He cheated on me then bought me a ring?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend of over two years cheated on me four months ago and things have been rocky. For Christmas he bought me a promise ring. He promised to never hurt me like that again. Can a man do that and still cheat or is he really trying to make up for what he did? I have never been in a relationship that I have not been cheated on so I'm confused how to proceed with this relationship. I love him very much but but im still hurt and confused. The ring made things even more confusing.

[blossemmaisie]

He can get you a promise ring but doesn't generally stop him from cheating on you again.

My boyfriend made a promise to me in early 2013 to work on our relationship after it collapsed 3 months earlier (nothing to do with cheating, just someone wanted to break us apart and succeeded). He didn't get me a promise ring but he has still kept to his promise.

I have been cheated on multiple times in the past and because I forgave him for it he carried on doing it even though he told me he wouldn't. It's because he knew I wouldn't leave him no matter how unfaithful I was and everytime I heard he cheated it kills me a little more inside.
From that experience, I would dump him there and then to save myself anymore hurt.

[Anonymous]

He just bought it to make himself feel better because knows he did wrong. He will do it again some day.

You deserve better

[Developer]

Yes, a man can cheat, learn from his mistake and not do it again... is that the case here? I don't know.

[Blondiee2014]

How long were you together? 3-5 years? And he cheated?
Imagine staying with him from now for another 5-10 years? You think you won't have a single doubt he has learned his lesson? The trust is broken i wouldn't stay with him. It's not often someone learns there lesson.
Maybe after 10 - 20 years married etc and one drunken mistake I could possible forgive, maybe.

[TheShadowKnight]

Sounds like a desperate move not to lose you, and that he might cheat again. Some men do that. When nothing else works after they're busted, they use the proposing card.

[Imtheone88]

he's buying you... a cheater and liar won't change... he will do it again and again... is that all your worth? a ring? if thats the case then enjoy your life...

[dpeguero]

he's overcompensating. Also it's part of his nature to cheat. I bet he loves you but he can't help it.

[genericname85]

i can´t tell, because i don´t know him. of course a guy could do it... also i think everybody deserves a second chance, never a third one though. this is my policy on cheating.