Do girls like nice and sensitive guys?

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I'm a virgin and never had a girlfriend. I'm consider myself nice and friendly. I don't talk much, but I'm pretty down to earth and friendly to everyone. I don't have any friends though. I was bullied through school and I cried a lot. I'm such a sensitive person. I care about others people's feelings even when I don't want to. I sometimes almost cry when watching movies. I'm afraid if I love a girl she'll cheat on me or reject me.

cuddlyqueen · Accepted Answer

I can't speak for other girls... as I think my views are abnormal - but I can tell you a bit about my views and life - maybe it will help.

Sorry to hear what you're going through... I'm a 24 year old girl who are very sensitive myself... I was also bullied throughout my childhood. I only really "grew up" about 2 years ago, and then started partying for the first time and now have a large group of friends. But before then I hardly had any friends... I just wanted to be alone with myself... things only started changing when I started seeing a psychologist who helped me to get out of my comfort zone. Things are 80% better - but I still have difficulty when romantic relationships.

I always tend to go for the "sensitive" guys. I'm a very deep person, and need someone in my life who can talk about deep things, and stuff that matters... and the only guys who I seem to get that from are the mentally unstable ones - the ones who don't know who they are and are figuring themselves out. I find vulnerability in a guy extremely handsome - It's like I become a cushion for them and I end up enjoying it - I become a motherly friend for them, that they get attached to - then I get put in the friends zone cause they are scared they will lose me. So I know that I shouldn't be attracted to the sensitive kind - but truth is that I am and I will probably always be. I need someone who are deep themselves, and have experience a couple of hard things in life so that I'm able to connect with them. I had a pretty hard life and needed to grow up before my time.

I'm a 24 year old virgin - not out of choice. I grew up pretty religious - but I'm over that. I want to have sex - but I get the feeling guys are scared that it will be too intimate because they all have close bonds with me. So I kind of bring all of this onto myself.

Message me if you wanna talk.

Lucylou1990 · Accepted Answer

It's great if a guy is considerate and sensitive. Any genuine person will value that. I would say be yourself always. Relationships can be tricky and there is always a risk of getting hurt if you trust somebody else. That's not a reason to avoid them though. Rejection happens to everyone, be it by your crush, or not getting a job you want, so maybe work on your self-confidence first. Even though rejection will still hurt (because we all have an ego) you will bounce back a lot more easily, and it will still hurt but not crush you. Concentrate on you, what makes you the best person you can be (not what other people look for/typically find attractive) and the things you value in a person, the things you want to be good at. That way, when you do meet a girl that likes you, you know its you she is genuinely interested in, not an illusion of what you think people want to see. The guys who are themselves around me are the ones I'm interested in. Concentrate on you, and let anyone that is just out to criticise p*ss off, they are not worth your energy or worry. Best of luck, and there is a girl out there that'll love you for you :-)

JuzAnotherGirl · Accepted Answer

YES definitely YES, girls do like sensitive guys :)
But make sure you don't overdo it. Girls like to be with a strong guy, that way they feel secure :)
Sensitive guys are cute :) They like it when you show your feelings to them :)

Bluemax · Accepted Answer

Women like men who are attractive to them. Don't get me wrong, there's nothing with being a caring and sensitive person, but that alone will not necessarily ATTRACT a woman (though it often does have a certain staying power).

It's great that you care about other people, but what are you doing to make yourself ATTRACTIVE to women (and I mean that physically and mentally)? What are you doing to make your life extraordinary? How often are you putting yourself out there?

I'm afraid rejection is part and parcel with dating, my friend. You're going to have to accept that. I know that different people respond to rejection differently. Some people seem to take it harder than others. I honestly don't know how to help you in that regard, other than to tell you that perhaps with practice you will cultivate a thicker skin in that regard. By the way, I remember hearing a study on NPR about how there is a correlation with bullying and how hard one takes rejection. There's also a correlation between brain anatomy and how hard one takes rejection. So I understand that you take it very hard, my good man, but don't take those feelings out on other people (though you seem caring enough that you probably already know that).

Nomad93 · Accepted Answer

Your probably not as nice as you think you are. I realized I was kind of a dick in away or was being too nice on occasion like kissing ass basically. Don't be a people pleaser it only attracts users just be yourself man. I'm pretty sensitive myself but I look "sketchy", "creepy" apparently which is great to hear what the fuck eh? Its probably because I do whatever I feel is right, wear thuggish clothes sometimes and don't smile that often which is bad. I started dressing better think dress to impress and started smiling more and talking to as many people as I can especially women. After all I don't want to take any guys home so I need to talk to more women I don't give a single fuck what the guys are doing after work lol Start going to the gym it helped with my confidence that's for sure. I was bullied growing up to get over it! What is in the past is in the past just forget about the past and live in the present. Your future isn't in the past its today and tomorrow. Women are complicated as fuck man like I know so much yet I still can't pick up at this point. Talk and photos is as good as it gets for me at the moment

Account · Answer

Define nice. Sensitive, yes. I can't have it any other way.

MrMister34 · Answer

Well let me tell you this. What people don't realize is you need a mixture of sensitivity and toughness, not just be a complete douche-bag or a complete wuss-bag. There is a sweet spot you need to hit in order to be "perfect". Guys will tell you you need to be tough and strong, while girls will tell you you need to be softer and more sensitive. In truth, it all depends on the girl. Some girls will fall for more sensitive and softer guys while some girls may want a stronger and tougher guy. Form a mixture of both and adjust accordingly to the girl you're dating. Act nice and sensitive towards her feelings, but decisive and firm when pushed into situations requiring someone to step up. Don't listen to people who tell you you need to be completely masculine or completely feminine, it helps to be a little of both. Again, it just depends on the girl and what she prefers in a guy. A girl can be indecisive, and that's when she wants you to be more of "the man" and chose for her. Or a girl can be more firm and independent. All the variables you need to take into consideration are there in front of you. So form a mixture of both, though a little toughening up won't hurt from what I've read of you.

GreenTiger · Answer

Hmm, you're not the sexy stereotype that is a sensitive guy, sorry. You sound like a total wuss. It's the truth, and don't let the downvotes on this post cheer you up because I'll tell you why. Women like to have fun, and there's really no fun with a guy who doesn't talk, have no friends, and cries here and there. You sound like a pain to deal with, and I can totally see why you're still a virgin.

I'm not trying to be conceited, but I'm apparently a sensitive guy myself. I can be super fun, and very caring of a girl's feelings. When I do one night stands for example, I hold a girl's hands and attend to her feelings and get her a cab if need be. I play with my cat. I look at a girl straight at her eye, playfully smile, and talk slowly at the appropriate time. While I am not too aggressive, I'm confident, which is what you lack. No matter the type of guy who become, you need a thick basis of confidence.

The last thing you need to be doing is feeling the need to get validation and feeling sorry for yourself. Man up.

EvayneLM · Answer

It really depends on the girl, but usually, most ladies are going to love a sensitive guy. It's a balance of human necessity, I believe, and it's not really a gender issue; be strengthened by the ones you care for and strengthen your loved ones in turn.

For some, there could be a call for "masculinity" in this sense, and whether or not a sensitive man has it; but masculinity is a term that can only be defined by an individual person. After all, my definition of the word may be different from yours. That does not make either of us wrong or right; just a difference of opinion. I personally find that a man that is sensitive IS masculine.

As for friends, don't sweat it. Make friends by looking for kind people with your same interests. As for potential partners, you should wait until you have a little more confidence in yourself; work on making yourself the best YOU, you want to be. And never, EVER, enter a relationship where you think a partner will cheat; it isn't healthy for either side.

Sorry if I rambled too much!

Anonymous · Answer

I love a sensitive guy, within reason. If sensitive means defying gender stereotypes in a modern age sense where we aren't stifled by old-school gender stereotypes of macho men and dainty women, and he can communicate his emotions maturely and isn't afraid to let me into his mind and share his hopes, pain, etc. so we can be better connected instead of just two people together... then I LOVE sensitive GOOD guys.

However, I find that guys who identify as "nice guys" often aren't that nice and come with a lot of issues.

On the other hand, if sensitive means overly sensitive to things I say or my sometimes sharp words or jokes, I can't be myself around him without him being offended (meaning, our beliefs and opinions and personalities aren't compatible) or he cries way too much (I don't cry all the time either, but sometimes is fine), then no, I don't like those guys. Or those girls, for that matter.

I like someone with a good balance of emotional maturity and openness, thoughtfulness, caring, and nurturing our relationship along with excellent capacity for logical thought and intelligent conversation, the ability to form an opinion and have discussions without excessively emotional bias in those opinions or at least recognition of when emotional bias is present. Basically, I like a sweet, thoughtful, emotionally mature and emotionally balanced, intellectual guy. Not always easy to find, I'll say that.

Okeeffeflower · Answer

I don't naturally gravitate toward sensitive guys. However, they are superior in bed. So, sensitivity is a trait I've been looking for lately. Just don't be pathetic. There's a difference between being sensitive and being pathetic. Try to grow from your painful experiences. I used to be fat and I was bullied a shit ton. Now that I'm not, you know, completely fat, I've trained myself to become confident. Confidence is sexy. And if you don't feel confident, fake it until you do. Remember to smile. Cheers.

blunttalker · Answer

I like strong guys, emotionally strong guys who don't act like victims, who do what they gotta do without complaining or whining about it, who don't take life too seriously, or take things too personally, who think they're awesome. And who aren't afraid of showing their feelings and weaknesses like u. Relationships aren't easy. But don't be boring, be daring, when u love someone, the feeling is the greatest thing in the whole world, but everything in life has a shitty side, u could get hurt or u could hurt someone, but dont be a pussy, u were born for it, pain strengthens the weak ones and the strong ones

alexia1101 · Answer

The guy I lost my virginity to was a virgin - nice, and sensitive. Everyone thought he was gay, so I asked him. He said he wasn't though a lot of people thought he was, and then I asked him to be my boyfriend.

He cried to the notebook with me :P.. and about other personal things. He was the person who taught me how to love, and made me feel like I deserved to be. Keep you're head up, any girl would be lucky to have you - just don't lose yourself in someone else and dont let anyone, even your girlfriend cross your boundaries and you will be fine!

SUBZEROHERO · Answer

To a certain extent man , females want someone to make them feel safe, secure, and protected. If you are to nice and she knows she can run all over you , she will do just that and when she gets tired throw you away like a toy. The fact that you are still a Virgin still some what has to do with your sensitivity as well.
You have to be a little stern and sometimes a tad bit of a dick head to females in my personal observation. You can't stop someone from cheating on you and you can't control anyone but yourself. A female is going to do whatever she wants to do?

So find the fine line and try being a little stern, a bit of a dick at times and it'll start helping you out in the long run.

thatcomplicatedgirl · Answer

I do like sensitive guys. But the fear that you hold against girls is definitely dangerous. Even if I would try to show a guy that I am worth his time, but if he is so afraid then he would definitely push me away. I don't mind spending my time on such type of guy but my experience says that I will get hurt in the end because when guys are hurt too much they stop trusting people, and it takes lots of time for them to open up again but if they are stubborn, then they prefer to push the girl away to save themselves.

Maerinaekaeri · Answer

I'm a girl and i'll be the first to tell you yes , a lot of girls do however there are some who dont. I can relate to how you feel about dating. I had a few years where i had no freinds and i too was bullied throughout school as well as beaten. i hide my sensitivity from everyone becuase i don't want to be beaten ever again however i think my good friends know how i really am although usualy i act really tough. i think that you should give the girl a chance. yes at somepoint someone will probably cheat or reject you however when that happens you have to move on after you've recovered and are ready to move on. although you'll probably have a couple bad relationships eventually you'll find the right girl to be with who won't be mean to you and love you for who you are. the only thing i think you should do is try to open up a bit and make a freind or 2 , freinds are great and they'll be there for you when you'r down. :D

paradiseliving · Answer

It's okay to be sensitive. But you have to be tough sometimes. Tough for yourself. Being a sensitive person myself, I get what you're feeling, and it's normal. But being sensitive isn't always great. You have to be tough when you need to be, so you can dodge getting hurt. Accept the fact that not everyone is going to like you, and thats okay. I heard someone say this: a person might see a diamond while another person might see a rock. It doesn't mean that person has any less value, it just means you're not someone's type. That's all. And just because you love someone, it doesn't mean they're bound to cheat. There are all types of people in this world, and I know for certain there are girls out there who are willing to be loyal. Hope this helped!

Insert_username__ · Answer

, Many, many girls LOVE sensitive guys. However, if you're very very very shy or nervous talking to a girl, she may be afraid you dont like her! Also, still being a virgin at your age isn't some terrible horrible thing! It might feel like it, but trust me its not! I know many great catches your age who haven't even had their forst kiss at your age! Furthermore, I realize people have different opinions a sex... however, there are some people who choose to be in your position, waitong for a parter which they can have a more emotional experience with the first time they do it. Don't feel so down on yourself, man! :) Put it all in perspective! It also sounds kind of like you have low self esteem/respect... i could easily be wrong, but if that's true then you shouldn't really be in a relationship anyways. You need to love youself before someone can love you! Side note: there may also be a girl in your same position, crushing on YOU! Have a wonderful day, my friend :)

sannyjayy22 · Answer

There is absolutely nothing wrong with being a sensitve person, eventually you'll find soemone who finds you to be everything they ever wanted, but you'll never find her if you hide behind rejection, being rejected is a completely normal part of dating, sometimes you win and sometimes you lose, you just have to remember that not everyone will think your attractive just as you don't find everyone else attractive, you just have to be brave and do what you have to do, and cheating is also something that happens to a lot of us, myself included, if it happened to you then you could move on or give it one more chance, sometimes that's all someone needs. Feelings are hard to handle, I know. But you only have this one life to be all you can be so why not be free?

carias1541 · Answer

Yes, women do like nice sensitive guys. You just have to be very careful who you open up to. There will be evil women who will try to take advantage of that sensitivity and kindness. You have to make sure that you really get to know the person before you trust them with your heart. Your gut feeling will let you know if there is something wrong right off the bat. You must also kick this fear to the curve. The more fear you have the more you will attract those bad things. Take it from someone who has been cheated on countless of times and has been lied to. NEVER GIVE UP. There is someone out there for you. Unfortunately, we must go through these terrible experiences to learn from them. Some of these experiences will lead you to want to give up on love. Someone will know your worth and will treat you exactly like you deserve to be treated. Don't be afraid to fail. Failure gets us closer to winning. GOOD LUCK!

PiuBelloAmante · Answer

Well you got some work to do my friend
On yourself, you gotta toughen up its a dog eat, dog world my friend
Girls like sensitive guys alright but nothing more, they will acknowledge that you are nice and sweet but you will never be what they want
Grow strong bro, turn your sensitivity to strength, its ok to be sensitive but to cry over a women who rejected you?
And you already lay yourself out there so your vulnerability is right in the open!
You started the description to your question with "I'm a virgin and never had a girlfriend" tell any girl this and your screwed, and not in the good way

You gotta gain confidence and focus on yourself, and your ability to be social in any situation, the women will come after, or during
Also i will recommend you a book
"Fire in The Belly" by Sam Keen
This book helped me gain a lot of perspective

ChristFollower4life · Answer

Wow you're like me :)
I'm very sensitive and introverted, but am not mean or hostile towards anyone by any means.
As a sensitive person, I believe I need someone like myself. Who is gentle. I am afraid of being yelled at and if I had a significant other, I'd be afraid that they would find someone more adventureous and outgoing than me.
I cry very easily, and it is not accepted by a lot of people. :/
To me, it is attractive that you are a virgin. It shows that you are "not used" :) So if you do, please don't think poorly of yourself for that.
So I say this:
Sensitive girls like sensitive guys. :)

asianchic · Answer

Of course nice and sensitive are appealing traits. You seem like a good hearted kid. No girl that I know at least wants to date a guy who is a stoic rock!

I do think you should work on yourself and make some friends before getting a girlfriend like another user suggested. Make yourself dateable. Ask yourself, "would someone date me"?

You really need to like yourself and be happy with who you are before you can enter a happy relationship.

And don't take rejection badly. You put yourself out there! That's so awesome. Many people are too afraid to do that.

Go out there and be great!

Corsair427 · Answer

Get used to getting hurt by girls, you are like me, Im just a sentimental fool when it comes to girls, I listen to all the sappy love songs from the 50s and believe in romancing. But be damn sure i would die for the girl that said she loved me back. Any girl by my side is as good as safe. Im a successful commercial pilot, intelligent, romantic and a natural leader. I dated a girl who told me all the other girls were foolish for letting a guy like me go. She told me she NEVER had a dating experience like me and that she liked me more and more each time. After 5 dates she turned around and said she didn't know what a good guy was and didn't know how to be in a loving relationship. She ran away and destroyed me. She basically said i was too good for her. THATS what girls think of good guys.

unicornsandglitter · Answer

To be honest I'm not one for a sensitive guy. I want a guy who is caring and will let me know how feels and show his emotions in front of me. However, I don't like an emotional guy who is dependent on me every single minute of his life. I like a guy who is confident in who he is and enough of a man to attend to his own feelings. I can't handle a guy who cries quite a lot and who feels self pitty, that's no fun to be around. If I was you I'd start working on yourself before considering a girlfriend

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