Some people like the attention even if they never plan (or want to act on it).
I don't know, it seems like a lot of people think that flirting outside of the relationship is healthy. People think it can be good for the relationship, even, which seems strange to me.
I am the kind of person that is comfortable and confident I'm relationships, and I'm totally not the super jealous type at all. That said, I don't care for the friendly flirting thing at all. Of course he can be nice and helpful, but deep down he knows whether or not he's doing it to solicit that kind of attention from these girls.
I think you should just tell him what you're comfortable with and what works for you, and make him understand how you feel about it. Maybe the flirting is totally innocent for him, but for you it is not, and that's OK.
I don't know why people think flirting is harmless. It's not the worst thing he could do, there is plenty worse, but it's a betrayal to seek attention in such a manner from other women.
Why does he do it? Because it's good to feel desired.
That's a dangerous thing.
But how do you know he hasn't? Someone who tries to prove to you that they are nice to women then back off usually are hiding something he is trying to make you trust him so that if anything ever did arise you would never believe it because you have witnessed first hand him being flirty and helpful to women but never proceeded to show affection he probably most likely said ohh im sorry om with my gf i was just trying to be helpful im a nice guy!!! Or told you don't be silly its you iam with and proceeded to tell you I was only being helpful because blablabla i have no interest in anyone else. Why would I do that right infront of you im a nice guy that is all
You trust him. That is wonderful. You know he will never cheat on you. BUT he still continues to friendly behavior with other people. That kinda annoys you. I kinda agree with you.
Because there is no friendly flirting. He just wants attention. Attention seeking is bad behavior. This can harm your relationship. What if one day one of the girls he is friendly flirting with , takes it serious?
He needs to understand, if he wants a relationship with you, he should stop that behavior. One girl , one relationship; one flirting. That is it.
Are you flirting with other guys? No. So he should not either.
Everyone flirts every now and then even if they don't realize it. It's wrong espciespecially if you're in a relationship but people still do it. I think it's insecurity issues but talk to your man about what he's doing and get him to understand how you're feeling about. I'm pretty sure he wouldn't want you to do the same thing he's doing
As a female we get hit on all the time, so we always have reassurance that we are desirable to the opposite sex. It's harder for guys, so his flirting just allows him to get the same assurance as we get naturally.
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My two cents.
If it is a serious issue that affects your relationship then communicate that to him.
On the other hand being an overprotective girlfriend is NEVER (healthily) attractive. It comes with balance.
A concern that he will run away will only make it so, because you're almost baiting it to come true.
Try perhaps accepting that he will 'flirt' because he does this with all women. He has chosen you as his main lady. He obviously flirted with you and it worked. But with these other women he knows when to draw the line. Clearly, if he wanted, he could remove the line.
So respect and have faith that he's chosen you. And that these women are not the one he chooses to be with at home.
I think for the same reason girls do it, confidence.. what's a better feeling then knowing you "can get" someone. Don't get me wrong I'm not saying it's right to do it but it happens a lot on both sides. I was lying if I'd say I never did something like that, but I would never ever cheat on someone.
I was with my ex wife 25 years. I never cheated on her. I knew her 1 month before I went into the military. when you get out of the military basic training ANYONE can get laid. I had 6 women (2 were proposing a 3some) literally just ask me if I wanted to get a room. i never did.
but I am a big flirt. It is fun. But I am not a jealous person. I am ok with flirting as long as it is innocent and doesn't go past words. no touching.
It feels good to be liked by the opposite gender, even if you don't want anything sexual from them. It helps people to feel desirable. This is especially true for men, because we rarely get approached, or catch women checking us out as often as women do. Everyone needs to feel desired.
Sometimes I am afriad this is how my girlfriend thinks I do things. I would never cheat on her or do anything of the sort. NEVER. But I tend to, mistakenly, flirt with girls and not even realise it and then when it does hit me I pull back, which is a good thing. I just hope she realises its not my intention
Two options: either A he is doing harmless flirting but he won't cheat or they won't give him the time of day. B thye know he has a gf and they just wanna test his loyalty or they want him.
Both options are very common but from what you have told me being very friendly isn't the only benefactor of flirting. how did he flirt with you when he was trying to date you? what about now? is he different? there are a ton of questions to take into account but i dont think he will cheat.
It's nice to be desired and he is staying loyal probably because he really loves you or he is scared of the consequence. Anyway having someone to like him is like having back up so if things go belly up with you he will not be alone
if he has never cheated on you then why do you care? :-P
I would imagine that its the same reason a girl that's engaged, married, or in a relationship post selfies to her Facebook to entice comments and likes from other men... attention and to be adored by the opposite sex. smh I've never understood it.
only flrt with girls who love to be flrted... and respect and love those girlfriends who take n give respect :)
Probably because he wants to know if he is still good enough for you
he wants to be on top of his game so that you get the best
Since when do loyal men flirt with other women?
Because flirting is harmless and fun.
He isn't loyal. He is a player.
Men are polygamous by nature.
How old is he?
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