It depends. But to answer your question: yes, I think friendship can still happen after rejection Personally, I've never received a definitive "no" from a woman who rejected my advances, but I've been given the cold shoulder or the hint to take a hike. Truth be told, I'd prefer a solid no over an up-in-the-air maybe. I don't take it as being lead on, I usually take the woman' s lack of engagement as a sign to move on and cut my loses.
I've had one girl who was a coworker of mine who gave me the cold shoulder, or at least I perceived it as such. Anyway, I left her alone, only saying hi and bye to her whenever the work day ended. She rarely spoke to anyone at the job but she had an active social life outside of work that she shared on Facebook. I took her cold shoulder approach as a no and kept stepping and eventually found another girl who clicked with me.
To my utter shock, the girl who rejected me started random shooting me FB IM saying how I don't speak to her no more and only speak "on the job stuff" with her and nothing more. I literally laughed out loud as I read the messages because it became obvious to me that she was playing the hard-to-get approach but I read it as a rejection. Just goes to show: guys and gals came often misinterpret each others signals.
I tried that but it didn't work. It's kinda like someone dangling something in front of your face and saying "Want it? Can't have it." Not worth it. If a guy can easily stay friends with a girl after a rejection/break-up he either has amazing emotional strength, likes emotionally torturing himself, or wasn't really into the girl in the first place.
This has happened to me from both sides. Usually, the self-respecting guys won't remain my friend when I reject them and the less attractive guys will. I have only been rejected once and (he led me on) I have absolutely no intention of remaining friends. He set me up to make a complete fool of and humiliate myself. He did not apologise nor clarify why he rejected me so abruptly. Now he thinks we can go back to our friendly banter and flirting because he has very few girls in his life. I have a tonne of guys who want me and/or have been decent friends to me... see ya later mate.
It's all about you.. if you feel its gonna be hard to return to before, best not to be close friends with her anymore. If I am a gal, I would respect the guy more tht way (but it is just me).
Not saying tht you should treat her with contempt or any bitterness if u decide not to be friends with her anymore. Just put it into a distance.
My friend rejected me, we still talk, sometimes we're closer than ever, but any time he gets a girlfriend he disappears from my life. Tosser. Anyway. I think it really depends, some can't handle the rejection, so the relationship gets strained, some handle it well, and are okay continuing things ad if nothing has ever happened.
I think this is a case-by-case basis. If you two were good friends before, there's a lot of hope. The less romantically involved you were, the easier it'll be to remain friends. That said, I'd definitely give her space for a while if I were you. How long depends on the both of you, but friendship can (usually) be achieved. :)
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I wouldn't remain friends with her even if I was forced at gunpoint. Whatever her reasons for rejecting me may be, its obviously a personal insult and humiliation for me. The only way I can get over her, is but completely eliminating every trace of her from my life (which includes deleting her pics, removing her from my phone contacts, deleting her from social networks etc). I can't 'pretend' to be just friends with her and suffer emotional pain on a regular basis. In fact, she would become a total stranger to me, and I wouldn't even say 'hi' if I accidentally bump into her.
I may sound mean, but this is my way of dealing with rejection. At least I walk away from her life with my head held high, rather than languish in the friendzone she put me in.
No. I would be ashamed, dishonored and feel terrible about myself, spiritually and emotionally wounded, and being around them would re-open the wound, especially if it was becoming obvious they like someone else.
I've had several girls reject my romantic interest in them and we're still friends. A couple are very close friends who give me advice with other women.
The one thing that upsets me is women who agree to a date and later say it wasn't, and who lead you on when they no longer have romantic interest. A woman being honest and telling me no has my respect, a woman who wastes my time because she likes the attention is a bitch.
I was shocked that this question is posted by a guy.
Usually only women think this is even possible or even wanted in any way.
no, of course you cannot stay friends.
the only time you try is if you still think it is possible if you hang around you will be able to hook up with her at some point.
no guy wants to stay friends. and men and women cannot be friends in the way women like to think they can.
It's my personality fault, but I am apparently incredibly infatuated that a girl can't help but feel sorry for me and go out with me. And it ends up not working out but we break always on friendly terms (me being the nice guy I am).
So yes. 2 times it has happened that I remained friends with a girl after rejection. It probably also has something to do with the kind of girls that I fall for. They're nice girls too, not the mean or arrogant types, but girls that you can reason with.
I'm a woman and I never did this. Friends? Really? No way in hell.
No. There's other people we can be friends with. It wouldn't be worth the emotional strain.
No way I would stay friend with someone rejected me :/ it's will make me feel useless all the time :/
I wouldn't stay friends maybe hie and bye... I would need time to get over my feelings.
Fuck no.
Why would I do something as stupid as that?
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