Friends with benefits always squeezes me tightly when we cuddle/hug?

[Anonymous]

My friends with benefits always holds me extremely tight whenever we hug and/or cuddle. Sometimes it's hard to breathe whenever he does it. Also during intercourse he holds on really tightly. Why does he always hold me so tightly?

[bDizzie]

I'm guessing you want the reason to be because he likes you. Sorry but that's not it. Guys like to cuddle with girls because they are girls. That's not me, I don't do friends with benefits because I want to find one great woman, but a lot of guys will go for friends with benefits and for some reason, girls will go for that arrangement.

[Asker]

Thanks for guessing my wants, even though I asked why he does it tightly, not why he does it in general. I know why he does it, I just want to know why he does it to the point where I can't breathe or move most of the time. That's good for you, most people are different. Not everyone is like you just like not everyone is like me.

[bDizzie]

My bad, I was assuming that's what you wanted based off your response to another answer. And what I want may be different from what other people want, though I'm not getting it because girls could care less about me. Maybe that's why I am sour on fwb, I don't get how girls get anything out of that arrangement. Sorry, this has nothing to do with your question.
He's probably more of a physical type of guy. Maybe he doesn't communicate with words, but he hugs you tightly as a way of showing how he feels.

[tootall889]

A) He is really strong and doesn't realize it…say something. B) He doesn't want to let you go because he has feelings for you…say something C) He really likes to hold on tight for some good sex…not really a problem in my eyes, but if its bothering you…say something.

[Asker]

Thank you for your input! I wasn't sure if it's A or B. My gut is leaning towards B because he's not too too strong. The only thing that bothers me during sex is when I can't breathe because he seems like he's holding on for dear life. lol

[tootall889]

So tell him to lighten up or his ticket to the holy land will be revoked, never be afraid to tell a man about what YOU want in the sack, if it will help you have a better time, then things should change. If you enjoy your set up, where it is purely sex, then talk about the sex you are having…if it's not enjoyable, whats the point?

[beautifulangel76]

Maybe he is holding on so tight that he doesn't realize that he may be hurting you or maybe he loves you and doesn't want to be rejected so he doesn't say anything. I think that you should talk to him about though.