Why do guys stare at me on the tube?

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I'm in London for a while and I've been using the tube to get around, obviously. I've noticed that guys around my age tend to get on and sit down and then just either constantly stare at me, or are constantly looking over at me. I spend most of my life trying not to draw attention to myself so I spend these tube rides with my ear buds in, my music playing, and I'm staring at my hands or at the ads on the tube the whole time. 
I'm not flirting, I'm not doing or saying anything interesting, I'm literally trying to blend in as best as I can. I'm not even particularly attractive or anything. They never do anything about it either. Just look and look and look until they get off at their stop. So can someone explain to me what the deal is, because it makes for a rather intimidating and uncomfortable ride to have someone staring at you the whole time. 
The women keep to themselves, and the older men even keep to themselves. So basically this whole thing confuses me, haha

MrMuffinMan · Accepted Answer

An interesting insight into the life of a girl. You might find it easier if you find some way to invite them to come over and talk with you as at least you won't have to have them glaring at you the whole time and you might make a new friend which is always nice.

If you really want to have guys mind their own business a couple tips might be. Keep in mind that I am a girl and just throwing out random untested suggestions based on how I think I would react if I was the guy.

You could say something rude like, umm can I help you? Then the guy will probably retaliate and try to avoid eye contact. It might be awkward afterwards though

Travel with a male friend who understands this and if a guy starts eyeballing you you could reach for your male friends hand and squeeze it or pretend to whisper something in his ear. Then the guy will feel like you are already taken. If the guy is a big muscular guy then even better as the other guy will likely feel intimidated.

I am not sure if this would work, it might actually gather more attention. But you could try wearing a burka the guy will not be able to tell if you are attractive or not and may see you as unattractive since he is probably not a part of that culture hence if you were Muslim would hold different values, ideas and ideals than he does. It also says that you are exceptionally modest maybe already taken and he won't expect you to be the kind of girl he could easily pick up.

Wear a sleeping mask or painted sunglasses so you can't see anything around you. Then just sit back and listen to music. It would make it easier to ignore them. You could quite easily lose track of where you are though and miss your stop so be careful.

Toocooltoadmitit · Accepted Answer

I'm guilty of doing this on the tube, I'll sit there, I'll look around and and through boredom I'll look around the carriage and I always see at least one gorgeous looking girl on the carriage and I'll give her a thorough inspection before jumping off at my stop and then the girl is immediately forgotten about.

Guys tend to do it just to pass the time. I can see why you will find it creepy or discomforting.

emmabee11 · Accepted Answer

Guys are guys... they stare at women all the time... lol i get stared at all the time too by men even when i'm a over-weight girl lol men just love any chance to conqure, i know it can get annoying but you just got to ignore it... they can't all date you all at once, i don't think it ever occurs to men how many men we get staring at us every day.

Jahnnavi · Accepted Answer

Guys will be guys I guess. They just love looking at attractive girls. And they probably find you attractive that's why they stare. Or another probability might be is that they have got no work to do. That's why for time pass they stare at girls in the tube.

sfauo · Answer

I ride the train everyday, and it must be very annoying to be a girl in the train! Besides seeing what you've experienced, the whole staring thing, I've seen guys do much direct and worse things unfortunately.

I'll give you my perspective as a guy. I notice everyone on the train, and yeah I will look a bit more at a girl I think is cute. However, I don't stare as I consider it to be rude, plus I'd be a bit embarrassed to be caught!

So from these guys that are staring until they get off the train, I think they're just unaware of how uncomfortable they're making you and are just looking at girls to pass time, amongst other ideas. Again, an unfortunate aspect of the train experience for women I suspect.

broadsword · Answer

You are a pretty woman and guys can't help look at pretty women. As you have posted you are a feminist so it is in your natural to not want to be looked at in this way. Please don't feel threatened or intimidated by it it's normal girl guy thing.

ItzDizzY · Answer

Well it's hard to avoid eye contact with people, especially on the tube as it's most likely cramped during the rush hours and there's no empty space to look at so I tend to look on the ground or just look at other people to freak them out lol.

witchprincess · Answer

Guys like looking at attractive girls. That's all lol.

meatballs21 · Answer

People on public transit in the UK don't stare any more or less than people in Canada. They fink you is fit, innit.

Punkbuster107 · Answer

I'm a yankee, and I'd like to help you, but I haven't got a clue what a "tube ride" is. Hahah.

Anonymous · Answer

A feminist wanting to control mans eyes.. nothing new hear.

Tombstone1000100 · Answer

maybe you dress like shit?  jk

Anonymous · Answer

Well, why not?

Why do guys stare at me on the tube?

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