Well I don't like to write so I’ll use bullets
-He is obviously Shy / Social Anxiety / Possible depression. (No smile)
-He is attracted to you and has self-esteem issues
-You are attractive and you are probably in the category of females he would like to date but has rejected him in the past.
-He probably has been that way since getting rejected in High School
-He has a fear of rejection and he is not going to talk to you.
-He wants to but he will NEVER work up the never to do it.
-He does not realize this fact though.
-He is just expecting a REALY good opportunity where everything will just "fall into place" where he can hold a conversation with you.
-That’s where the entire door holding etc... comes from.
-He thinks by holding the door for you and being nice towards you will motivate you and get across to you that he likes you and wants to talk to you without ever telling you. It's crazy I know...
-The looking at you thing...(same reason a guy looked at you in grade school like that)
- He probably doesn't think that you notice
- I doubt he is crazy/ really infatuated with you SURE / socially undeveloped O YEAH!
What should you do! (2 options) - I don't know him or you...You pick
Option 1
-Keep doing what you been doing. If he ever works up the nerve to talk to you he knows where to find you. Besides he is a man it's is problem. (PS. prepared to be looked at for the whole semester.)
Option 2
Say HI!
-Hold a conversation see what he is about. I'm pretty sure he won't shoot you down.
-If you do You MUST look for a really good opportunity to be like LOOK We can be friends but I’m not interested in you in that manor, because in his mind that’s where he is heading...And you need to reiterate that on a regular basis. He is going to think that he can change your mind.
-If you guys start to talk on a regular basis in class, as friends, convince him to get some male friends to make him a man.
-If he starts to look to you for support I would make sure you point him in the direction of some guys, a church, or something like that...suggest to him to go to counseling.
-You don't want to be his shrink.
-You could do all this without growing your own personal stalker or coming off as evil.
-Be yourself, upfront, and honest and nobody will get hurt.
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Here's my take. Are you attracted to him? If so why not start the conversation, yes he might be shy and not know what to say but at least you made the effort to say hello and start the conversation. I'm sure that will break the ice. Even if your not attracted to him start with small talk your in college there is a lot of small talk to be had and at least know you can say hi to each other. Obviously you have noticed him looking at you and I'm sure you like the attention because you have noticed him and his body language towards you.
Talking to him isn't going to lead to a relationship and after the ice has broken he might start talking to you and being more causal.
He might not want to talk to you. He just might find you really attractive and enjoys looking at you. I've done it several times myself. I enjoy looking at a very attractive female but have no interest in talking to her or becoming her friend. I just enjoy the view.
He's probably just extremely shy. :/ Some people are so shy that they won't even smile at people they like, let alone talk to them. I honestly don't know what to tell you to do, because initiating conversation with him would probably be just extremely awkward.
Maybe he's looking to a friend that's sitting near you... Most shy guys don't make it that obvious
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1 he likes you. 2 In some way or method your going to get him to talk to you or you going to half to talk to him. This can be done asking about last nights game or some thing that happened on campus. Maybe just thank him for holding the the door for you and go from there. It may take a few more weeks before he decides to talk to you.
Let's face no guy wants to go up to a pretty girl and make an ass of himself .
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