Do shy guys tend to avoid their crush or am I delusional?

[peaceforall]

This guy I've been working with has shown signs of interest for a year now. I am crushing on him too. I don't think he's had a gf before because he is really quiet when the topic of relationships comes up and he never ever talks about girls. I have caught him staring at me too many times to count. He always looks away quickly. He did tons of favors for me, always started conversations with me, was awkward and quiet around me but not anybody else. I think he was confused on how I was feeling. Either that or I'm delusional.

I'm shy myself so I unintentionally act like I don't like somebody. I avoid talking to people, I don't smile much, and I'm too nervous to even say hi most times. I can't tell him I like him because we work together and I don't wanna make things more awkward between us or create gossip at work. It would be embarrassing for me if he rejected me and I would be so depressed because this is the first guy I've ever really had feelings for.

Recently though, he's been completely avoiding me and I don't like it. He does not look at me or greet me. He talks to other people at work, but not me. It's like I don't even exist. Once in a great while he will ask me a work related question but the convo ends there. And he is still nice to me and all on the rare occasion that we have verbal contact, but that's hardly ever.

If I so much as look in his direction, it's like he notices and purposely avoids making eye contact with me--kind of seeming annoyed or something. I don't know what's going on and it hurts my feelings actually. I'm too shy to even approach him now to say hi so I avoid him, making the situation worse. What should I do?

[HorrorFan]

Well, you're both obviously shy and neither of you want to do anything about it. However, you're the one making a 4 pararaph question about it on this site. So we know that you at the very least want some sort of resolution.

So, just talk to him. If he's been crushing on you for a year and has yet to make any type of move then you should do it. He probably thinks you have zero interest with how shy you are. Prove him wrong.

[peaceforall]

Yes, only I am always shy. He's just shy around me and nobody else. And you are right, I want a resolution. I want this weirdness to stop. I just don't know if he likes me or I was being delusional this whole time. What are some good ways to start conversation? I know this sounds like a stupid question, but our conversations never get beyond "hi" anymore.. maybe he's mad at me for something I did or said? I don't know why he avoids me now. Should I ask him?

[HorrorFan]

Don't ask him why he avoids you. At least not yet. That's too assuming. Just talk to him about literally anything. Ask him if he did anything fun and exciting this weekend. Just talk to him like you would a friend or a family member. Don't be scared.

I mean, what's the worst that could happen? He continues to avoid you? He's already doing that.

[awkwardshyguy]

yesi think my answer and name clears this up. i can't even look her in the eye. i can't even walk past her eithout turning awkward and its just a damn crush. my power levelis going over 9000 though and im going in deep recently

[Anonymous]

Be forward about it! It'll be hard, but asking him honestly about what's happening would be a good thing. Or maybe ask a friend to do it?

[peaceforall]

Hey thanks for the response. I would, but I also don't want to put him in an uncomfortable position. I mean do I just say hey, what's going on between us? Because I feel like he'd deny everything and make it even more uncomfortable and embarrassing.

[Iron_Man]

Yes they sure do and they like to check there crush out without them knowing

[Anonymous]

Shy boys especially can be unpredictable! I'm going through the exact situation and it's not my cup of tea like. I would love to know why he's behaving that way