lindt wrapper. Then I put it in like a jar or something and tell him it's his favourite candy. He opens it and sees Lindt (not his favourite candy) than I make him eat one with his eyes close and he realises its Creme! That is the gift I plan to give

    • Yeah, you could do that. Or you could just give him a box of cremes. As a fellow teenage boy, I know I'd prefer an unopened candy that hasn't been touched by a different type of wrapper and another person.

  • What? No! I care about a lot more than that..

    • Really? So if you cared about this girl and she gave you a gift WITHOUT SEXUAL THINGS will you be like "Awww no sexual thing" or will you actually appreciate it?"

    • I would actually appreciate it.

    • Aww. Thanks! :) You give me hope in humanity lol

  • What's a bjs? You men Bj?

    • blow job

    • Yeah I know what is but the acronym for blow job isn't bjs its bj there is no s in there.

    • I mean multiple. Blow jobS

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  • i hate blow jobs and it gross me out :S a mouth is not something to put ur dick inside

    • :D :D :D :D

    • not everyhole is to put ur dick inside it :S i am sure its not in our hands or maybe the holes are small or else people had put their dick inside nose ears etc

    • Lol I get what you mean

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  • Just give whatever gift you wanna give.. if he gets mad because he gets no sex or bj right away.. maybe he isn't worth the time..

    But i mean.. we do care for sex and bj if we are sexually active

    • I KNOW!! But what I am asking is... Okay so lets say there is a special girl that you really care about and she gets you a gift. Will you be like "Aww damn no bj!"

    • His favourite chocolates are Creme and my mum has Lindt wrappers. So I am thinking, I buy a box of Creme, remove the wrappers (with clean hands) and wrap each Creme with a Lindt wrapper. Then I put it in like a jar or something and tell him it's his favourite candy. He opens it and sees Lindt (not his favourite candy) than I make him eat one with his eyes close and he realises its Creme! That is the gift I plan to give!

    • I honestly think what matters is the thought of it.. You are putting effort on giving/preparing something to him, i would appreciate this very much. At the end is something which will make him happier.. he should not care for a bj hun.. Mmm in all honesty, i would not care if its something you are doing out of love u know? Sex will just happen if it needs to happen

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  • titties, ass, and beer

    • Hmmm :(

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