He might not have been sure what to do.
The thing is, the second his hand gets thrown in he is officially involved as well. Granted a lot of people wouldn't care, if he did start jumping in, he woulda gotten suspended as well even though he was trying to protect you. Then his family woulda likely associated you with being bad news as well. I'd like to think that he was looking ahead here but I'm sure he was just in a state of panic. The school would have just told him "he should have called security" or something. Schools these days are so "zero tolerance" and you can even see that somehow you're in trouble without even doing anything, he woulda gotten even more trouble I bet just for trying to help you out.
Society in general is training boys to be very weak in a lot of ways here. Boys are getting in "trouble" for everything. So I am not surprised that he did not act.
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My guess is that he didn't really know what to do in that situation.
Did you get suspended for getting beaten up? Wtf?
You were PUNCHED and your bf just stared at you sitting down?
He might have been shocked glued to the chair, but darn.
On a completely different note, once I was going back home in the evening with a friend and a group of girls near the station started to try and take my bag and stuff I had bought. At some point it became a big mess, we were punching each other left and right... Or rather I was by myself because, to my dismay, my "friend" only stared and did some screaming from far away.
She's still my friend and not everyone is required to fight, but that was certainly not the way I was brought up. I lost quite a bit of trust in her, and think it would have been much worse had it been my bf =/
I would stop talking and probably even disown any of my closed friends, family members or a bf if that was me and he/she didn't at least immediately call for help and instead just stood there and did nothing. In that case, they can forget I even exist because that's right there someone you can't even rely on nor trust if something way more serious were to happen.
There was a much worse case that I heard about. It was about a bf that abandoned his gf and mother of his small child right on a theatre during a shooting. Yet, the girl still accepted her so called ''bf's'' proposal afterwards.
He seems embarrassed by what happened. Maybe embarrassed cause he didn't have the guts to defend you or that he'd make a fool out of himself but his your boyfriend for a reason, no matter what he should protect it. And maybe his image is more important than you. Either way, you should make him feel so guilty about it. And explain that he will have to cross the moon for you to forget what happened or even try to break up. And everything will be clear from the reaction you get from him.
God if that was my bf, I would of stopped talking to him and break up. Gosh fine if he is a pussy but after he didn't even console you or made sure to keep in contact to make sure you are ok or try to come over to comfort you. Damn I feel sorry for you :(
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He was obviously really scared. How much bigger was this Chris guy than your bf? Did your BF call on security, if so that is just as good of a thing to do rather than to start more violence. Also, your BF may be very concerned with grades and didn't want the 10 day suspension. He is trying to avoid you now probably because he is embarrassed, or doesn't want to take your shit.
I mean, if this Chris is some huge MMA fighter, I can sympathize with your BF on the not immediatly rushing to your aid part.Sounds like he was just scared. Not sure why he doesn't talk about it though. He should be the one feeling terrible for it and trying to comfort you.
I don't agree with violence but I think it would be fair to step in and break the fight off and calm the guy down, even if I did mean taking some punches himself. Regardless if you couldn't beat the evil guy in a fight you are better taking the hits compared to a girl.
I wouldn't think this means he doesn't love you, but rather he was too scared himself. Either way he has to talk to you about his feelings.Well the "boy" part boyfriend is certainly right when I'm dating a girl the moment someone puts their hands on her in a bad way is the moment I put my fist through their skull. I was raised that when someone puts their hands on you or a women you with then you let them know that it will never happen again.
He was probably in shock, felt like he couldn't compete with the guy or believed you were managing fine. He won't respond to you because he probably feels ashamed or not good enough because he didn't help you. Maybe threatening to leave him will make him talk to you about things, it's immature to ignore your girlfriend, especially after what happened.
I would also get the police involved because what that guy did was out of order and you shouldn't have been suspended.Maybe the other guy is significantly bigger or intimidating. Im pretty sure that since he hurt a female the bully wouldn't have a problem hurting ur bf realy badly. Not excusing his lack of action just explaining the possible psyche behind it. Learn jiu jitsu or pick up boxing... seriously i mean that. You dont need a man to handle physical situations for u. What if he wasn't there?
He let a boy beat you up in front of him, he's a wimp/punk. Let him know you're broken up, bye trick!
He probably got scared and didn't know what to do. But still he's your boyfriend so it is his job to protect you of course. Not just stand there and watch get beat up, I mean who does that? He should've at least defended you at some point.
He didn't protect you cause he's either hates conflict or was scared. After the incident he was embarrassed cause he didn't protect you. No matter what this size, I'm sure he could of least smothered him and stopped him from hitting you.
Who do I have such a hard time believing stories like this?
Your boy is a sissy. I'd punch him in the throat, from experience it's as painful as getting punched except in a worse case scenario he wouldn't be able to breath (knuckles are deadly). I love physical conflict. Learn to defend yourself. :-> ;->
I would break up with your bf because he didn't protect. you and also he is acting like he doesn't care , he shouldve defended you
Maybe he was scared- some people won't fight no matter how much they're pushed. He's probably guilty he didn't do anything, he should be. If it had been me that guy would have been out cold before he got his hands on you.
He stared because he was in shock.
He doesn't communicate with you because he's embarrassed.
If it were me, I'd probably be in juv. Well, he did attract first so, he'd be in the nurse's office.Your boyfriend is a sissy. If a guy did that to my girlfriend right in front of me I'd murder him.
Maybe he didn't know what to do, but it's kind of messed up that he didn't even check on you to see how you are, and isn't answering your calls. I think he's embarrassed at his inaction.
Wtf? Dumb his @$$!!! He can't even protect u from other males
Your boyfriend is scared of conflict that he let some guy beat you up! :(
Yeah I couldn't let a guy just do that to my girlfriend I would have to retaliate in some way or at least intervene, this boyfriend of yours isn't much of a man to just let that happen to you..
Probably scared and didn't want to get involved. You should dump him because that's horrible.
He probably got scared, didn't know what to do, and froze..
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