Why men choose bitches over good women?

[Anonymous]

This is something that happens all the time.

Men don't want the woman who shows genuine interests in them. They want the woman who cheats, is crazy, abusive and is a LIAR.
And when you do meet a woman who shows interest in you, you ignore her and treat her like crap as you chase after the bitchy girl who only wants your money.

Are people naturally attracted to the opposite of them? Because I've seen these situations so many times.

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*Bitches*

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I'm single so this question is not about me.
IAlso, I noticed that a lot of men in general date women who are abusive, drama queens, alcoholics, likes to party, but it's confusing because men always claim to want a "good girl"

[MaskedSanity]

Oh hello, female Nice Guy TM.

This applies to you:
https://imgs.xkcd.com/comics/rejection.png

Btw, have you considered that you're being treated like crap, because you're NOT as nice of a person you lead yourself to believe?

"All women want are rich hot guys with lost of money, who treat them like crap!"

Sound familiar?
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[Asker]

Lol I'm single so I'm not being TREATED like anything.

[MaskedSanity]

What does being single have to do with this?

You're whining that men only date "bitches", and by such you imply that you are not one. Your "I'm single" only reinforces my argument.

Look up Nice Guy TM. That's you, only the female version.

[Asker]

This question is not directed towards me it's directed toward men who choose to date women who lie, cheat, drink, use them ext. Ofcourse if you're this type of woman you'll get offended.: ))

[MaskedSanity]

Actually yeah, I am. I am deeply offended by the magnitude of your stupidity.

[Asker]

A hit dog will holler.

*Everytim*
:))
Are you the alcoholic or cheating type?

[Asker]

*Everytime.
And if you don't know what that quote means GOOGLE it

[MaskedSanity]

I am the longterm relationship with a wonderful man type.

Too bad your stupidity fuels your assumptions. Tell me more about my life, I'll wait right here. :3

[Asker]

Ok hit dog.
Have a good night

[MaskedSanity]

Pussying out, eh? Thought so. :33

[pr3ttybr0wn]

the so called bitches are hot, sexy, confident and not boring

self proclaimed good girls don't know how to flirt, are ashamed of being sexy, boring, and too thirsty for a guy. they will do anything for a guy and guys don't respect that unless a commitment has been established. bad bitches know how to keep a man on his toes and they aren't afraid to put themselves first.

[I_Have_No_Balls]

Very true.

[Asker]

You can look good and be a good woman too. This question has nothing to do with looks.

[pr3ttybr0wn]

you can look good and not be sexy either. not all pretty girls are sexy, hell not all sexy girls are even pretty

[CommieDearest]

I don't know ask my boyfriend

https://i.imgur.com/2Kf9z0q.gif

Jk. Seriously though please don't get "nice guy" syndrome it's unbecoming. Who's to say these dude's are better than these women?

[Mesonfielde]

Waaaahhhhhh all girls like only douche bags who treat them badly and don't respect them and are complete assholes, they don't see how Nice™ I have been and thus are obligated to like me for my selfishly selfless behavior, waaaahhhhhh

[MaskedSanity]

Ikr? Textbook behaviour to the T, lmao.

[kheserthorpe]

Men prefer nice women to bitches.

however they tend to pursue hot women regardless of their personality, then judge personality once they're with them.

[Longblackveil]

This should get best answer because that's what I was gonna say :P

Also I think it may be sort of a subconscious thing. Similar to the way girls fall for douchebags

[Thrifty]

This is a myth because a good and virtuous woman is worth more than jewels and rubies.

There, though, is a difference between good women and nice women. Good women do things right whereas nice women people please. However the only one anyone should please is The Lord, your God.

I can see why a man may choose a bitch over a good woman only on the conditions that bitches are down to fuck which is a classic case of flesh vs the spirit. Good women are filled with righteousness, wisdom, joy, and may lead to a fulfilling life but some men may choose sexual desire over the wise choose because or instant gratification rather than delayed gratification.

[Thrifty]

Wise choice*

@asker I understand your question, and I've been there girlfriend. When you choose a bad boy or a bitch it's like when you always wanted something but then when you get it, it wasn't what you expected when you give to someone who cannot give back to you. Then you realized that what you wanted was right underneath your nose all along a person who is able to love and appreciate you.

Movie example: Can't Hardly Wait

Personally, I have accepted that I am okay with being on my own. As long as I have the right and perfect relationship with The Lord, everything else is an bonus.

[BertMacklinFBI]

that's just not true. for the most part lol. I don't want liar, abusive, crazy, cheating, as most guys would say too. it could just be that guys tend to be other good qualities in girls you would qualify as a bitch, vice versa. and they take that chance. also, hotness is a factor hard to ignore and has the great potential to lower tolerance and standards.

[JackKerouac77]

I agree with Bert completely. I've trained myself to TRY and ignore hotness as standard since I've met so many "beautiful" women that were ugly on the inside, but it's hard. Biology is difficult to override.

[Asker]

So a man would put up with that behavior just because a woman looks good?

I think men like a challenge and a woman as I described above will make a good challenge?

[BertMacklinFBI]

@Asker of course he would. and the challenges vary from guy to guy. it depends what he is chasing first to distinguish the type of challenge.

[Bandit74]

Beauty can blind a man. Sometimes a guy won't realize the negative personality traits in a girl if he's "distracted" by her looks. Guys sometimes willingly or just without realizing it ignore personality flaws in proportion to how attractive the girl is. However eventually her beauty will stop blinding him and he will begin to see again. Sometimes it may be too late but eventually he will acknowledge he made a mistake.

[Shyguy_1988]

That isn't true. If a girl showed interest in me and I liked her I wouldn't push her away. If I only saw her as a friend then I wouldn't lead her on. But I will not chase after a girl that is known for cheating and bitchy. They aren't the kind of girls that attract me.

[I_Have_No_Balls]

People like drama, it excites them, I see this all time too.

Same reason girls prefer jerks, there more exciting than the boring nice guy, despite their negative qualities.

[COCOCHANEL]

i just go for looks, what others consider ”boring” is fine with me

[meatballs21]

So men prefer bitches and women prefer assholes. That should mean there's a lot of bitches and assholes together, leaving all us normal, good folks to meet up, right?

I'll be happy with a good girl. There seem to be a lot of them on here complaining that guys never approach them, or that their 'genuine interest'/hints aren't being understood but neither of those things could possibly be their fault.

[Crazyced]

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[decemberxblue]

There is a such thing as "nice girls", and they go through the same thing as nice guys. It's just not talked about as much because men are more vocal about it. All I can say is, maybe you're not going after legit good guys yourself? If that's the case, why complain of guys overlooking good women, but you overlook good men?

[COCOCHANEL]

this ”nice guys” campaign doesn't exist japan

[COCOCHANEL]

in japan

[decemberxblue]

@COCOCHANEL - That's what I've heard as well. As with any significant social change American feminism dealt with dysfunction and this is part of it.

[COCOCHANEL]

hmmm so it's a reaction?

[decemberxblue]

@COCOCHANEL - So much that I'm pretty sure the term didn't even exist before the 70s.

[COCOCHANEL]

ah that makes sense

[decemberxblue]

@COCOCHANEL - I know you said you only recently started liking bad boys. Are they typically most desired in Japan like they are here?

[COCOCHANEL]

yes, esp up until age 20. in hs in japan the bad boys get the prettiest and hottest girls. everyone knows. guys just accept it as a fact of life.

[decemberxblue]

@COCOCHANEL - Damn, I see. Very interesting. Thanks for sharing

[COCOCHANEL]

yeah they are called ヤンキー or チンピラ。some become yakuza later. others just do manual labour jobs for the rest of their lives. and others were just posing to get girls. they drop the act, go to uni and join the white collar workforce.

[decemberxblue]

@COCOCHANEL - Pretty similar to here, then. Out of curiosity, guys don't complain that all the girls only go for ヤンキー? Mafia's tend to be more organized, and don't initiate trouble like gangs. Is that how it is for Yakuza there? (You don't have to answer that if you don't want to)

[COCOCHANEL]

i've never heard a guy complain. they all know it and acknowledge it. ask any honest man in japan.

they raise them. that's the new generation.

[decemberxblue]

@COCOCHANEL - They handle it much better than our men do then! I hope things have went well with who we talked about.

[COCOCHANEL]

hmmm... still too early too tell, i keep a distance

[decemberxblue]

@COCOCHANEL - Got ya. I'm sure you'll read it right.

[Anonymous]

Because you have had this experience doesn't mean that all men go after that type of girl. Also the girl might not act in such a manor when they meet, and after the relationship evolves her true nature and intentions come to light. But again it isn't all men who go after girls like that. It's obvious you're butt-hurt, get over it and find the right guy that will appreciate you.

[RationalMale]

No, we don't prefer bitches. We prefer the most attractive woman with the best personality we can get.

You sound like a "nice guy" venting that girls don't recognize his nice character. Being nice or sweet doesn't count if you're not sexually attractive.

[Anonymous]

Men just want a blowjob and a sandwich. It doesn't matter how much you love him or how much you talk to him, in the end he's going to pick the girl that gives him a blowjob and a sandwich. Even if she's fucking crazy and a pain in the ass to put up with.

[Part6fam]

This explains this phenomenon well lol

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=liZm1im2erU

[AJElectric]

Yeah they say that opposites usually attract but in not all cases. I don't know where your anger is stemming from but you made a pretty general comment so i guess my response is suited.

[AJElectric]

I will also say that the reason you never hear or think about relationships of good couples is that, well they don't have these major problems. There relationship is boring, know-buddy wants to hear about them so people think they don't exist. Or forget about all of the happy couples their are around. So the only ones you think about are the not so happy couples or the ones upset that their not getting the attention over someone who's a piece of shit.

[ThisAndThat]

This question also works in reverse why do women choose buttholes over good men?

[Anonymous]

"I'm single so this question is not about me."

Riiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiight!

Try adjusting your attitude and maybe a guy might show a little interest in you for a change. For now, you come off and VERY unappealing.

[MrGQMag]

They're playing games if they claim to want a woman but run after bitches. If a man really wants that REAL Woman will notice her interest and appreciate her. In other words bitches are the candy before dinner too many and you spoil your meal.

[Bluemax]

Well, men AND women often pursue people they find attractive and ask questions later.

[StickStickity13]

Good girls for good guys. Why do the girls go after the guys who want the sluts and not the guys who want them? You can't help what you like.

[Asker]

My point exactly. People in general are attracted to the opposite of who they are. You rarely see a relationship where both people are genuinely good. One of the people are usually a jerk, cheater, abuser, liar, manipulator, and so on.

[ThatGuy98]

I think you are talking about boys, I don't think most real men would go for what you are describing. And if they are going for the bad girls, they are probably not worth thinking about anyway

[theCatcherintheRye]

nice answer.

[Anonymous]

Yeah I don't know too many guys that like that. What they do like is a confident woman with her own life, not a flea

[Opinion Owner]

You should read the book "why men love bitches," it truly doesn't have to be drama. There's just a lot of people that make poor choices