My boyfriend told me that he has been to prostitutes a few times before he met me. Of course it was hard at first but then I came to the conclusion that it was in his past. At the time he was married (so he actually cheated on his wife) and going through a very difficult phase (wanted to get divorced, felt responsible for wife, etc.). Maybe your boyfriend was going through a hard time as well.
I've been with my boyfriend for 1.5 years now and I have to say that I don't feel threatened or scared at all. We did talk about it a lot initially. He told me pretty much in the beginning so I could ask all questions I had. Your boyfriend didn't tell you but yet I think you should approach it somehow (that means admitting that you snooped around) so that you can have a conversation about it and put your mind at ease. It is in his past, he might have had reasons for doing what he did. But you shouldn't let paranoia take over you. I honestly see no other way than you admitting that you snooped around since you don't want to create lies and chances are he isn't going to tell you if you just ask randomly, and then you would feel even more paranoid.
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In a relationship there has to be trust the main question here is do you trust him i know your worried but thats in his past and you have to trust that he won't do it again but if your really worried you can sit him down and just ask him about it but i say you shouldn't worry about it and just see what happens i mean if he really cares about you and loves you he won't do it again but just try to wait awhile to ask him but be in person when you ask.
Just trust him. He could hire a prostitute, or he could cheat on you with another girl (which is probably more likely than hiring a prostitute), or he could be a loyal boyfriend. These worries are kind of a given, especially in long distance relationships, but you need to trust him. Don't let your own insecurity get in the way of your relationship.
So you're not really bothered that he's hired an escort, you're just worried he might cheat on you with one?
While it is possible, I don't think it's any more likely than him trying to cheat on you with another girl or hook up with someone at a bar or something. If you trust him not to cheat on you like that, then I think you should trust him not to hire an escort.
If you don't want to directly ask him about it I guess you could try casually asking him (maybe wait a while first so he doesn't make the connection with you using his phone) what he thinks of prostitution, after he gives an opinion you could try saying "You'd never do that though would you" or something like that - see if he mentions it, or claims that hasn't seen one. Depending on his response you could then ask your further questions, and hopefully he wouldn't guess you'd seen the contact on his phone.
Was he single when he hired this escort?
Look I am not a fan of casual sex, I think it's immoral for men to use prostitutes and escorts but is it any worse him hiring an escort than picking up random girls at night clubs and having sex with them?
If he has given you no other reason to worry about his faithfulness to you then let it slide, he may or may not commit an act or acts of infidelity only time will tell but if you confront him about this then you could create all manner of problems for your relationship.
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I don't see how the fear of him seeing escorts is any different than the fear of him going out and finding another girl.
Those insecurities are a factor in LDR's, so you have to learn to live with them.that was BEFORE.
so there's no point arguing about itYou worry over nothing, because of your snooping.
If you hadn't snooped, you wouldn't worry.
Or would you?
It sounds like you basically don't trust him, period.
In which case, you have no relationship.Look and you shall find.
I never snoop on my guy, and he knows better than to snoop on me.
Yesterday is just that, yesterday.Ouch. You should get a std check up asap. confront him later..
And break up.None of your business.
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