Why is he ignoring me after I sent him naked pictures?

[Anonymous]

Me and this guy have been talking everyday for the past 3 weeks. We hooked up one weekend but since then we have been pretty busy so we haven't seen each other face to face for awhile. I sent him naked pictures and he liked it the first time. Thee second time i sent them, he said thank you, but is talking to me less and less. Today he didn't text me at all! and he usually has texted me a few times by now. Why has he been so distant now? He genuinely seemed to like me and he promised that he would not show anyone.

[Metlahead]

Sending naked pics is probably not smart. Especially since you only hooked up once. At least if you are going to, do it only for your boyfriend, and make sure you get some in return. If you really don't care then whatever, but I wouldn't trust someone that quickly. I can't say that is why he is ignoring you though. It could be completely unrelated. It just happens sometimes, he could have just lost interest. But I would give it some time.

[bDizzie]

He promised he wouldn't show anyone... that's classic!
I have to agree, he got what he wanted, and you now know he was never a good guy to begin with.
Still, turning him down when he asked you out didn't help things.

[Asker]

i feel used, exposed i never shouldve done it

[bDizzie]

There's no taking it back. Be proud of what you were given!

[Anonymous]

To answer your question, I guess he is ignoring you because he already got what he wants... If he really is into you, you won't feel ignored..
I think you should not send naked pic ever again to avoid hurt, and issue later on.. Doing that shows less self-value and no self-respect especially if he's not your husband or serious boyfriend.. Or in short, never trust anyone and don't depend anyone for your happiness..

[SweetAmara]

Oh dear. Seems like he got what he wanted and now has moved on. Sorry. Sending naked photos is very risk and I hope you realise thar now you've done so you can't take it back. Once they are out there, they're out there for good, and he could share them anywhere every time. Please be careful.

[Tdieseler]

Any one gonna say this... or should I? Im the nice guy, i won't like to say this...

[ClassyClaudia]

Say it

[Tdieseler]

seems like others said it before i could. well here's mine.. -3 weeks... -sent nudes first time -sent nudes again -he promised not to show anyone its only been a few weeks and you are sending (not exchanging) nudes? the fact that he actually brought up not showing it to anyone should have been a red flag in itself. Im not saying sending nudes is bad, its actually very good foreplay, but a few weeks? Now he is distant and you are feeling exposed. Nudes are a precursor to the actual thing, if you weren't gonna shine his knob at some point, there was no need to send any. I do understand your plight @Asker but i can't be sympathetic towards it. you should have asked GaG before you even sent the first nudes. @ClassyClaudia , you think that came out a little mean? i thought the last line did...

[ClassyClaudia]

Lol exactly what I was hoping youd say. Your completely correct. It didn't sound mean. Hopefully she's understanding..

[Tdieseler]

yea... hopefully... i don't care anyways. Im here to tell the truth not to tell people what they want to hear. and i put the same on my profile too. if my opinion ain't good enough, she can always read my motto.

[Asker]

So u think the reason he is distant with me, is because I teased him with those pics and um not giving him any action anytime soon? Ilhe seemed to like them, but the day after, he has been talking to me less and less and I don't know why. I told him he could hang out with me this weekend and he said he would let me know. But today he didn't text me at all. He always would text me around the same time and I got absolutely nothing from him today. Its like once I showed interest he stopped and I feel exposed because I sent him something very personal and he just completely ignores me like this. It hurts me

[Tdieseler]

i understand. just have a little patience... see where it goes.

[Shypider]

dont ever do that again! even if the guy "promises" it doesn't stop people from snooping around in his phone and seeing the pics.. you took a big risk

[Ailuromania]

It's probably because he already got what he wanted from you, sadly. :(

[shadowlegend]

Exactly. No mystery there.

[Runestone]

wait wait wait.. He said thank you? i woulda been like " dayum baby! that's what i like to see" ehh prolly his first time getting them

[Peanut08]

Just proves he's an ass and not worthy of you!

[SatanClaus]

I guess he got what he really wanted

[Cunjikk]

It's simple. You Scream SLUT in a Guys mind and that's exactly how he's going to treat you. In essence it's all your fault sorry. If you have sex and send nudes to a guy early he sees you as a fuck buddy type. You further solidified his thoughts that your a fuck buddy because you declined a date which means your only intrested sexually. If u like him it's time to be more girlfreindly. It means Start setting dates, hug him tell him you likr him. He did his job in asking u for a date and u declined making u at fault now the ball is in your court.

[Anonymous]

Sometimes when society says something is bad (e. g. sending nude pics of yourself to a guy you hooked up with once), society is right. While we are on the subject of what society says is right, be sure to study hard in school, don't do drugs and when you get a job, work hard. Just trust us.

[Anonymous]

You had sex. Things were going well. And then you went over the top sending nudes. He probably though you were too into him too quickly. Probably thought you were crazy.

[Asker]

yeah it was stupid of me. I sent those pics to him for his birthday because i couldnt be there. And now i feel like he has definitely lost interest. Last week, he wanted to take me out on a date but i declined because i wasn't really into him that much at the time. I messed up, didn't i?

[Opinion Owner]

So you turned down a date (did you try making an alternate arrangement, or just outright cancel? outright cancelling makes you seem uninterested), and you sent nudes several times. Your behavior probably seems really inconsistent to him (which probably makes him wary that you might be a "crazy" girl). I don't think you're crazy--but you may have come off that way. You have to be careful how things may look to another person--they don't know you, only know what you show them. So just be more careful with the next guy, make things look consistent.

[Asker]

i turned down the date because i didn't want anything serious at the time. But after we have been talking and he seemed like a genuine, great guy, I've started to like him. Now, since i sent those nude pics, i feel like i have been demoted to fuck buddy or friends with benefits now. What i did what stupid! and i regret it because he is not even my bf.

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah, it sounds like you messed up a bit. But at least you know what you did wrong. Especially turning down the date, that was actually the biggest error. The lesson there is that you shouldn't always write someone off that quickly, and on top of it then change your mind after sending a clear signal of no-interest. A guy is looking for signs of interest from you, and if he doesn't get it, he HAS to move on. A guy may have to approach a hundred girls before he gets a date, much less something serious, and if you aren't interested, it's a big waste of time for him not to move on immediately and start trying to get more dates. Sending the nudes probably just reinforced the idea that you were only about the sex and no relationship.

[Asker]

yeah I don't know what i should do? should i text him saying hey i regret sending those pics to you, im not usually like this? im sorry, like what? how can i fix this? i sent those pictures to him as a bday present. and he seemed to like it but does he now think im sleazy after he has put some thought into it?