Guys why do u stare?

[Anonymous]

Why do u stare?

My recent experience. I was eating at a food place with friends and this guy started looking at me. I didn't noticed til my friend told me and said he hadn't taken his eyes off me since he sat down. I looked up twice and both times he looked away quickly. I looked up again and he looked in my direction but his eyes were fixed like he was day dreaming looking right at the window. I walked past him to get some napkins and from the corner of eye I saw his eyes follow me.

While I was eating he was staring with a serious face. I could hear him talking with family and having a good time but why was he staring at me with a serious look and looked away?

I pretended not to notice him.

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+1 y

Im not attractive!

[dipta]

There's this old guy I work with (but fortunately rarely cross paths with) who eats across from me at the cafeteria. Every day he will be staring right into my eyes fiercely while I'm eating and talking to me friends at the table. When he passes by me he does the same. I can only take it as he's mesmerizes by my looks, haha.
But he's old and married, so I'm sure he doesn't mean anything. Maybe the same for that guy, he just finds it hard not to look at you. Creepy? Yeah... But hopefully harmless.

[Asker]

This guy seemed decent and harmless

[Anonymous]

Hon I think you mean you think you don't have symmetry, asymmetry is a lack thereof, but it sounder more you have a distorted view of yourself. I'm sure you are cute and he thought so too.

[Asker]

Sorry i have horrible spelling thanks. I don't see how I've been called ugly so many times its unbelievable.

[Opinion Owner]

Called ugly by who? I would not count mean girls or older siblings or the alpha dog males at school.

[Asker]

Yes, yes, yes, mom, adult, children
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But people who met me family say I'm really pretty i think their lying.

[Opinion Owner]

I don't think they are lying that you are pretty. I think you may want to find a strong and trusted person to talk to.

[ElSoukkary]

he found u attractive like what sexualchrist said. and he is shy to go up to u and say hi. so what does he do just fuckin stare at u thinking about what is his next move should i approach or just sit their and move on. so it becomes this creepy BS and he doesn't know that.

other thing is maybe he is a Rapist or some sort of a criminal, i don't think thats an option tho.

Happy Holidays PEACE

[Asker]

No he looked luke a decent guy.

What if he found me ugly? Would u stare at a girl u found ugly? I wasn't wearing makeup or anything revealing. My scarf was covering my top area

[ElSoukkary]

nope u r not ugly. if he found u ugly he would stare for a sec or two and just talk about u with his friends, he won't stare for long. by the way natural looks best on girls, try to do it more often and u will see guys will like that. not makeup (only for special occasions)

[Asker]

Unattractive girls like me need makeup and he's to cute to see beuty in me

[ElSoukkary]

WTF do girls say that they are ugly. like really u don't need to have a big ass or big boobs or something like that or like a pretty face. even if u have all that u still call ur self ugly. I SWEAR TO GOD U R BEAUTIFUL even though i didn't see u but i am sure. all the girls are. don't make urself feel down by these words take it from me

[Asker]

Thanks but its hard to believe when I've been called ugly a lot. This guy just seemed to cute.

[ElSoukkary]

IGNORE THE PEOPLE THAT CALL U UGLY, NO ONE IS UGLY BUT THEM. KEEP THIS IN UR MIND. ;)

[Asker]

Thnx for ur help. I wish i could see that in the mirror and realise he might a thought i was pretty

[ElSoukkary]

u should really stop saying negative shit about u. if u don't think ur cute and hot, people have proven to u the opposite. at least that guy thinks the opposite. by the way some guys don't care about how u look like. they like u as u are. ONE MORE THING I WAS WITH THE GUY. but in the background. u didn't see me. i realized that this was u later on today.

[Asker]

Haha thanks no u weren't didn't see u there
Its just that I've been called ugly so much and no one is attracted to me so its hard to not think I'm ugly that's y

[ElSoukkary]

u weren't looking at my general direction. always believe in urself

[Asker]

LOLz Thanx! I will have a positive attitude from now on I'll remember all of the kind words u and other Gagers said. (:

[notcreativethough]

He definitely didn't think you're ugly, that's attraction.

[Asker]

But I know I'm not pretty. I have no facial asymmetry and he was really cute.

Would u stare at a girl u thought was ugly or because she is just sitting right in front and thats the view?

[notcreativethough]

I actually avert my eyes from ugly people, I only stare if they're attractive or there's something attention grabbing about them like being 7ft tall.

People also tend to be pretty harsh on their own appearances, and different people find different things attractive. It is possible for him to have been attracted to you.

[Asker]

Ok so u believe that was the real reason for his staring throughout the whole meal? I can be hard on myself sometimes I feel pretty but usually ugly.

[notcreativethough]

Yeah, I do. I actually just got back from a cafe and the only girls I glanced at more than once on purpose were the ones I found attractive. Sometimes I think I'm ugly as well, but then beautiful girls stare and compliment me, so I know either those girls have a specific taste or I'm not ugly, either way I'm too harsh on myself and I think you are too.

[Asker]

Tru tru thank u for ur help I'll try to keep in in mind

[Anonymous]

Usually a guy will do this if their attracted to you, trying to assess you, and trying to determine how to approach you in their mind. A lot of times they puss out before they actually act, which results in you being like "why the fuck was he looking at me?"

[Asker]

Is this why he would look away quickly or he found me ugly?

[Opinion Owner]

No he wouldn't look away quickly if he found you ugly, he'd give you a stink face. He thought you were hot, can almost guarantee it. Guys do this when they are attracted to a girl but don't know how to proceed forward. It usually results in a creepy blank stare that leaves you confused and us feeling like creeps, but the truth is we're visual creatures, you catch our eye and we end up staring and get embarrassed when you catch us.

[JustinX9]

@Asker its not he found you ugly... a guy won't stare at a girl the guy found the girl ugly... he did that because he doesn't want to be creep or something that turns you off

[Opinion Owner]

@JustinX9 Pretty much

[Asker]

I as not pretty Im ugly with no asymmetry and this guy was very attractive. Y would be look at me unless it was because we were sitting right in front of each other and that was his view?

[Opinion Owner]

I have never sat and stared blankly at a girl who I was like "Oh my god. What happened to her face?" There is the possibility that you reminded him of someone he knew. But we don't stare without analyzing some aspect of the person we are staring at, so if I had to bet, I would say he was attracted to you.

[Asker]

I find that hard to believe this guy was to cute for me. He looked shy but very cute and i think im not up to his good looks that's why?

[Opinion Owner]

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. His actions line up with that of a guy who was attracted to you. Give yourself a little credit and notch this one up on your confidence belt. He thought you were hot. I see no harm in thinking that. Missed opportunity, oh well.

[Asker]

The only reason I don't want to think that is I want to be realistic. Thank u for helping me. Beauty is different for all agree.

[Roycaryn]

My knee jerk reaction is that he likes staring at you plain and simple, especially if he's got a sort of day-dreamy look about his face.

[Asker]

Y would be like doing that?

[Roycaryn]

Because he's attracted to you?

[Asker]

Ok thanks for ur help

[Error_204]

Because you've done something so retarded I can't help but triple take. Otherwise I don't notice you.

[Asker]

Thnx LOLz!

[kangy]

u dont triple take even if the girl is attractive?:/

[Error_204]

No. :/

[UnknownXYZ]

He's staring at you because he was curious about how such an ugly girl would even show her face in such a public place. He's staring at you with digust.

[Simonitro]

Maybe he found something special in you and couldn't stop staring. He's either found something attractive, interesting, or likable in you.

[Asker]

If he didn't like what he saw would he look away and u would do the same?

[Ihav2fart]

Cause...
Staring from the front:
You have a gorgeous face.
or
Bewbs

From the Back:
Baby got BACK!

From the side:
TNA!

[Asker]

We were facing each other sitting across from one another our tables were next to each other. I don't have a gorgeous face and was wearing no makeup. Hee might have thought i was ugly and starred the whole time?

[Ihav2fart]

Na if we see ugly, we see and look awake. Why in the world would we stare at ugly?

[Asker]

May be because u thought she was too ugly or because thats the view you have in front of u so u watch her eat?

[Ihav2fart]

Na I don't stare at uglies... hidious people sure, they're interesting. Not uglies though.

[Asker]

Ok assuming Im to ugly for the cute guy ill go with hideous

[Ihav2fart]

lol you're hopeless...

[DocEvol]

Maybe you looked like someone he knew or someone you have the striking resemblance too , 8P

[Asker]

Thats true but is that a reason to stare throughout whole meal?

[DocEvol]

Maybe he wanted you to acknowledge his stare so he could be like " oh hey whoa didn't even see you there " lol or just your classic creeper

[Asker]

Ya true and no he looked decent

[JustinX9]

damn i'm really like a lot from this guy you mentioned lol... i stare or take glances to the girl i'm attracted to

[Asker]

Do u do this to girls u find unattractive?

[JustinX9]

definitely no

[Chris011]

Honestly, I glance at girls I am into. If you catch me taking multiple glances then odds are I am into you (for the most part).

[Your_boss]

Maybe he was curios
Or maybe he was attracted to you

[chrisbigman]

He finds you attractive, and has your attention - but you don't know it or realize it.

[Asker]

I didn't realize it until my friend told me

[Anonymous]

because it's rude to complement a girl on her boobs/bum. also taking random pic's is a no.

[Asker]

My boobs were visible I had a scarf on and covered everything.

[Opinion Owner]

that's just strange. maybe you have a cute/pretty face? I know for me in winter I don't look at girls (who are outside) nearly as much.

[Asker]

My face isn't pretty that's why im who confused

[Opinion Owner]

are you sure that's not just low self-esteam talking?
maybe they like your fashion?

[Asker]

I've been called ugly by others and very few people call me pretty.
Ya I never thought of that but its odd that some guy would look at fashion

[AMIR111]

lol stare at him back XD but give more fierce looking in your eyes

[Asker]

I looked back a few times and I saw him looking away and when I caught him he looked away quickly

[AMIR111]

that's mean he is normal... but he kept staring it mean that he want to eat u :P

[Asker]

LOLz he might thought i was to ugly also he kept staring

[AMIR111]

Nope... it means that he really like u, try to chat with him sometime so that u dont feel awkward when he stare u :)

[Asker]

thanks but I dnt know him he was just there some stranger who was cute and look decent guy thats why I was so confused

[AMIR111]

i think staring is one of the way to show that he want to be friend with u, but if u ignore him it is your choice and i understand that :)

[Asker]

I wasn't ignoring him just was confused AMD shy as to y he kept staring. I would a spoke if he had come over he looked decent

[AMIR111]

just not let the confusion consume you too long :)

[Asker]

LOLz I won't thanks for ur help! (:

[AMIR111]

U are welcome anytime :)

[SebastianKabel]

Maybe you just looked familiar, and he was trying to figure out why.

[Asker]

That's tru but that longs seems to much

[Littlett25]

Maybe you had something on your face...

[ElSoukkary]

but even tho, he wouldn't stare for a long time. he would probably laugh and look and thats it not stare. wanna hang out!

[Littlett25]

Lol I wasn't serious anyways. She's probably just really attractive. @ElSoukkary

[ElSoukkary]

DAMN THAT SEXY i didn't know how to tag people thanks tho. and from ur sentence it didn't seem like u were joking LOL :) u didn't answer my second question tho?

[Littlett25]

I just like to post things like that sometimes to see people's reactions and I'm actually going to bed soon @ElSoukkary

[Asker]

No im not really attractive facial asymmetry is beuty and i don't have that

[ElSoukkary]

still its not related. i will take it as a yes then. really no guy cares about facial symmetry if he thinks u r cute then thats all

[Donimyc]

Attraction or there was something on you

[Asker]

There was nothing on me LOLz

[Sexualchrist]

He probably found you very attractive.

[Asker]

What if he was staring the whole time because he found me ugly? I was not wearing anything revealing and was wearing no makeup

[RaCeRKiD5]

stop overthinking. We dont stare at people often if their ugly lol.

[Sexualchrist]

That is a possibility but you're only between 18 and 24 years old, I mean how ugly could you be? Makeup or not.

Sometimes I find myself staring at someone when I'm neither here nor there over whether they're hot or not and I'm trying to figure it out.

It also could be that he thought he knew you and was trying to jog his memory.

From how you described his behaviour, I think he was mesmerized by you.

[Asker]

Mesmerized as in he thought i was pretty our different our ugly?

[Sexualchrist]

Hard to say without really knowing what you actually look like.

[Asker]

True thank u for ur help

[cdnSpartan]

You have ketchup on your face. Mmm ketchup.

[Asker]

Didn't have ketchup LOLz

[lumos]

There's something on your face.

[Anonymous]

I have the exactly same question as you!