I understand four years is quite a while, but dude you can allow this to go on. If he says he won't do it again, but he can say a lot of things. I would tell you not to pay attention to what he says, but what he does. If you get used to that treatment, you get used to being disrespected. If the guy clearly has no regard for what his behavior does to your relationship, he has no regard for the relationship. You are letting this happen. My boyfriend lives 30 mins away from me, and he usually is 45 minutes -1 hours away if he comes from work, but that has NEVER stopped him from calling, notifying a delay or just showing up. He doesn't need to see a sleep doctor, don't try to make him look like a victim, because a serious sleep disorder patient has consciousness and is aware of what his/her problem is causing to his/her life and the relationships of others around them. This is a matter of him not giving a fuck, and this has nothing to do with a sleep disorder.
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there's a problem with respect here. Now it's sppointments, but can become may worse in the future. You should give him an ultimatum. And say to him "this is not about sleep, it's about respect."
Like my boyfriend would say "fuuuuuuck thaaat"
You can find someone that won't leave you hanging. Dump that ass hole.
That doesn't sound fun.
Either he's being very very inconsiderate or he's being a jerk. Or I suppose he's just plain exhausted all the time
(Hopefully not a jerk who's sleeping with someone else - other options are more likely, but I'm surprised no one's mentioned it)
Given you've talked to him, I'm not sure there's somewhere useful to go :/ What's keeping him from getting enough sleep? I hate to say "make fewer dates until this clears up" but don't know what else to suggest...
Does he do that to everyone too, including the other important things in his life? If so, then it's a problem that you may want to tackle. It could be pathological, go see a doctor. Maybe his genes are messing with his ability to stay awake. Or maybe he has terrible sleeping habits?
But if his lack of care and sleepiness only applies to you, then dump him.
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Well first off, do you ever try CALLING him to wake him up?
Second, does he fall asleep in the middle of doing something? Like driving, working, or such? If so, then yes, he needs to see a sleep doctor. If not, he's lazy, or lying and he really didn't "Fall asleep", just using it as an excuse.
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